Your Next, Best Step

If there is a health thing you keep avoiding, this one is for you. The relief of looking away is real, and it comes with a cost. A gentle word for anyone with a call they have not made.  The full episode “The Thing You Would Rather Not Know” (ep 151) is ready wherever you listen or watch podcasts Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download): YourNextBestStep.com  Weekly e...

There is a reminder from a doctor's office that keeps getting moved around your counter. A result you have not called for. A screening that slides to next month, every month. You tell yourself you are too busy. And you are busy. Something else is going on too, and it has a name. This episode is about the health thing you keep avoiding, and why avoiding it can feel so much safer than facing it...

Someone is going to ask you a holiday question & you will either answer from a decision you already made, or answer on the spot and live all month with whatever fell out of your mouth. Join me for the full companion episode where we get into the research on why urgency pulls us away from what actually matters, and the one move that keeps your season yours. Ep 149 “Decide One Holiday Thing Now...

Right now, nobody has asked you a single thing about the holidays. No menu, no guest list, no “whose house this year.” And that is exactly why this is the moment to decide one thing about the season, on your own terms, before it decides itself. This episode is for the woman who can already feel Thanksgiving and Christmas coming and does not want to arrive at them scraped empty. There is a reason a...

What can you do when a whole year suddenly arrives in a single breath? Join me for the full episode “The First Cool Morning and the Ache You Cannot Name” where we get into why the cold brings on nostalgia, what two decades of research reveal about the ache, and the one move that turns a wistful morning into a real connection. Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download):...

You walked out into the first cool morning of the year, and while everyone around you reached for sweaters and pumpkin everything, an ache showed up that you could not explain. A little wistful. A little sad, even, with nothing you could point to as wrong. If fall has ever made you melancholy while the world calls it cozy, this episode is for you. That feeling has a name, and it is doing more for...

Waiting can feel like the safe option. Every undecided thing charges you rent for as long as it stays open. Join me for the full companion episode “The Decision You Keep Putting Off” where we walk through what actually happens to us after a hard call, and why the regret you are bracing for fades faster than you predict. (Ep 147) Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download...

Not everyone has a cheering section. The choir nobody arrives early to hear. The front-yard garden tended like a masterpiece. The friend who finished the hard year with no one to tell. You can be an audience of one. Join us for the full companion episode (150) - "The Gift of Being in the Audience" - where we make the case that being in the audience is a real gift, and often the main even...

Someone you love is about to do the thing they love. And the most loving place you can be is right there in the audience, watching. We treat showing up as the least we can offer, the thing that counts only when we have nothing bigger to give. This episode makes the case that being in the audience is a real gift, and often the main event of love. In this episode, we get into why witnessing someone...

There is a decision you keep almost making, then setting back down. Weeks pass. Maybe months. It stays stuck because a low, steady fear tells you that any choice could be the wrong one, and that you would never recover from picking badly. This one is for the woman who freezes in front of a decision for exactly that reason. Here is what you will take from it: Why a looming decision feels so much he...

A lot of what you call broken promises to yourself were never promises. They were wishes. Here is the difference, and why it matters for your self-trust.  Join me for the full companion episode “The Promises You Keep Breaking to Yourself” where walk through a doable next step you can put to work tonight (Ep 146) Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download): YourNextBestSt...

You made a promise to yourself this morning. And part of you already doubted you would keep it. When you have let yourself down enough times, you stop believing your own word, and that slow erosion of self-trust sits underneath every goal that will not stick. This episode is about getting your word to yourself to mean something again. Inside this episode: Where your confidence in yourself actually...

In John 15 the gardener prunes the branch that is already producing, not the one that failed. If your capacity has been shrinking, that detail may change how you read it Join me for the full companion episode “God, What Season Am I Even In?” where we walk through four kinds of seasons and how to tell them apart, plus what the memory research says about why one early label can hide a whole year of...

You got asked how you were doing, and you reached for a season. A hard one. A waiting one. And then you could not have said whether that was even true. If naming your season keeps coming up empty, the question itself may be the thing to rethink. This episode looks at four kinds of seasons, and why the honest answer to which one you are in is stranger, and kinder, than you expect. In this episode,...

The fear that keeps a lot of women out of the doctor’s office has nothing to do with bad news. Here is another way to see it.  Join me for the full companion episode where we discuss the gap between noticing something in your body and deciding it is worth a phone call, and why that gap is where almost all of the waiting happens. Ep 144: “The Headache She Decided to Ignore” Ready for your next step...

You can tell someone the exact week your headache started, or your fatigue, or the thing you have been meaning to get looked at. And you have a reason ready for every one of them. That is the part worth paying attention to. There is a stretch of time between noticing something in your body and deciding it counts. Researchers who study how people seek care found that this first stretch holds most o...

What do you imagine it looks like when you think “quiet time” with God? Join me for the full companion episode “When Your Quiet Time Did Not Survive Summer” where we learn what decades of memory research suggest about the thirty years of faith already built into you, and why waiting until you can do it "properly" is the exact thing keeping you stuck through October (Ep 143) Ready for you...

There is a bookmark in your Bible that has not moved since June. You know exactly where it is. And every time you walk past it, the same word shows up: lazy. Here is the thing about that word. It is almost certainly wrong, and it is costing you more than you think. Your quiet time did not disappear because something is wrong with you. It slipped the way a lot of good things slipped this summer, wi...

What can you do when the fall season has belonged to somebody else's schedule? Let’s talk about what you can do today in just 60 seconds. Join me for the full companion episode ”The House That Went Still in September” (Ep 142) where we discover the name grief researchers give to what September is doing to you, and why it means nothing has gone wrong. Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Da...

The school bus still comes down your street. It just does not stop at your house anymore. If the back-to-school photos in your feed have left you feeling something you were not expecting, this episode is for you. September runs on a schedule that used to be yours, and your body kept that calendar long after your mind filed it away. This one is for the empty-nesters, and it is also for the women Se...

What's in that “tenth room” that you never bring up to God in prayer and what are you supposed to do with it? Learn more in the companion episode “The Prayer You Have Been Avoiding” (Ep 141) where we walk through where this avoidance comes from, what David understood about the cost of staying silent, and one way to begin the prayer you have been putting off. Ready for your next step? FREE 5-M...

You pray about almost everything. Your people, your health, your worries, the day ahead. And there is one subject you go right past, every single time. This episode is about that one thing. The prayer you have been avoiding, and a way to begin it that does not ask you to have it all worked out first. Here is what you will walk away with:  A kinder read on why this one subject feels off-limits, eve...

In the research on daily alertness, the early-afternoon trough is temporary. For most people, alertness climbs again and reaches its peak toward early evening. Your capacity comes back. But why does that matter? Join me for the companion episode “The 3 P.M. Wall Is Back” (Ep 140) where we walk through what is really running that hour, and the one move that meets the dip before it flattens you.  Re...

That heavy hour in the middle of your afternoon came back the moment your fall routine did. Here is the reassuring part: your 3 p.m. crash is not random, and it is not a character flaw. It keeps an appointment. Once you know why, you can meet it with something better than another cup of coffee. In this episode you will learn: Why the afternoon wall returns the moment your calendar fills back up Wh...

Think about the first question people ask when they meet you. We answer with a job, a role, a list of who we take care of. It is such a normal question that we rarely notice what it trains us to believe, that who we are and what we do are one and the same. Here is a small experiment for the next gathering you go to.  Join me for the full companion episode "The Woman Who Cannot Be Off the Cloc...