The Dildorks

Safer sex protocols don’t have to be boring or a mood-killer! Today we’re diving into our thoughts and feelings on condoms, dental dams, STI testing, and more. TARDIS | STI Panels | Compromise | Gloves | Elevator Speech | Pushback | Contraception | Cum | Myths | Condom Skepticism | Internal Condoms | Condom Tricks | UTIs | Gloves | Fertility Tracking | Vasectomy | IUDs | Dental Dams | Fucking Tran...

Step back in time with us and let’s discuss 1950s household dynamics! Hear us weigh in on why this style of D/s is hot, complicated, and even potentially empowering. Paradigms of Power | Definition | Reclamation | Feminism & Choice | Modesty | Satisfaction | Mastery | Closeted Kinksters | House-Husband | Drag & Glamour | 24/7? | When You Don’t Live Together | M/s Language | Polyamory | Med...

Home is where the heart is, and also (often) where the sex is! This week we’re discussing the ways home decor can interplay with your sex and dating life, from beds to lighting to lube dispensers. Suction Cup Dildo | Easy Access | Lube | Condoms | Beds | Smart Home | Hospitality | Art | Air Conditioning | Partner Pics | Between Partners | Amenities We Like | Celebrity Pillows | Lube Dispenser | Nu...

Ever noticed how sometimes you can say a lot without saying anything at all? This week we're discussing the delicate art of non-verbal communication – in flirting, sex, kink, and more! Blushing | Skill Level | Reading Into It | Body Language | Proximity | Queer Intimacy | Cheating | Non-Verbal Consent | Pleasure | Overanalyzing | Cultural Influences | Saying No | Dysphoria | Screw Consent | False...

Bex just got back from TES Fest, a thought-provoking kink conference in New Jersey. This week, he recaps what he learned there, and we discuss some kinky fantasies that the workshops brought up. Hotel Privacy | DM Training | Blood Play | Raven Kaldera | Risk Assessment For Masters | Real Service | Head Pats | Knives & Scarification | Sadism | Interrogation | Facial Torture | Mind Games | Drug...

Getting the ball rolling is hard sometimes, so this week we’re discussing the intricacies of initiating sex. What are the best and worst ways to do it – and what should you do if there’s an initiation imbalance in your relationship? Do We Initiate? | Direct vs. Indirect | When Does Sex Start? | Pre-Initiation | “Hey, We Should Talk” | Butt-Rubbing | Personal Space | Allusions | Responsive Desire |...

We’re talking about body mods this week: tattoos, piercings, and how they interplay with our sex and dating lives. Tune in for tattoo advice, kinky feelings, and tales of piercings gone awry. One vs. Multiple | Lay of the Land | Sexy Feelings | Nipple Piercings | Cravings | Ownership | Kink | Roleplay | Partner-Specific Mods | Meaning | Regrets | Deciding | Designs | Finding an Artist | Visibility...

Happy Pride month! This week we’re discussing our favorite and least favorite things about Pride, from tutus and play parties to biphobia and cops. NYPD | First Events | Outfits | Play Party | Gatekeeping | Cops | Grassroots vs. Corporations | Professionally Queer | Pride Sex | Creeps | Consent | Kink | Your First Pride | Bringing People | Naked Boys Reading | Queer Liberation March | Fake Male As...

Up, up, and away: this week we’re discussing our sex drives! What is the libido, what stokes it, what tempers it, and what can you do when yours doesn’t match your partner’s? Where’d It Go? | What Is It? | Responsive Desire | NRE | High/Medium/Low | Never Enough | Sex Begets Sex | Sex Industry | Boosting Desire | “Just Do It” | Testosterone | Toning It Down | Mismatches | Environment | Antidepress...

Do you see what I see? This week, we’re discussing the visual aspects of sex, and how the acts of looking and seeing (or not) play into our sexuality. MakeLoveNotPorn | Attraction | Arousal | Nudes | FaceTime and Skype | Eyes Closed | Anxiety | Enthusiasm | Watching | Romantic Sex | “Look At Me” | Fear Play | Helen’s Toybox | Blindfolds | Onoir | Glasses | Men vs. Women | Cultural Bias | Lighting...

Take a deep breath now: it’s time to discuss sex smells (and tastes)! We divulge our fave and least fave olfactory experiences during sex, our thoughts on our own smells and tastes, and more. How Important? | Mismatches | Artificial vs. Natural | Hormones | Preparation | Tasting Yourself | No Deodorant | Favorite Spots | Perfume: The Story of a Murderer | Bad Smells | Fantastical Fetishes | Dry Mo...

