The Dildorks

Here's our live show from the 2018 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit ! We discussed the fine art of romancing sex bloggers, from DM-slides to consent practices to sex toy reviewing. Assumptions | To Flirt or Not to Flirt? | Flirty Fans | Mistakes | “Hi” | Consent Issues | Manic Sexy Dream Person | Negotiating What Gets Shared | Sex Toy Reviewing | Tinder Wingwomen | Peepshow Toys | The Butters | Comi...

Let’s talk gender, folks! This week we’re discussing masculinity, femininity, why they’re good, why they’re bad, and how we hope to see them change. Crop Tops | Gender Roles | Chivalry | Public Kink | Masculinity | Non-Binary | Public Bathrooms | Bowties & Snapbacks | Pain & Power of Femininity | Brendon Urie | Jack Harkness | Flamboyant Men | Brooklyn Nine-Nine | Toxic Masculinity | Conse...

This week we’re discussing the intersections between group sex, public sex, and exhibitionism! Find out how to navigate a play party, what constitutes an orgy, and what group-sex activities we hope to try someday.  Dildo Expulsion | Tapping Out | Gangbangs | Orgy Threshold | MGS | Negotiation | Spin the Bottle | Anxieties | First Times | Goofiness | Play Party Etiquette | Scheduling | Getting Cons...

We're joined this week by the lovely  Marcia Baczynski , speaker, writer, coach, and sexual communication expert! We touched on consent, flirting, long-distance dominance, and much more. Good Girl Recovery Program | Field Guide to Consent | Flirting | Topping Without Toys | Punctuation | Saying the Big Scary Thing | Sharing vs. Negotiation | Vibrator-Shaming | Operator’s Manual | NRE | Desires Cre...

What sex acts do you consider underrated? This week, we’re rhapsodizing the unsung heroes of our sex lives: fingerbanging, the thigh grind, making out, and more! What Counts As Underrated? | Eva from “What’s My Body Doing?” | Tinder | Making Out | The Thigh Grind | Thigh Harnesses | Knee-Dicks | Dry-Humping | Teasing & Sneaking | Roleplay | Hand Sex | Fisting | The Butters | Flaccid Dicks | To...

Sometimes your sex life is about the sex you’re NOT having… This week we’re discussing dry spells, celibacy, and other sexless situations! Sexting & Phone Sex | Longest Dry Spell | Tinder, Etc. | Craving Sex | Date Activities | Sex Distress | Trans Stuff | Masturbation | What Helps? | Sqweel | Sex Education | Toy Reviewing | Deliberate Celibacy | Sexperiments | Introversion | Asexuality | Ince...

This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator Sinclair Sexsmith ! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so much more. Power | Protocol | Check-Ins | Punishment | Submissive Playground | Consequences | Fears | Debriefing | Palette of Permission | Confidence | Receiving | Learning | Wheel of Consent Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a...

What does it mean to “come out” and why is it important to us? This week we’re telling our coming-out stories and discussing the intricacies of this rite of passage. Definition | Co-Optation? | Being Out | Bi Erasure | Kink | Biphobia | Trans | Poly | Partners | Mental Illness | Tattoos | Regrets | Advice | Parental Support | Paving the Way | Irrelevance Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addi...

This week, Bex is chatting with YouTuber and kink sexpert Pup Amp and educator and queer historian Pup Dane about their mutual interest: puppy play! Getting Started | Basics | D/s Dynamics | Pup on Pup | Play & Silliness | Headspace | Gear | Bondage | Hypnosis | Chastity | Scent | Training | Treats | Bonding | Studies | Community | Pun Game | Compatibility | Collars | Breeds Credits: Music by...

This week Kate is joined by DJ Pynchon , blogger, author, and erotic hypnosis enthusiast, for a lively discussion about hypnotic amnesia, winking kink, and lots more! Mind Play | Media Influences | Puns | Misconceptions | Negotiation | Hypnotic Amnesia | Consensual Non-Consent | Company Name | Ethics | Therapeutic? | Face-Slapping Induction | Inductions | Scene Structure | Aftercare | Fractionatio...

Bex has been on testosterone for a whole year! This week, Kate interviews him about how his body, brain, and sexuality have changed over the past year. Greedy | Deciding to Start | Self-Injecting | Coming Out | Mania | Genital Growth | Body Hair | Fat | Face Shape | Body Smells | Social Energy | Assertiveness | Anger | Voice | Orgasms | Attractions | Porn | Fantasies | Advice Credits: Music by PRO...

