The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers: Dating, Relationship, Masculinity & Intimacy Guidance For Men

Two recovering avoidants sit down for an honest conversation most avoidant men never hear. If you've ever felt like the victim in your relationship, shut down during conflict, or used self-development to win arguments, this is for you. David and Drew share how they stopped blaming their wives, took 100% responsibility, and learned vulnerability, empathy and emotional regulation to build secure, co...

Y ou end it, feel huge relief, then weeks later the regret hits. If you keep ending good relationships then missing her, this is the avoidant breakup cycle. In this Avoidant Men Series episode, David Chambers breaks down the avoidant attachment breakup pattern — why relief lies to you, why stress feels like incompatibility, plus the car analogy and Matt's story of getting back together. Learn 6 st...

How to be a great dad when you never had one? I sat across from a man who was terrified he'd become his absent father — and turned that fear into The Dad Edge, now 40M+ downloads of fatherhood advice for men. Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, grew up with an absent, abusive father figure. In this conversation he breaks down the "drift" that pu...

Why do avoidant men get stuck in fault finding? If you have dismissive avoidant attachment you meet a good woman, then start flaw finding over how she texts, eats, laughs. It's not standards. It's deactivation — fear spikes when she gets close, so you scan for faults to justify leaving. In this Avoidant Men episode I break down why you do it, the damage to you and her, the wrinkles story that expo...

She can't open up to you — and it's not because she's broken. I sat across from a woman who rebuilt trust with her own body after rape, domestic violence and years of chronic pain — and what she taught me about safety changed how I coach men. In this episode, Sarah Carter reveals why male reactivity and shame shut women down sexually, why disconnection from your body kills attunement, and what tru...

If you can't ask for help , it's not strength — it's hyper independence  running your avoidant attachment . You go quiet, handle it alone, and she feels shut out. In this episode I break why asking felt dangerous as a kid, the 3 vague ways men ask that get rejected, and what it costs you, her, and the relationship. Then I give you my 3-sentence script to ask without feeling weak, plus 5 small bice...

I sat across from a man who was nearly stabbed three times and it changed nothing — because the thing killing him was never outside him. David Patrick Farrell spent his twenties in addiction, debt collecting and armed robbery, chasing a masculinity he'd learned from criminals instead of a father. Then, at 5am on the 18th of March 2019, everything broke open. We talk about the moment that actually...

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽  hello@theauthenticman.net 2️⃣ The Flatmate Fix - 16th Sept 7.30pm UK time 👉🏾  https://linktwin.co/ysqjwt   If your marriage feels sexless or stuck in a dead bedroom, you're not broken and she's not cold — you've become flatmates not lovers.    For avoidant men, sex doesn't die in the bedroom, it dies long before, when emotional safety collapses. In this...

You've never lied to her. You've never cheated. So why does she still not feel safe with you? I sat down with former rabbi turned intimacy coach Ted Riter, and his answer hit hard: honesty is only level one of trust. Most men stop there. We unpack the 4 levels of trust — Words, Body, Heart, Soul — and why your emotional shutdown reads as dishonesty, even when you're telling the truth. Plus: how to...

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 hello@theauthenticman.net 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   If you can't express what you feel without guilt, shutting down, or going numb — this is why.  So many avoidant men want to say what they actu...

Is low testosterone really killing your sex drive — or is something deeper going on? In this episode, I sit down with Ben Davis to unpack the testosterone industry, what the numbers actually mean, and why so many men are chasing a hormonal fix for a psychological problem. We cover: • When low testosterone actually needs medical treatment (and what levels to look for)  • Why "more is better" thinki...

She asks how you feel about something that matters — and your mind goes blank. Completely empty. You've got a hundred things you want to say, and you tell yourself it's fine, you don't need to say any of it. So you give her nothing. In this episode I break down what's actually happening in your nervous system when you shut down. It isn't weakness, and it isn't a lack of feeling — it's a protection...