This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise. Blowjob Skills | Good At Sex? | Bad Chemistry | Communication | Knowing What You Want | Rhythm | Uncool | Comfort | Enthusiasm | Bad At Sex? | “Did You Come?” | Too Much Pressure | How to Improve | Porn & Cosmo | Are We Good? | Generosity | Room For Improvement | Notifications | Endurance | Impo...

You asked, we answered: in this episode, we discuss queer etiquette quandaries, from pronouns to flagging to threesomes. Femme Flirting | Pronouns | Misgendering | Pre-Transition Photos | A Date? | Coming Out As Kinky | FWB Feelz | Workplace Flagging | Friend’s Ex | Fetishwear | Sex Party | Threesome Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get a...

This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relationship! Dating a Podcaster | Topping For Catharsis | Sadism | Reassurance | Programmer Brain | Taking Notes | Sex Spreadsheet | Phone Sex | Hypnokink | Protocol | Productivity Domming | Sex Toys | Travel Sex | Sex Apps Credits: Music by PROTODOME Ar...

Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic audio mediums, and how we learned to let loose. Dudes | Feedback | Porn Audio | Solo Sounds | Active Listening | Learning | Gender | Performativity | Guidance | Factors | New Noises | Voyeurism & Exhibitionism | Favorite Sounds | Body Noises | Distra...

Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex, dating, and masturbating. Enjoy! Smoking Fetish | 3 Questions | Sex Toy Brands | TV’s On | Toys Personified | Cartoon Orgy | Famous Band | No Vibrators | Fictional Universe | Time Machine | Face Mask | Dong/Schlong/Wang | Shower vs. Floor | Sploshing |...

This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions. Creatures of Habit | Listener Email | Protocol vs. Ritual | Pre-Date Rituals | Deciding Together | Too Many | Conference Protocol | To-Do List | Long-Distance | Airport | Day-to-Day | Service | Food | ‘50s Housewife | Daily Blowjob | Cleaning | Headspace...

We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hugging, wrestling, foot rubs, and other types of not-explicitly-sexy touch. Hug Rejection | Wrestling | Dates | Touch Starvation | Gender Dynamics | Touch Barrier | Aftercare | Cuddle Parties | Goal-Oriented | Foot Worship | Feet & Gender | Family |...

This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more… Stereotypes | Sex Toys | Simple Dicks | Foreplay | What is Sex? | Sex Drive | Bisexuality | Changeable Orientation | Flagging | D/s Stereotypes | Mollena Williams | American Sex Podcast | Older Adults | Joan Price | STIs | Ella Dawson | Boners & Wetness Credits: Musi...

It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among others. Open Vag | Loose | Hymen | Virginity | Pain | Sexual Skill | Sex Too Early | Self-Respect | Premarital Sex | Wedding Night | Masturbation | Relationships Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show...

We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in love with a stranger. Romantic friendships for the win! Dinner Date | Fame | Phone Anxiety | Perfect Day | Singing | Mind or Body | Secret Hunch | Commonalities | Gratitude | Childhood | Life Story | Quality or Ability | Crystal Ball | Ambitions | Acco...

There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like using huge toys or perhaps more than one! Top of the Rock | Limits | Tipping Point | Double Trouble | Fisting Kink | Masochism | Fisting Workshop | Size Training | VixSkin Randy | “Progress” | Sliquid Silk | Sutil Rich | Tips & Tricks | Glass &amp...

This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my… Examples | Jay Wiseman’s Risk Assessment | RACK | Andre Shakti | Savage Love Column | Mouth-Covering | Solo Play | Boundary-Crossing | “Vanilla” Kink | Conditioning | Fear Play | Endurance | Intimacy | Facefucking | Alley | Topping | Sadistic Facesitting | T...

Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And also Kate talks to herself for a few minutes in the middle because of a tech mishap. Coworkers | First Crushes | Compatibility | Idealization | Fun | Unattainable | Traits | Unrequited | Motivation | Self-Improvement | Getting Over It | Dime | CBT | Co...

Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and perils of NRE. Hypomania | Duration | Frequency | Obsessive Thoughts | Exhaustion | Annoying | Journaling | Listening | Non-Relationships | Altered State | Two At Once | Dopamine | Slow Start | Love | Casual Love | Jealousy | NRE-Killers | Dealbreaker...