Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

Andrea had been married 5 years and thought her marriage was as ideal as one could hope for. Suddenly everything fell apart as her husband's two time affair rocked her world and left her broken and grief stricken. Andrea shares what happened next as the 'scales fell from her eyes' and she saw her marriage in a truer light and began to come to terms with her part in the dissolution of the marriage....

As you step into your life after divorce, how you think, feel and act will be based on the extent of the healing you have experienced. And your depth of healing will inform what you manifest in your new life chapter. Today we are invited into a uniquely powerful and special 'secret sauce' called ThetaHealing. ThetaHealing impacts you on 4 levels...your core, soul, history and genetics. The power o...

Has anyone ever told you that marriage isn't perfect and you should try to stick it out? How about that you are ruining your children's lives if you go forward with the divorce? Are you no longer invited to certain gatherings or social events now that you are about to be or are single? Deciding who to tell, how to tell and when to tell people when entering divorce is difficult. Dealing with people...

Welcome to the FIRST episode of Life After Divorce where we talk about LIFE BY DESIGN NOT DEFAULT. As you begin exploring who you are and who you want to be in this next chapter of life, we invite you to see this new chapter as an adventure, to get to know yourself, be kind and gentle with yourself and know that you part of the adventure will include uncertainty and fear. Most important to be inte...

Going through a divorce, you're faced with uncertainty and loss every which way you turn. You can feel lost, without a sense of where you want to go or how you're going to get there. You want a roadmap. You want a guide. You want to get out of this strange land you find yourself in. While you may not realize it, you are on a hero's journey. This applies equally to men and to women. Listen to find...

Cathy lived a life that from the outside appeared completely successful with a beautiful home and thriving family business. The reality behind the facade told a different story. Cathy shares her early confusion about why she was so unhappy given the facade, her journey to understand her unmet needs and how her values were out of alignment with the life she was living. She shares her fears and the...

Divorce is a marathon. It impacts life emotionally, logistically, psychologically, economically, and physically. It also piles new responsibilities and challenges upon old. Without setting conscious intentions there is no North Star. You are adrift in a stormy sea without a rudder. Intentions become your rudder and consciously choosing the qualities you want to introduce into your process becomes...

Telling the children about your impending divorce is always a fragile, emotional conversation. The general rule is both parents tell the children together, refer to the decision as mutual and assure them that they are loved and their lives with continue with limited change. However, when facing a high conflict divorce, such advice may be unwise and even dangerous. If you are expecting your high co...

Stepping into the legal divorce process can be scary and overwhelming. Not knowing what to expect, how the process works, and what the options are can be daunting. Choosing the right divorce attorney and/or mediator is one of the most important first decisions you will need to make. It could mean the difference between a long, drawn-out, expensive, acrimonious divorce or an amicable, less expensiv...

While there are many losses during the dissolution of a marriage, children are not usually thought of as one of those losses. Unfortunately, in certain extreme cases children are lost, not through death but through one parent's intentional manipulation of the child to turn on and eventually reject the other parent. This bond destroying phenomenon is known as Parental Alienation (PA). Unless it is...

Diego knew he had to find a way to being emotionally regulated and get clear on what the legal path ahead looked like. He knew he needed guidance to navigate both the emotional and practical journey ahead in a way that was aligned with his values. Early on Diego faced a restraining order that was based on false accusations. He lost his home, didn't see his young daughter for 3 weeks and had to be...

Kevin is a deeply dedicated family man, primary earner with a high pressure career and two young girls that he adores. When he was facing divorce, he reached out for both emotional and practical support. Kevin struggled with his wife's changing behavior as she pulled away from her primary care taker role and re-engaged in her career as a stewardess taking her away from her girls and the family for...

The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we c...

Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life. They are men and women, ages 18 to 50. Some are single; some married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. As adults, their parents tend to overlook, minimize or diminish feelings and struggles around their parent's divorce. And th...

Jessica met her husband out of high school and was married in her early 20's. She moved from her parent's house to her home with her husband and heavily relied on him for so much. Infidelity and broken trust ended her marriage a few years later and left Jessica lost and afraid. Through her divorce and coaching, Jessica noticed a lot about herself, her tendency to protect other's from her feelings...

If you have young children, there is an ongoing need to communicate with your coparent about the business of raising your children. For many high conflict divorces, we know this ongoing communication will be an invitation to more conflict and contention. Today's guest explains that it doesn't have to be that way. Michael Daniels is the founder and CEO of FAYR a modern-day coparenting app which sta...

As two mom's grapple with the dissolution of their marriage, Monique shares the deep rooted emotional issues she faced and overcame and the positive, powerful impact working on herself through coaching provided. Monique describes the tenderness of how her wife's fear of being the 'non-biological' parent impacted their negotiations as did Monique's fear around being the less monied spouse. Her conc...

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators....

Today's episode is of a young marriage that ended suddenly, the pain and confusion Rachel experienced and her Pheonix Rising from the Ashes story. Rachel shares what she learned about herself and how both her divorce and dating experiences helped her grow. As she healed, Rachel was able to acknowledge what was missing in her marriage, even though she would have stayed and then how she found her so...

Today we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint d...

Today we speak to a former JBD client and current JBD coach. Diane shares how she learned to accept her ex for who he is and designed a realistic and amicable post divorce relationship with him. Diane needed to understand what was and wasn't realistic when dealing with alcoholism, addiction and mental illness. Letting go of judgment around who the father of her children is and what he is and isn't...

Parental Alienation is a persistent, consistent rejection of a parent caused by the actions of the other parent. It is a form of domestic violence and child abuse as the child has been manipulated to reject one parent. The psychological impact this has on the child is severe. The child develops a psychological split. The impact on the alienated parent is devastating as their child sees him or her...

Steve was trapped in a high conflict marriage for a long time. He knew he had to get out when he "didn't even want to be in the same zip code" with his wife. He reached out for coaching support when the constant barrage of texts and emails filled with contention and accusation was hijacking his every day. He discusses the benefits he received through coaching and encourages everyone to get the sup...

When negotiating child custody in a high conflict divorce, parents sometimes need the assistance of a custody evaluator to help determine the best shared parenting schedule and decision making responsibilities. If that is the path you are on, understanding the role of a custody evaluator and how to best prepare for their process is vital. Today we speak with Mary Carlin, a seasoned NYC custody eva...

With a history of graduating from an ivy league school and being a Wall St financial powerhouse and global traveler, Kristen was stopped in her tracks as she began bearing children and dealing with the abuse of her narcissistic husband. Kristen shares the complexities of letting go of her career to raise their children only to feel alone being a new parent while facing the difficulties of living w...