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This is Pride Month , where LGBTQAi+ and more celebrate and share their joy. And that joy, embracing it, feeling it yourself, witnessing it, is contagious. Use some of this energy to think about your own pride as an actor. When was the last time you were proud of your work?  Are you proud today?   And for auditions, what would change if you felt pride, before you entered the room, or pus...

Our human behavior is our skill set as actors. We observe ourselves, observe others, learn, use what we learn when we need it. But being observers of humanity can lead to a great deal of information coming into our heads. You may feel confused. About any choice as an actor. Or anything in your off stage life. This podcast will teach you the one question to ask yourself to get out of confusion. Bec...

This is the second in our series about dealing with some common negative emotions. Overwhelm. It can all Seem Too Much sometimes. And we do this to ourselves. Overwhelm is a story that we tell ourselves. We are creative. We can tell a better story. This podcast will give you a way to handle Overwhelm for good.  Overwhelm will still invade our emotions as life and the world happens around us....

Not our favorite emotion. Powerful in plays, in the Bard, in riveting moments in film and beyond. Truly unpleasant in our lives. It flares uninvited. This is human. So what do we do now? How do we live and thrive with negative emotions? We go inside.  And here's the good news.   We can interrupt Jealousy before we act on it.  And here's the better news.  We can train our brains...

If you have an actor problem. Or a human problem. Or just have something that is vexing you.. The Think Slow, Act Fast idea is a great way to resolve it for you. Because at the heart of most problems is what you are thinking about them. This is where the solution lies. Slow does not mean forever. Or lingering indulgently over something (or someone). It means being intentional. Then. You can Act Fa...

Actors need to shut down sometimes. Start over. And not with all the pages open (our old thoughts) and apps (our old beliefs). We need to give our brain the opportunity to refresh. To think anew. To think Better. This is the core of Emotional Well Being. Decide that your brain gets some love. The most powerful tool you have for an abundant life, the problem solver, the dreamer, the guide. Your bea...

At the base of the mountain of anxiety is the cause.  Maybe you have experienced anxiety for so long, you no longer remember the original cause.  And one long ago cause, can connect to another, until you have constructed a habit... a mountainous habit...of anxiety. When you experience waves of anxiety, or regular bouts, whether while working as an actor, or in other moments of your life,...

Reviews are not likely to go away. An incredible gift to yourself as an actor is learning how to manage your mind around them. For some of us, they provoke anxiety, fear, all the negative feelings we dread. Some of us avoid them. Pretend we don't care. Or .... decide how we feel about our work based on them... Your power lies in what you can control . And this is true whether a review is glowing o...

We Love the Thought, 'This Will Fix Me'. or 'This Will Change Everything'. When really, the 'this', is us. Our thoughts, our feelings, and what we do because of them. Coaching is a phenomenal way to clear up the Thoughts in your mind - those sentences which linger and languish, which are Not Helping You lead the life you want. The humanness, however, is here to stay. The mess. The stress. The reac...

Actors who are Parents. Yes, we are out there in big numbers, but the number of Working women who are parents of small children and professional actors is small. And the number for Working Actors who are pregnant and showing is even smaller. We would love for that to change. In the meantime, this episode features a few observations from my life as a pregnant actor, and some thoughts to support you...

Deciding to Decide is one of the Biggest Wastes of Your Valuable Time. Actors can make decisions on a scene, a character, a moment, so efficiently, yet we drag our heels to Decide in Real Life. Let's get that time back. Let's get excellent at Making Decisions. Decisions can Be Your Superpower.  Let's Go.

What do you take Pride in as an Actor? There is an opportunity every day, every audition, every scene, to offer your best work. This does not guarantee the Results you envision. But you have a much more likely chance to get where you want to be if you bring Top Shelf Acting to each opportunity.  And in time, Top Shelf can become your usual.  Who doesn't want that feeling?  That no m...

