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Marta Isabella Sierra, LMHC, one of our favourite adoptee therapists is back on the podcast today! We are talking about estrangement through the lens of the Internal Family Systems therapy model. Marta teaches us how to listen to our parts' needs and prioritize the safety of our own identity above preserving relationships. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Marta Isabella Sierra, LMHC: martasier...

I'm thrilled Shannon Gibney, writer and activist is here! Shannon shares some of her personal story and how she's observed adoptee voices reaching critical mass over the last fifteen years. Since her first novel, See No Color, was released 6 years ago, she's heard from many younger adoptees who've felt seen and validated by reading her words. Shannon recounts how her experience of grief in motherh...

Ferera Swan is here to share her experiences of reunion and secondary rejection with us. We talk about the impact other members of the extended family can have on our reunions, and Ferera tells us about the meaning behind her name and what her producer encouraged to include in her song "Second Time". Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Ferera Swan: www.fereraswan.com | Instagram | SoundCloud | Yo...

Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker is with us today and she is teaching us about internalized oppression. She tells us why she finds the term "coming out of the fog" somewhat problematic. If you've ever found yourself self-sabotaging, Dr. Wirta-Leiker explains this could actually be a form of self-protection. She leads us with the adoptee-first lens, keeping our mental health and well-being the top priority...

I get to interview some incredibly special people on the show, and today is a perfect example. I am thrilled to introduce you to Miguel Caballero. Miguel shares some of his story with us including how he got sober eight years ago. There are so many adopted people who struggle with addiction, and Miguel describes feeling that he had a birth-mother-shaped hole to fill. He's gone on to fill a great n...

I am honoured to be able to bring you part two of Justin's story today. Justin shares about a desire to add back his original surname and here in part two we'll see the fallout. We speculate on what about our experiences as adopted people lets us accept poor treatment that we would never allow towards those we love. Ultimately a world-shifting event in Justin's immediate family brings clarity to h...

I am honoured to be able to bring you Justin's story today (this is part one, and we'll be back next week with part two). Justin was labelled "difficult to adopt" because he is bi-racial. He tells us that he never had an interest in finding his biological family until he attended a very interesting week-long therapeutic workshop. Justin shares about a desire to add back his original surname and in...

Part two! We are back with more VERY real talk with Pam Cordano, MFT about estrangement from our adoptive parents. Pam teaches us how important it is for us to get clarity on what is actually possible in our relationships. We also address if they won't change, it's up to us - so what are we willing to change? Our amount of engagement in the relationship? The strength of our boundaries? Which 'circ...

Pam Cordano, MFT returns to guide us through some thoughts on estrangement. Why does it ever get to the point that we'd consider going no-contact with our adoptive parents? Are adoptees just "too sensitive" and take everything personally? Even through challenging topics such as this one, Pam leads us with thoughtfulness, compassion, and helps us discover what's most important. Full Show Notes Here...

Dr. Susan Branco is with us today and she is a force for good in our community. She shares an overview of her story and we get a chance to deeply focus on topics that she's done an incredible amount of work and research on. Her research includes how counselors of colour deal with client microaggressions and ensuring adoption themes make their way into the core curriculum for future social workers...

Alice Stephens, the author of Famous Adopted People, joins us today! I was honoured to hear her describe her childhood which included years in Botswana, and she even shares a bit about her search in Korea for biological family. Of course, we talk about writing, publishing, and her book reviews; if you ever need a book recommendation for an adoptee-centric look at adoption, Alice is an expert. Full...

Today I get to introduce you to Leigh Bailey. This is the second episode of our estrangement series. Leigh shares about her reunion and how it started to be about her adoptive family's experience instead of her own. We talk about how trying to put up safe boundaries can be exhausting, and how do you even decide if estrangement is called for in the situation: spoiler alert - we can't tell you what'...

We are starting a short series on the topic of estrangement. This series isn't meant to be a how-to undo estrangement or a "break up with your family" guide, it's once again brought to you in the spirit of hoping to let you know you aren't alone. I see you, and I acknowledge how hard and lonely this can be. Today we're going to hear from Kirsten Weatherford about how a memorable trip - a pilgrimag...

