The Dildorks

As we near the end of our twenties, we’re discussing how the aging process has affected our sexualities thus far, and how we envision our sex lives transforming far into the future!   Feeling Like an Adult | Dysphoria & Aging | Queer Temporality | Women Aging | Are All Hot People Good at Sex? | Human vs. Trophy | “The Best Years of Your Life” | Spirituality & Magic | Age Play | Reclaiming Juvenili...

While our show is mostly about sex, it’s not the only type of intimacy that matters! This week we’re discussing how emotional and physical closeness play out in purely platonic friendships.   Pandemic Anxiety | National Hugging Day | Intimacy & Trust | Intimacy vs. Touch | Gender & Friendship | Parental Influences | Saying No | Managing Expectations | Establishing Intent | When Feelings Develop |...

What happens when your long-distance relationship isn’t long-distance anymore? This week we’re talking about the adjustments and changes that occur when this happens!   Long-Distance Marriage | Introversion | Magical Vacation Time | Excitement | Communication Shifts | Phone Sex & Sexting | Family & Friends | LDR Skills | It’s Gonna Be Weird | Readjustment Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Add...

Since many of us are stuck at home right now, this week we’re chatting about household service tasks in D/s dynamics!   Distance No More | Meal Planning | Does It Feel Kinky? | Dommy vs. Subby Service | Laundry | Executive Dysfunction | Gender Affirmation | (Dis)Ability | Hate Housework | Compliments & Rewards | Self-Efficacy | Task vs. Favor | “Slacking Off” Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by...

So long, 2020! This week, we’re reflecting on how this hellish year affected our sex lives, what salacious goals we did and didn’t achieve, and what we hope to do in 2021.   Holidays with Family | Pandemic Stress & Coping Mechanisms | Switching | Tickling | Rope Bondage | Chastity | Financial Domination | Cuckolding | Bratty Dominance | CBT | Blowjobs | Parties & Cons | Toys | Glitter Tops BDSM Ge...

This week, we’re celebrating Global Orgasm Day by answering some of your questions about orgasms!   What Orgasms? | Global Orgasm Day | Strap-On Orgasms | Weaker w/ Partners | Sadness About PIV | Squirting vs. Orgasm | Cis Guy Squirting | Squirting Science | Sex Isn’t Over | Don’t Like Orgasms Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access t...

The gifting season is upon us! This week we’re discussing what makes a great sexy gift, whether you’re trying to spoil a partner, a friend, or your favorite online sex worker.   Gift-Related Panic | Love Languages | What Makes a Good Gift? | Usefulness vs. Frivolity | Surprise vs. Discussion | Dildo Size | Toxic Toys | Bottoms Buying for Tops | Sexy Gifts for Friends | Gifts for Online Sex Workers...

Kate got married last month, so this week we’re talking about the sexy and kinky dimensions of wedding traditions!   Wife Life | Wedding Dress Fetish | Bridezilla | White Dress? | Dress Code | “Something Old…” | First Look | Tossing the Bouquet/Garter | Wedding Night Sex | Njoy Eleven | Chastity | Nerves | Gender-Neutral Terms Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to...

This week, Bex chats with his partner Ashe (of Rose Glass Photography ) about the ways they play with chastity in their relationship!   Chastity vs. Orgasm Control | How They Got Into It | Fast Orgasms | Getting Into It | Devices | Butt Plugs | ADHD | Future Plans | Combinations | Non-Monogamy | Advice for Beginners Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support th...

This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith , writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 ! We touch on consent in erotica, the evolving definition of “lesbian,” disability representation in erotic media, and more.   Alaska | Editing an Anthology | Fantasy vs. Reality | What is “Lesbian”? | Trans Representation | Mind Expansion | Pushback | Erotic But...

Some people love being single, some hate it… Whatever your opinion may be, this week we’re discussing the single life!   Election News | Bad at Being Single | “Are You Single?” | Friendships | List of Priorities | Stigmatizing Singlehood | Gender Dynamics | Couples’ Privilege & Amatonormativity | Pestered by Family | Bear Bergman Column | Dealing with Loneliness | Self-Love | Recovering From Break...

Kate got engaged recently (!!) so this week is a frank discussion of marriage proposals, engagement, and the various unconventional ways one can do these things!   Big News! | Necessary Conversations | Why? | It’s a Trap! | Who Proposes? | Ritual | Surprise vs. Not | Love, Inc. | Emotional Preparation | The Ring | Financial Domination | Subverting It | Polyamory | Commitment Ceremonies | Collar |...