To be human is to feel pain. As actors, we wrestle with how to channel pain we have experienced into the roles we play, and ride the continuum between reliving experiences and with them, that pain, with the energy that consumes. How much is the art form itself, and how much is feeling something afresh? We all find our way with this. But apart from all the pain we might choose to excavate for our w...

If there is a part of you that dreads tax season. If there is resistance to paying, or calculating, or owing, or 'getting something wrong'. If you are in a negative space about the amount you are paying, or getting refunded. If you are feeling overwhelmed about taxes and want to feel better... This podcast will reframe what our taxes do for us as actors, and as civic minded artists. There are also...

Even such a simple word, three letters, can have the ability to open a window in your mind when your brain is feeling stuck. Yet. This simple tool is incredibly effective. Try it when your brain is telling you your Thoughts are Facts . They probably aren't. If we don't direct our brain, it does its job on autopilot.  Which is to protect us.  To always look for ways to survive.  To f...

Let's reframe this idea. And stop Waiting to feel how we want to feel. We spend too much time thinking, when This happens, I'll feel great. Not always the case. And that's a lot of pressure to put on the This.  If we Care, right now , for the things, people, results we want in our lives... we can create the opportunity to feel that way now. To feel Great now.  To feel validated now. &nbs...

If you are a creative who finds your thoughts spinning, your great ideas whirling in your head,  and never getting loved. Not getting done. This episode is for you. One beautiful thing about being creative is... all the Ideas. But with all those ideas, comes a finite amount of resources, money, time, energy, to get them done. Or even started. And then, in the middle of one idea, you get five...

Many of us actors are perceived to be Extroverts, simply because we perform in a public setting. This is far from true. There are thousands of introverted actors working in all media. This podcast is for you if you feel compelled at times to present yourself in a way that is not true. This podcast is for you if you want your work to speak for itself. And this podcast is for you if you find yoursel...

Equal Air Time is a tool for quickly working through a situation that is vexing you. Knowing this simple process is a great way to move on from thoughts that you keep circling toward, wasting your valuable time and energy... Don't ignore your feelings.  Don't shut them out.   But don't spin in them either.  We work in an industry with a lot of fragile egos, a lot of power trips, a l...

Emotional adulthood for actors is the single best gift you can give yourself. We put ourselves in 'harm's way' All The Time. We are vulnerable when we audition, when we perform, when we allow others again and again to see us as we are forming a character from the ground up, or mining a scene to find the emotional truth, or striving to give a director, a casting director, a producer, an audience 'W...

If you have things... anything you want to get done , but haven't... this is a clear system for Getting It Done. There is no magic here, but a straightforward way for you to stop coming up with excuses and start getting the results in your life you want. This works for the Big stuff and all the Little stuff that can weigh us down, especially if we get hung up in  judging ourselves.. because w...

Actors: Let's stop waiting for someone to give us permission to achieve what we want. Let's Grant Permission to ourselves to GO. This magnificent new year is a great opportunity to turn your dreams into your thoughts. Your thoughts into your actions. And your actions into creating the possible from the impossible. Don't wait until you 'know how' to do it. Start. Permission Granted.

Let go of the idea of Resolutions for the New Year. Unless they are working for you. Celebrate the New Year by inviting your mind to get excited about what's ahead. Because i f you're not excited about your life, who is? We are so fortunate to do what we do for work. Every show, every episode is a new opportunity - let's not diminish the New Show, the New Cast, the New Script, and, of course, the...

We are taught that the Grand Gesture , the Big Moments are the galvanizing acts of our lives. But there is compelling evidence that t he Compound Effect is much more life changing. Like a ship that navigates the ocean, our lives can appear vast, with an infinite horizon. There is poetry in this thought. But if we pursue all the directions at once, we can travel very little, and evolve even less. T...

We have Faux relationships at work , when we are married in a show, or have physical intimacy in a show, and that can create some issues at home that not every profession creates. And we can be in Relationships with humans who have no connection to the Acting industry other than their love for us. If you have any frustrations with your romantic relationship, there are 4 places to start looking for...