Off Stage and On Duty

Ever wondered why community feels like medicine, especially when life on the road feels lonely? In this episode, Rhy and Ray dive deep into the science and spirit of sisterhood for women in the touring world. With a sprinkle of anthropology, a dash of psychology, and plenty of real-life stories, they explore why we’re literally wired for connection and how sisterhood can protect your heart, health...

In this inspiring episode of Offstage and On Duty , Rhyan and Ray sit down with powerhouse couple Rhonda and Jason Halbert , who have spent over three decades navigating marriage, family, and the fast-paced world of touring. From raising and homeschooling kids on the road to finding balance between personal calling and shared purpose, the Halberts open up about what it takes to make love—and life—...

This week on Offstage & On Duty, Rhy and Ray sit down with licensed therapist Sam Beretta—a woman who not only understands the world of mental health but lives the life of a Stage Wife herself. Sam brings both her clinical expertise and personal experience to the table, unpacking the unique emotional challenges of holding down the fort while your spouse is on the road. From boundaries and burn...

Rhy and Ray get real about the trap of victim thinking — from the excuses that hold us back to the messy re-entry moments when husbands return from the road. They share how building habits, owning responsibility, and stepping into your authority as an independent woman can transform not just your own life, but your marriage too. Connect with Stage Wives: Website Follow us on Instagram Join the Pri...

Ever feel like you’re constantly measuring yourself against someone else’s life? In this episode, Rhyan and Ray dig into the sneaky trap of comparison—and how it robs us of joy, peace, and perspective. Through honest stories and plenty of laughs, they explore why comparison is never a good teacher, what we miss when we’re busy looking sideways, and how to shift back into gratitude and confidence i...

Feeling invisible? You’re not the only one. In this episode of Offstage and On Duty, Ray and Rhy get real about loneliness — the kind that sneaks in when the house is loud with kids but quiet with connection. We’ll talk about the difference between solitude and isolation, how to recognize when you’ve slipped into that isolating headspace, and practical ways to reclaim your peace and build connecti...

When your husband’s on the road and the house is quiet, your thoughts can get loud—and not in a good way. In this episode, Ray and Rhy unpack how to stop the mental free-fall we call the “thought spiral.” Through Scripture, relatable tour-wife stories, and tools from Dr. David Burns’ The Feeling Good Handbook , they share practical ways to take your thoughts captive, reframe anxiety, and speak tru...

In this very first episode, meet your hosts Rhyan Shirley and Rachel Smith — co-founders of STAGE Wives, a support group for women whose husbands travel in the music industry. Together, they share the heart behind this new community, and what you can expect from the podcast going forward. Whether you’re raising little ones solo, navigating the emotional highs and lows of tour life, or simply cravi...