A Better Father

Thank you for listening to my podcast.  I hope you are getting a little something from my ramble and thoughts.  Check out abetterfather.com for lots of thoughts on just about anything and everything, written super well.  :) Lots of things were referenced in this week's episode.  Apologies if i missed linking to anything. Today is about leaving a book around for your kids, or yo...

A link the to the Stoic Journal mentioned in this podcast. https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-5-minute-stoicism-journal-matthew-van-natta/1133399709?ean=9781641527484

You never know who is watching.  Do your best to be good and act good.  It could help make someone a better father. You never know. The book referenced in this episode:  https://www.pennycandybooks.com/shop/brico Thank you for listening and check out abetterfather.com.  It's where i blog nearly daily and it's pretty gosh darn good.

Why are were we taught the things and ways we were?  Why are we making it worse for our children? Things mentioned in the podcast: Work by James Suzman: https://www.fromthebush.com Think Again by Adam Grant: https://www.adamgrant.net/ Keep Sharp by Sanjay Gupta: https://twitter.com/drsanjaygupta Daily Dad Podcast: https://dailydad.com abetterfather.com my site where i write

A question my daughter asks while brushing teeth.  It leads to a great conversation and a podcast episode.  These are the things referenced in the podcast: https://brenebrown.com https://dailydad.com https://www.richroll.com/podcast/team-sherzai-589/

Did you know i can sing like Tom Petty?  Neither did i. Thank you for listening. Any thoughts or feedback you can email me at: abetterfather@gmail.com Please visit my blog at abetterfather.com  There's some good work happening there.  At least that's what i've said.  :)

A talk about a slight refocus going forward for the podcast.  Over 100 episodes. Very cool.  It's not about how many people listen (please listen and share).  It's about doing the work. Read more, nearly daily, at abetterfather.com Today I reference: Adam Grant (Think Again) and James Clear (Atomic Habits). It should have been mentioned before today, but I found the song played befo...

Inspired by a morning walk.  Not listening to anything.  Coffee in hand. Chilly, but not to cold.  Allowing my mind to wander and think.  This is the end result.  Thank you for being here.  Thank you for listening.  I hope you are doing well. abetterfather.com - This is where I do my nearly daily writing.

Adam Grant influenced this follow up from his book Think Again, The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know. https://www.adamgrant.net I didn't like how I was thinking and talking in Episode 21.  I kept reading Adam's book and it started to give me context and structure to what I was trying to say and what I was trying to get at.  Please, enjoy this follow up, learn and breakdown from Episo...

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”  Maya Angelou Adam Grant; Think Again: https://www.adamgrant.net What influences you?  What moves you forward?  Why do you act the way you act?  Can you change it?  Adjust it?  Influence it?  What about our children?  Wh...

My apologies for being late on this episode.  You'll learn why in the episode.  It's about learning as a parent.  So, very appropriate for the focus of this podcast. Well, I threw out a random "fact" on hemorrhoids.  Yup, it's true:  https://www.healthline.com/health/phone-toilet-health-risks ; https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT03444389 Cal Newport: https://www.calnew...

I say the wrong episode at the beginning.  Episode 18 was an inspired moment this past weekend. This is episode 19 inspired by three paragraphs in "this one wild and precious life" by Sarah Wilson: https://www.sarahwilson.com It's been an amazing read and highly recommended to check it out. Thank you for listening.  Posted. Not Perfect.  From a Vegan Father trying to navigate a non-...

Whatever it is you want to do that's holding you back, you have permission.  Write.  Draw. Create.  Read.  Say hello to a stranger.  Splurge on a coffee, a treat, a whatever.  It's okay.  Just do it. Links to things referenced in this podcast: https://www.sarahwilson.com https://www.sarahwilson.com/this-one-wild-and-precious-life/ https://seths.blog https://daily...

Finsihed up the Daily Stoic 21 Day Challenge.  New Year, New You. Day 20: Make Your End Of Life Arrangements; Day 21: Write Down Your Mistakes From 2020. Burn The List I also reference Humble the Poet's book on Audible:  Unlearn; https://www.audible.com/pd/Unlearn-Audiobook/0062906321?qid=1611752039&sr=1-1&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1&pf_rd_p=83218cca-c308-412f-bfcf-90198b687...

Day 19: Find Your 2021 Accountability Partner First, find a place to find a person to be able to hold you accountable.  :)

Day 18: Stand Up To Something or Someone Bad “The upright and honest man corrects the wrongs of Fortune, and softens hardship and bitterness because he knows how to endure them; he likewise accepts prosperity with appreciation and moderation, and stands up against trouble with steadiness and courage.” — Seneca , Letters From A Stoic , 98.3 From the Daily Stoic (dailystoic.com); New Year, New You C...

Day 17: Make Amends With Someone You’re Holding A Grudge Against dailystoic.com jamesclear.com https://seths.blog/page/2/ According to Johns Hopkins Medicine , the anger from holding on to grudges is like being in a chronic fight-or-flight mode. It disrupts your immune system, increases blood pressure, increases the risk of depression, as well as levels of anxiety and stress. In a study published...

This all comes from:     https://dailystoic.com Current reading and referenced in this podcast; Atomic Habits:      https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits Look in the mirror, what is your worst vice?  This isn't easy to do and it's a moving target.  Writing down thoughts and talking through what it might be helps.  Be honest, look at your a...

Day 15: Take 1 Thing Off Your Plate Some times to take away, you need to add.  I've added a todo list to take away many things physical and mental that were taking up time. Distractions unneeded.  Focus on what's important.  Stop using so much time and energy filling your mind with something you can just write down.  Build the habit of looking at this list and stop trying to re...

The first 14 days of the Daily Stoic Challenge in summary.  I'll be doing this daily for the next seven days.  Always a day behind with thoughts and notes on the challenge from the previous day.  So, tomorrow will be day 15. (There were some computer issues, that I believe were resolved.  So, if you have a bump, or issue, my apologize.  I believe it has been corrected.) Me...

Lives of the Stoics.  Yet, once again.  There's just so much there.

What about Education?  Can we be better, can we get better being in exile?  Depends on you.  There are always choices.  "We can't choose what happens to us.  We can only choose our reaction." Rupi Kaur.  All three of her poetry books.  Buy them.  They may (and should) change your life:  https://rupikaur.com  And again:  The Daily Stoic.  ...

I'm still working on the making-these-shorter part.  :). Start painting.  Start a podcast.  It's no longer yours once you create it and put it out in the world.  My daughter copies me.  Hold a door open for someone.  You never know who is watching and who I learning or being inspired by you.  So, do your best to be your best, act your best and be the inspiration...

If you feel the need to "cancel" that's exactly the time to get up, to move, to not cancel.  Ask for help.  Tell someone what you are feeling.  Let them know you need help.  If someone cancels on you, don't take their answer at face value.  Don't assume they don't need you.  Err on the side of showing up. https://www.jessicalahey.com/amwriting-podcast/2018/11/18/episo...

Change the story.  Don't let society dictate what you feels.  Change the story and break free. Things referenced in this podcast. https://www.drjudyho.com https://www.drjudyho.com/podcast/episode/1ffd4c11/ask-dr-judy-and-michelle-dempsey-surviving-and-thriving-after-a-breakup-or-divorce