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The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure. Mia shares practical tools for reco...

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth? On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse , for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction. Kath shares how suppressed memories of childho...

What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic viole...

Shame often masquerades as a moral compass—but for many survivors of narcissistic abuse, it becomes the cage that keeps them stuck. In this 1 in 3 episode, Emma breaks down how shame fuels narcissistic abuse, why it fuses with identity, and how it traps survivors in the same relationship patterns even after they leave. She explains the key difference between guilt (which supports repair and growth...

What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused t...

Your brain can remember the past without reliving it— that’s the power of EMDR therapy . In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma. We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in th...

What if reporting sexual violence, domestic abuse, harassment, or discrimination felt safe, clear, confidential, and survivor-centered? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Mary Lobson, founder of REES (Respect, Educate, Empower Survivors), to explore how trauma-informed technology is reshaping reporting systems across college campuses, sports organizations, live music events, workplac...

Some stories don’t just deserve to be heard—they demand change. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 Podcast , Morgan Scafe joins host Ingrid Dutton to share her harrowing story of child sexual abuse that began at age eight and continued until fifteen. She reveals how a courtroom turned her truth into a test—forcing her to relive trauma while sitting just feet from her abuser. Together, we examine h...

In this episode of 1 in 3 Dean shares the true story of helping his daughter escape domestic violence during a winter storm. A father’s gut feeling, a knock that wouldn’t stop, and a rescue that changed two lives. Dean walks us through the night he drove to a remote cabin and helped his daughter leave an abusive relationship—and the lessons every parent, partner, and friend should know about suppo...

In this episode of 1 in 3 , child psychologist Dr. Royster joins Ingrid to unpack how to protect children’s mental health in high-conflict co-parenting and post-separation abuse situations. A calm home, a steady voice, and the right words at the right time can change a child’s life—even when a co-parent thrives on chaos. Dr. Royster breaks down the three main co-parenting models—collaborative, nes...

A woman is “found dead.” The headline ends there, but the story doesn’t—and neither does our responsibility. Ingrid sits with Vanessa and Yaneth to honor Lizzbeth by name, define femicide without euphemism, and follow the thread from a family’s search to a community’s demand for change. What emerges is both deeply personal and relentlessly systemic: a town that looked away, a police response that...

In this episode of 1 in 3 , Devyn joins Ingrid to share her powerful domestic violence survivor story—one that began with a late-night knock, a 911 call, and the moment her stepfather returned and pulled a trigger. The small town that knew Teresa, a beloved nurse with a bright laugh and steady hands, now mourned the loss of someone who made others feel safe at their most vulnerable. Devyn opens up...

In this episode of 1 in 3 , host Ingrid sits down with Captain Eric Threlkeld—law enforcement leader, former UN police trainer, and domestic violence specialist—to unpack what truly saves lives: better first responses, stronger multidisciplinary teams, and real training on non-fatal strangulation that too often goes unnoticed in the ER and on the street. The conversation connects hard data with pr...

In this episode of 1 in 3 , host Ingrid kicks off Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) with a clear, practical roadmap for how each of us can show up—visibly, safely, and meaningfully. When the calendar flips to October, the air changes: it’s time to bring domestic violence awareness out of the shadows and into our shared care. We unpack the message behind this year’s theme, “Everyone Knows So...

What does domestic violence really look like behind closed doors? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, host Ingrid sits down with fellow survivor Tiffiny Newton for a candid exploration of abuse dynamics that goes far beyond what most people understand. Together, they unpack the subtle warning signs that precede full-blown abuse – the love bombing, future faking, and gradual escalation of control...

In this episode of 1 in 3 , host Ingrid speaks with Tracy DiTomasi, CEO of Callisto and a licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years of experience in gender-based violence. Together, they confront the ways society talks—or avoids talking—about sexual assault. Too often, we use euphemisms, passive language, and subtle victim-blaming that shifts focus away from perpetrators. Tracy refuses to...

In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 , Linda shares her deeply personal story of trauma, PTSD recovery, and the transformative power of therapy after sexual assault. A casual comment from a professor unexpectedly triggered buried memories decades after her assault—forcing her to confront emotions she’d long mistaken for strength. Rather than continue suppressing her pain, Linda began a courageous jo...

When you finally escape an abusive relationship, there's that moment of relief—then reality hits. How do you heal yourself while also helping your children process their trauma? This question sits at the heart of today's deeply moving conversation with Jacintha, a family counselor, art therapist, and domestic violence survivor who transformed her personal healing journey into a mission t...

What happens when your abusive ex uses the courtroom as their new weapon? For many domestic violence survivors, escaping the relationship is only the beginning. Family court can become the next battleground—a place where abusers weaponize the legal system to continue control, drain finances, and punish their victims. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 , Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got O...

What happens when the person who says they love you suddenly turns cold, making you question your own reality? Therapist Darren Elliott pulls back the curtain on narcissism, revealing it's not just a label we throw at difficult people, but a profound emotional disconnection that affects everyone to some degree. After experiencing the bewildering pain of narcissistic relationships firsthand, E...

Resilience takes many forms, but few journeys demonstrate its power quite like Julie Barth's story of survival and transformation. After losing her first husband to pancreatic cancer while raising four children including a special needs daughter, Julie found herself vulnerable and seeking escape from grief. This led her directly into the arms of an emotional abuser who would spend the next de...

What happens when a survivor decides that no one else should face the same isolation and roadblocks she encountered? Ali Allred joins 1 in 3 for a second powerful conversation to reveal how she's building a lifeline for those trapped in domestic violence and human trafficking situations. After escaping her own abusive relationship, Ali began sharing her story online. The response was overwhel...

Nobody grows up thinking they'll become a human trafficking survivor. For Ali Allred, life began with childhood instability that created the first cracks in her foundation. Sexual assault at age three and eventual substance abuse as a teenager that formed a perfect storm of vulnerability that traffickers would later exploit. Ali's raw, unflinching account reveals how trafficking often be...

What happens when the chaos of abuse finally ends, and you're faced with the possibility of new love? For many survivors, this terrain feels more frightening than familiar. Dating after domestic violence isn't just about meeting someone new—it's about rewiring your entire understanding of what relationships should feel like. When you've spent years walking on eggshells, genuine...

The words "narcissist" and "gaslighting" get thrown around a lot these days, but do we truly understand what they mean? In this powerful conversation with Nova Gibson, author of the bestselling book "Fake Love" and host of "Fake Love and Flying Monkeys" podcast, we dive deep into the insidious world of narcissistic abuse and why recognizing it could literall...