We're back! For the first episode of 2021, we are talking adoptees in comics! Emily N. Bartz shares her personal story of being adopted from the Philippines, and then why she spent her childhood going back and forth between the US and her country of origin. We have a fascinating discussion about adoptees in comics, including a focus on her article about "Loki: I Can Turn into anything as long as i...

The holiday season is here and that means we get to ask one of our favourite adoptee therapists, Lesli A. Johnson, MFT, your questions! We can be juggling multiple families, boundary issues, estrangement and loneliness, not to mention the global pandemic. Lesli and Haley talk through some challenging situations and try to help you figure out what YOU want out of this season. Full Show Notes Here S...

Before I recorded this show, my guest shared her notes with me and I asked, "are you SURE you want to share this publicly on my podcast? It's a goldmine of information about DNA!" Janet Weinreich-Keall is back, and when you hear her story, you'll know why she's a pro at searching. She walks us through how we should prepare to search, and then we dive into what DNA testing looks like, and how far t...

Today we're giving you a little peek behind the curtain! Haley and Carrie chat all about what they've learned from reading a ton of adoptee-authored books in 2020. We're announcing our book club plans for 2021 and would love to have you join us. We're in the last few days of our sale for Patreon memberships! Sign up for one year and get a month free! http://www.adopteeson.com/partner Our sale ends...

Have you ever wondered what being welcomed into your original extended family would feel like? Today Maeve Kelly is back and she shares her experiences of a whirlwind trip to Ireland to meet more cousins and aunts and uncles than you can imagine. After a rejection from her first mother, to be embraced by a cousin was transformative. Two weeks left in the sale for Patreon memberships! Sign up for o...

Pam Cordano, MFT and I discuss anger. What is it and why are so many adoptees accused of being "angry adoptees"? We discuss the reasons we have for legitimately being angry. Pamela teaches us about different types of anger and gives us some practical exercises to work on. I find out I've been engaging in Spiritual Bypass, and why that is so toxic. Anger is a powerful emotion, let's harness it to m...

Today I'm honoured to introduce you to Bernie, a late discovery adoptee who has been working the past two years to learn about birth trauma and adoption trauma. Bernie and I talk about how he confirmed he was adopted, what patterns and challenges he had through his life that now he attributes to birth trauma, and what happens when the 'validators' of our memories are lost.

Join us today, October 30, 2020, to remember adoptees we've lost, to acknowledge adoption trauma, and to highlight other pressing issues adoptees face. Our listeners share tributes to those they've lost, some share how adoption has impacted them personally, and you are invited to join us in a collective moment of silence to honour adopted people. Show Notes Recommended Resources Adoptee Remembranc...

Today we will learn about an upcoming day that I think will become critically important to the adoptee community: we are talking with Pamela Karanova about ways to commemorate the first annual Adoptee Remembrance Day. Please join us on October 30, 2020 to honour adoptees we've lost, to acknowledge adoption trauma, and to highlight other pressing issues adoptees face. Full Show Notes Here Subscribe...

Today we are talking with Amanda Medina, creator of This Adoptee Life. Amanda tells us about how she came out of the adoption fog during the past few years, she shares what adoption separation from our ancestors looks like via a beautiful and heartbreaking symbol of a broken legacy, and we discuss her commitment to building community among adoptees. Full Show Notes Here Connect With Us Amanda Medi...

Today I'm excited to welcome a fellow podcaster, Damon Davis, creator and host of the Who Am I Really? podcast. Damon gets a turn to share his story of search, reunion, and loss. We also chat about why reunions get held up as this mythical gold standard of heartwarming six o'clock news bait, and what we've learned from talking to hundreds of adoptees over the past few years. Full Show Notes Here C...

Our guest today is Astrid Castro, founder of Adoption Mosaic. Astrid serves the adoption constellation through a variety of innovative trainings designed to highlight the adoptee experience. We discuss how she came to work in the adoption industry, the current state of ethics in adoption, and what it's like working in such a challenging space, especially as an adopted person. Full Show Notes Here...