36% of young men believe no one will ever love them. Dating app usage is falling. Synthetic relationships with AI are on the rise. This isn't just a cultural shift — it's a full-scale dating recession, and most men don't know why it's happening to them. In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Madeleine Mason-Rountree — chartered counselling psychologist and relationship e...

You're one foot in, one foot out. And you've told yourself you're just being careful. Maybe you've been with her a year — maybe two — and you still don't know if you're staying. You're analysing her. Judging her. Waiting for a feeling that never comes. And every day you ask the same question: should I stay, or should I go? In this episode I break down why you can't find certainty the way you're lo...

Dr. Nazanin Moali (she/her) is an internationally recognized psychologist, a certified sex therapist, and the host and producer of the Sexology Podcast. She launched her first show in English in 2016, later adding a Farsi series. With over six million downloads across 108 countries, her weekly podcast consistently ranks in the top 20 for sexuality on iTunes. In addition to her podcasting success,...

Can an avoidant man actually  change —  or are you wired this way for good? If you've been told you're "emotionally unavailable," or you keep pushing away the person who gets closest, this is where it starts. In this episode I break down what it actually takes to rewire avoidant  attachment —  not as a personality you're stuck with, but as programming you can change. We go through the six things I...

1️⃣ Work with me in EMAIL  me "99" 👉🏽 hello@theauthenticman.net   2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: https://youtu.be/3bMs_v7FvGc 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page    I sat across from a man who told me the most dangerous trap for a successful man isn't failure — it's being smart enough to think his way out of everything. That's ex...

Most men swear they won't become their fathers. Yet without realising it, they're running the exact same patterns—coldness, emotional numbness, withdrawal, rigidity—in their relationships. And it's destroying them. The worst part? Your girlfriend or wife is telling you exactly what's happening. She feels the distance. The emotional absence. The black-and-white thinking. But you either don't hear i...

Tillie is a dating coach and content creator who helps men better understand women, build confidence, and create meaningful relationships. Drawing from her own experience growing up as an undiagnosed autistic child, she developed a deep interest in human behavior, communication, and attraction through years of observation and study. Today, she coaches men on social skills, dating, emotional connec...

Your inner critic isn't protecting you — it's destroying your relationships. That voice telling you you're not good enough, not interesting enough, not enough full stop? It was built by your past, not your reality. In this guide, I break down where the inner critic comes from (hint: insecure attachment and critical caregivers), why ignoring it makes it louder, and the counterintuitive approach to...

1️⃣ Work with me in DM me "99" 👉🏽 https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ How I  stopped being a commitment-phobe: https://youtu.be/3bMs_v7FvGc 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   Is your anxious-avoidant relationship doomed?    Instagram attachment culture says yes — but top couples therapist Julie Menanno says the opposite. In...

1️⃣ Work with me in DM me "99" 👉🏽 https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ How I  went from avoidant to secure: https://youtu.be/3bMs_v7FvGc 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  When a breakup comes out of nowhere, it doesn't just end a relationship — it shatters your sense of reality. In this episode, I break down the psychologica...

High-achieving men often bring their boardroom skills into the bedroom — and it's destroying their relationships. In this episode, David Chambers sits down with Sean Forde Kelly to unpack why successful men struggle with intimacy, how male shame shuts down desire, and what it actually takes to build sexual confidence. Discover why society reduces male pleasure to something basic, how emotional sup...

1️⃣ Work with me in DM me "99" 👉🏽 https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ How I  went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page Most men think authenticity means saying whatever comes to mind or rejecting the "man box." That's surface-level. True authenticity...

1️⃣ Work with me in DM me "99" 👉🏽 https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ How I  went from avoidant to secure: https://youtu.be/3bMs_v7FvGc 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   Most men were never taught how to flirt — they were taught to perform, to say the right line, or to wait until they feel "confident enough." In this episo...