Your sexual sensitivity can affect your enjoyment, self-esteem and more – so this week we’re discussing some of our best tricks for managing sensitivity-related issues!   Ideas During Sex | “Shoulds” | Compared to Average | Sensitivity vs. Orgasm | Pumps | Weed | Libido-Boosting Products | Antidepressants | #OrgasmQuest | Monster Under the Bed | Testosterone | Dialing It Back | Indirect Stimulatio...

What does it mean to be in a 24/7 D/s dynamic, why is it hot, and why is it comforting? This week we're discussing round-the-clock power exchange!   Always Kinky | Horny All the Time?! | Intimacy & Interdependence | Organizing Principle | Self-Improvement | Moral Responsibility | Protocol | Conditioning | Risk Assessment | Off-Limits Areas | Blue Balls 4 Biden | Getting What You Want | Importance...

This week we’re addressing some of your questions about boundaries, especially as they pertain to sex, friendships, and non-monogamy!   Inappropriate Client | Episode Name | Nervous Partner | “Good-Natured Ribbing” | Anger | Intimacy Before Sex | Gone Horribly Wrong | Seeking Approval | Threesome Aftercare Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and...

Setting boundaries is hard, but important! This week we’re discussing the tricky business of drawing a line in the sand, with romantic partners and in general.   Yelling | COVID-Era Boundaries | Boundaries vs. Rules | Why They’re Useful | Ultimatums | Complications | Checking Back In | What Makes It Easier? | Sooner is Better | Bad Reactions | Being Nice | Bullshit Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artw...

How do you figure out whether a potential kink partner is safe enough and a good enough match with you before you do anything with them? This week we’re discussing the fine art of vetting!   Casual Slapping | What Is Vetting? | Thresholds | Slut Referral Network | Consent Cues | “One of My People” | Social Capital | Direct vs. Indirect | Safewording | Storytelling | Pre-Emptive Domming | Framing D...

This week we’re talking with polyamory-experienced psychotherapist Jessica Fern about her excellent new book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, & Consensual Nonmonogamy .   Filtering the Monogamy Out | Origin Story | Structure as Security | Take Responsibility For Your Feelings | Clementine Morrigan’s Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Self-Regulation & Auto-Regulation | Parts Work | Common Problems | Taki...

Crying is good for the soul, but did you know it can also be good for the libido? This week we’re discussing the kinky appeal of crying: cathartic sadomasochism, dacryphilia, emotional sex, and more!   Other Catharses | Health Benefits | Masculinity & Vulnerability | That’s a Thing?! | Sadism & Emotional Topping | Emo Aesthetic | Ruining Something Beautiful | Sensual Pleasure | Feeling Cute | Good...

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about their recent forays into chastity play!   Orgasm Control | Past Chastity Experiences | Cageless Experiments | CB 6000 & Other Devices | Boners | Coping Strategies | Sleeping | Handling the Horniness | Chastity Journal | D/s Dynamic | Keyholding 101 | Long-Distance | Devices vs. None | Emotional Effects | Duration Goals | Helpin...

We’re returning to the topics of subspace and topspace this week to answer some great questions from listeners about these phenomena!   Switch Drag | Star Trek | New Partner | How to Tell | Dissociation | Explaining to a Partner | Straight/Cis People | Serving While Spacey | Keeping Yourself Out | Assault Survivor | Safewording | Reassuring a Dom | Taking Care of a Sub | Crying Afterward Credits:...

Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week we’re discussing kinky headspaces!   How Important Is It? | What Is It Like? | Topspace vs. Domspace | Surrender & Mastery | Spacey Interactions | Snapping Out of It | Aftercare | Continual Topspace | Hypnotic Triggers | Comedy Pacing | When It Hits You...

This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph. D. , and Emily van der Nagel, Ph. D. , two researchers and lecturers who just released a fascinating new book called Sex & Social Media !   Sex & Social Media: the Book | Long-Distance Collaborations | Tumblr Ethnography | Tumblr Porn Ban | GoneWild Subreddit | What is Sex? | Future of Sex Online...

This week we’re talking to Aryn , an astrologer, podcaster , and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrology questions, such as: Which planets govern your kink identities? Are all Pisceans bottoms? Is Capricorn the daddy dom sign?   Queer Shorthand | Alternate Spirituality | Love & Sex Signs | Switches | Aries | Body Parts | Virgo | Capricorn as Daddy |...

It’s our 200th episode! Join us as we discuss some other milestones in our lives – specifically our sex lives.   200!!! | Old Episodes | Sex Shop | Remote-Controlled Vibrators | Power Exchange | Fifty Shades of Kegel Balls | Wanting to Fuck Someone | Porn with Mom | Tasting Cum | First-Date Sex | “Pinch the Skin As Hard As You Can” | Sending Nudes | Strap-On Blowjobs | Oral Sex Party | Little Spac...