Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

In this podcast, members of the JBD Coaching Team answer some of the most frequently asked questions that come up for people as they are navigating through a divorce. Listen as Karen, Carrie, Rachel, and KP discuss topics like: how to decide whether to stay or go, how to make the shift from focusing on what your STBX/EX is doing and bring the focus back to you, and why that's important how to let...

Today we're speaking to Terry Gaspard, author of The Remarriage Manual - How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around. We discuss expectations, trust, communication and the vital importance of making your spouse a priority…especially when there are step children involved. Terry discusses the wide variety of challenges she and so many face when remarrying and how to avoid the high 2nd...

When going through divorce, everyone understands that it's important to talk about what's going on with people you trust. As you may have discovered, not everyone is available to be the kind of supportive listener when you need to talk about the difficulties you are experiencing. There is great therapeutic value in being seen, heard, and witnessed even in our darkest moments. We at JBD understand...

Welcome back to Healthy Romantic Relationships! Today we dive into Attachment Theory and how it can help us Find and Keep Love based on the Science of Adult Attachment My desire is that you will emerge from today's conversation understanding that each of us behaves in relationship in one of three distinct ways, anxiously attached, avoidant attached or securely attached. So what does that mean? Tod...

Kevin is a deeply dedicated family man, primary earner with a high pressure career and two young girls that he adores. When he was facing divorce, he reached out for both emotional and practical support. Kevin struggled with his wife's changing behavior as she pulled away from her primary care taker role and re-engaged in her career as a stewardess taking her away from her girls and the family for...

How do you handle coparenting when your spouse (or soon to be ex) is behaving more like a kid? There may be underlying issues like substance use, neurodiversity or they just may be (much) less responsible than you wish they were. How do you navigate things like shared custody and lifestyle decisions for your kids, when they just aren't in the same place? Karen & Diane challenge our listeners to ex...

In Today's episode of Healthy Romantic Relationships we discuss "The Psychological Aspect of Healthy Sex - How Past Experience Informs Future Pleasure. We are exploring What is the healthiest way to engage your sexuality as you enter dating and healthy relationships? Karisa opens with a powerful statement of the connection between sex and spirituality, the beauty of the act when connected and the...

Divorced over twenty years ago when her three sons were very young, Rachel personally experienced the challenges and the many growth opportunities that arise during the divorce process and beyond. In our conversation Rachel shares her unique experience, perspective and skill set. She brings not only her personal divorce experience to each coaching conversation, but her three plus decades of experi...

Welcome back to another episode of Healthy Romantic Relationships. Today we engage in a conversation around the titillating topic of Sensuality, how to understand your relationship with it and reclaim it!! Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is back with me again and helps us understand the definition of sensuality and how it can get numbed out as a result of trauma or grief. We discuss whether another person is...

When Maria reached out for support she was still resentful at her ex and regretting staying so long in a marriage that had been over for 2 years. Maria shares her journey to self awareness and acceptance of herself and her circumstances. In a short time, Maria developed an understanding of codependence and began shifting her behavior to more self loving and less fearful about what other's thought...

Become a coach made Diane a better person, mom and wife. It also prompted her to examine her marriage and ultimately to hire JBD to determine if she should mend or end her marriage. Diane shares the value of having coaching skills and still needing her own coach to help her navigate the emotional and practical aspects of this difficult decision. In this episode you will learn what led Diane to bec...

Welcome back to another episode of Healthy Romantic Relationships. We have a very special guest today, her expertise is as a divorced mom and the title of today's episode teases our content. An Unconventional Approach to Finding Oneself and Healthy Love After Divorce is exactly what Laura did. I am excited to share Laura's journey with you and the delicious experiences she had while finding hersel...

Today we discuss Part Two of the book based on the author's personal story of choosing divorce, Untamed by Glennon Doyle. In this section, Ms. Doyle outlines her Four Keys, which are Feel, Know, Imagine and Let It Burn. Part 2 begins with the author sharing her story discovering she is unmarried & pregnant at age 26. This was when she began to live in a story she created about how to do motherhood...

Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life. They are men and women, ages 18 to 50. Some are single; some married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. As adults, their parents tend to overlook, minimize or diminish feelings and struggles around their parent's divorce. And th...

Welcome back to another episode of Healthy Romantic Relationships. Today's guest is Bryan Reeves, a "life and relationship insight ninja"! I have been following Bryan's work with men for some time now and am excited for him to share Lessons for both men and women in his newly released book, "Choose Her Every Day (or leave her)" Tune in as we discuss the masculine and feminine energies, the frictio...

If you have young children, there is an ongoing need to communicate with your coparent about the business of raising your children. For many high conflict divorces, we know this ongoing communication will be an invitation to more conflict and contention. Today's guest explains that it doesn't have to be that way. Michael Daniels is the founder and CEO of FAYR a modern-day coparenting app which sta...

Can understanding how to say "no" in a new and more productive way benefit relationships, even those headed for or in the midst of some stage of the divorce process? In this team talk Karen and Lisa will discuss how "no" can improve relationships and share how to prepare and deliver beneficial "no's". How we say "no" determines how well our "no" is received. Saying "no" skillfully is ever more sig...

Bob faced a true emotional Tsunami as he found himself divorced and out of a job within three weeks of his wife asking for a divorce. If that wasn't enough to throw him on his ear, in his trusting way, he had his wife's attorney manage the divorce and was left with spousal support and child support based on a job he no longer had and couldn't seem to replace! The journey from that dark place inclu...

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators....

Today we are diving into a new paradigm I recently began learning about, the Enneagram which was created in 1915 and refined in 1960 to include the 9 personality types. The Enneagram is a system of nine interconnected personality archetypes or types. It describes three "centers of intelligence," nine personality "types," and twenty-seven "subtypes" that provide an amazingly accurate picture of per...

Today we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint d...

Carrie is one of JBD's senior coaches and has been with the company since 2015 with a short break before returning. Carrie shares her life journey, love of learning and how her divorce changed the projectory of her life and career. Carrie shares her passion for supporting people through the prickly journey of grief and how she has evolved in her work with divorcing men and women, the many coaching...

Parental Alienation is a persistent, consistent rejection of a parent caused by the actions of the other parent. It is a form of domestic violence and child abuse as the child has been manipulated to reject one parent. The psychological impact this has on the child is severe. The child develops a psychological split. The impact on the alienated parent is devastating as their child sees him or her...

Welcome back as we continue our conversation around Healthy Romantic Relationships, I am thrilled to be speaking with Susan Scott author of "Fierce Love", about the essential role of conversations. I was first exposed to Susan's work about a decade ago, when beginning my divorce coaching career and came upon her book Fierce Conversations which over the years has helped me help my clients communica...

When negotiating child custody in a high conflict divorce, parents sometimes need the assistance of a custody evaluator to help determine the best shared parenting schedule and decision making responsibilities. If that is the path you are on, understanding the role of a custody evaluator and how to best prepare for their process is vital. Today we speak with Mary Carlin, a seasoned NYC custody eva...