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You can fake charm. You can fake interest. But you can’t fake real. In this episode, Robert and Gary strip away the masks and dive deep into the power of sincerity—why it’s rare, why it matters, and how living with an honest heart changes everything. They’ll explore how sincerity isn’t just about telling the truth—it’s about being the truth. From relationships to leadership, we break down how peop...

𝙸𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚎𝚙𝚒𝚜𝚘𝚍𝚎, 𝚁𝚘𝚋𝚎𝚛𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝙶𝚊𝚛𝚢 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚕𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚟𝚊𝚕𝚞𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚜𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚝𝚢—not as weakness, but as strength. They discuss how parents and loved ones can remain grounded, express disappointment when necessary, and still communicate love in a way that strengthens relationships. Using a real-life example of a father and teenage daughter navigating a tough disagreement, they show how sensitivity helps us separ...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary sit down with Cliff Shuffler—a man who’s walked through fire and came out forged in purpose. From the brink of destruction as a firefighter and EMT battling alcoholism, Cliff didn’t just survive—he rose. One demon at a time, he reclaimed his life, found his purpose, and stepped into self-mastery. Now 13 years sober, Cliff is a devoted...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary dive deep into the value of self-respect—what it looks like, why it matters, and how to hold onto it even when life throws you a curveball. We were honored to welcome special guest Stephanie, who began sharing her powerful perspective… until tech issues took her offline for good. With our guest unexpectedly gone, we had to shift gears and finis...

In this deeply personal episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary opens up about a life-changing spiritual experience at Redemption Rock—and how it’s still unfolding even after returning home. He shares his journey of walking away from the Catholic Church, living as a “half-believer,” and what it took to finally go all in on faith again. From doubt to conviction, from wandering to awakening, Gary expl...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert and Gary sit down with Edward—TikTok creator and voice in the self-development space—for a real conversation about what it really means to bet on yourself. We unpack the self-development journey—the messy middle, the moments of doubt, and the defining difference between giving up and giving it your all. Together, we explore the cost of commi...

In this episode, Rob and Gary dive into the power of restraint—how it’s not weakness, but strength under control. They explore how restraint is like a muscle that needs training, what happens when it goes unused, and how mastering it can shape better men, fathers, and leaders. Check us out at NorthmanCoaching.com Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments You're welcome to join our community...

Ever feel like teaching your kids responsibility is harder than folding a fitted sheet? You’re not alone. In this fun, insightful, and slightly rebellious episode, we break down creative tips, real-life dad hacks, and Mission Responsibility adventures to help your kids step up — without you losing your sanity (or your car keys). Expect laughs, some clever tricks, and even a few dad jokes darker th...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults dive into one of the most essential—and often misunderstood—values: respect. From the lessons we learned as kids, to how we’re now teaching the next generation, we explore what real respect looks like in action. We break down the difference between commanding respect through presence and character versus demanding it th...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults break down the core components of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills—and show how they form the backbone of personal leadership and meaningful relationships. But we’re not stopping with theory. We tie it all together with one legendary country song: The Gambler by Kenny...

🎙️ Living by Oak Values. In this episode, Robert Burton and Gary Hults dive into one of the most misunderstood yet essential values in life and relationships: boundaries. They unpack why setting clear, healthy boundaries is not about control or rejection—but about self-respect, emotional safety, and sustainable connection. Robert and Gary share personal insights, common struggles men face when ass...

In this episode, Robert Burton and Gary Hults unpack the powerful core value of positivity—but with a twist. They explore the difference between authentic optimism and toxic positivity, the kind that denies reality in favor of fake smiles and empty platitudes. Tune in to hear how real positivity creates resilience, fuels growth, and builds deeper relationships, while toxic positivity can shut down...

In this lighthearted yet meaningful episode, Robert and Gary dive into the underrated superpower of playfulness in relationships—whether romantic, platonic, or parental. From silly jokes to spontaneous adventures, they explore how a playful spirit deepens connection, diffuses tension, and keeps the spark alive. Tune in to hear real stories, laugh a little, and maybe even rediscover your inner kid....

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary dive into one of the most transformational forces in a man’s life—purpose. What happens when you lose it? How do you drift when you’re without it? And more importantly, what does life look like when you're living with it? From personal stories of falling off track to the clarity that comes from realignment, this conversation is raw, real, and r...

In this powerful season finale, Robert and I take a heartfelt look back at an incredible year of Living by Oak Values. We reflect on the values that shaped our conversations, the ones we personally embraced the most, and how they’ve guided us through life’s highs and lows. We also highlight some unforgettable guests who joined us along the way, each bringing wisdom, authenticity, and powerful stor...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert and Gary explore one of the most underrated virtues in today’s fast-paced world—patience. Together, they reflect on how patience has played a crucial role in strengthening the relationships in their lives, helping them grow deeper, more authentic connections with the people who matter most. From navigating personal challenges to giving others space t...

In this heartfelt episode of Living By Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary sit down with special guest Alan "AJ" Bolduc to explore one of the most foundational yet often overlooked values: self-love. Together, they dive into why learning to love yourself is not only essential for personal growth and mental well-being—but also the key to forming healthy, lasting relationships with others. AJ opens u...

In our very first LIVE episode, Robert Burton and Gary Hults unpack the exciting evolution of the Living by Oak Values brand. They introduce the new persona of “The Superior Mailman,” explain why going live is a game-changer, and share what listeners can expect moving forward—from powerful conversations to real-time engagement. Don’t miss this behind-the-scenes look at where we’ve been and where w...

In the final installment of this three-part series on ambition, Robert Burton and Gary Hults continue their conversation with Paul Kopman and Matthew Hults. In this deeply personal episode, Paul shares stories about his relationship with his younger brother, Howie Kopman—a free-spirited hippie who traveled and worked with legendary bands like The Grateful Dead and Phish. The discussion also touche...

In this powerful continuation of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults sit down once again with Paul Kopman and Matthew Hults to further explore the core value of ambition. In Part 2, Paul and Matt discuss the importance of encouraging openness, overcoming fear and self-doubt, and harnessing ambition as a driving force for success. They share personal insights, real-life experiences,...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults sit down with Paul Kopman and Matthew Hults for an insightful conversation on the core value of ambition. They discuss working with Jordan Belfort (the real Wolf of Wall Street), growing up in New York City during the 1970s and '80s, and the lessons learned along the way. The conversation also explores the two most important day...

Loyalty is more than just a word—it’s a guiding principle that shapes our relationships, commitments, and actions. In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults sit down with Todd Touchberry to explore the deep significance of loyalty in our lives. Todd shares powerful insights on staying true to our values, standing by others in times of need, and the impact of unwavering...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary sit down with Aurora and Jenna from the Muscles and Macros Podcast to dive deep into motivation, discovering your "why," and maintaining overall health. Whether you're striving for peak physical performance or simply looking to build sustainable habits, this conversation is packed with insights on how to stay driven and prioritize wel...

In this inspiring episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults sit down with special guest Paul Stroessner Jr. to explore the power of passion. They discuss how to stay motivated, navigate obstacles, and turn dreams into reality. Whether you're chasing a career goal, building a legacy, or striving for personal growth, this conversation will fuel your fire and keep you on track. Do...

In this heartwarming episode of Living by Oak Values, hosts Robert Burton and Gary Hults are joined by special guest Parrish Guerro, a retired US Navy veteran from Bicol, Philippines, now residing in Virginia. Together, they explore the profound value of kindness, sharing inspiring stories that highlight how even the smallest acts of kindness can create lasting positive ripple effects. Tune in to...