This week, we're having a risk-aware discussion of sex and altered states: doin' sex and kink stuff while drunk, high, sleepy, and more. Find out how we navigate these complex states and the scenes we like to incorporate them into! Consent Issues | Agency | Negotiation | High Sex vs. Drunk Sex | Trance | Consensual Non-Consent | Suggestibility | Pain | Masturbation | Harder Drugs | Sleepy Sex | Ar...

This week, we answer the question: how do you communicate well, and with love? Find out our “love languages,” our best tips for giving good compliments, and why we hate unsolicited advice from Twitter strangers. Communication Degree | Clarity | Empathy | Active Listening | Compliments | Love Languages | Problem-Solving | Texting | Strangers Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Beco...

Bex just launched his new porn store as Billy Lore , so this week we’re talking about making porn! What’s fun about doing cam shows? Which porn stars do we admire? How did we pick our porn names? Tune in to find out! ManyVids Store | Porn Names | CherryStems | Hella Positive Pinup | Spit | PervCave Productions | Dip Films | Ciné Sinclaire | Apprehensions | Crash Pad Series | Bonus Hole Boys | Quee...

CONTENT NOTES for this episode: consensually roleplaying as a little girl, little boy, daddy, mommy, or siblings; incest roleplay and actual incest; child abuse; adult baby roleplay and diapers; teenage sex; consensual and nonconsensual bullying; nonconsensual spanking; student and teacher roleplays; coerced sex; prison; homophobia and homophobic slurs; drunk sex; high sex; rape fantasies This wee...

It's our traditional yearly 4/20 episode! Hear us get blazed and debate the merits of clone sex, impact toys as zombie murder weapons, and whether or not we'd fuck Buzz Lightyear, among other things. Clones | Zombie Apocalypse | Sex Toys | Googly Eyes | New Kinks | Muffins | Parents & Porn | Aliens | Monsters, Inc. & Toy Story | Workshops | Ideal Porn Scene Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artw...

This week we’re gigglin’ with sex blogger Mx Nillin about their ingenious blog series “ Mx Nillin Fucks ,” wherein they masturbate with various weird objects. This conversation was so fun! Girl Cock | Mx Nillin Fucks | Apple Pie | Teddy Bear | Safety | Absurdity | Peanut Butter Sandwich | Pool Noodle | Lube | Jell-O | Hard Limits | Clone-a-Willy | Tom of Finland Dual Dicks | Future Ambitions | Woo...

This week we’re talking with Dawn Serra , sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and founder of the Explore More Summit ! We chatted about parenting, play, self-acceptance, and more. Explore More Summit | Watersports | Curiosity & Play | Barbara Carrellas | Sex-Positive Parenting | MakeLoveNotPorn. TV | Karen BK Chan | Sinclair Sexsmith | Coming Out | Self-Love & Diet Culture | Intervie...

In part 2 of our sex educator FAQ, learn how to get good at dirty talk, how we got so confident talking about sex, and what the Dildorks TARDIS would look like, among other things. American Idiot | Squirting | TARDIS | Dirty Talk | Yes/No/Maybe List | Sexting | Confidence Journey | Spicing Things Up | Normal | Sensate Focus BJ | Dark Odyssey | AltSex Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison...

This week we’re answering some sex-educator FAQs! Hear our Hot Takes on butt stuff, deepthroating, and dick size, among other things… “Educate Me” | Convincing a Partner | Disclosures | The Best Sex Toy | Invasive Creeps | Butt Stuff | The Butters | Njoy Pfun | Fun Factory Bootie | Tantus Neo | Dick Size | BigDickProblems | How to Orgasm | Deepthroating | 4/20 Episode Credits: Music by PROTODOME A...

Negotiation is a crucial kink skill, and this week we’re sharing our best tips! Find out our fave questions to ask, common negotiation pitfalls, and how to navigate awkward pre-scene discussions. Vanilla Negotiation | Trans Folks | Negotiation Cheat Sheet | Mid-Scene | Contracts | Blame Someone | Options | Kink Voices | Limits | When Scenes Fail | Marks | Aftercare | Doms’ Needs | Fave Questions |...

This week we’re giving you our two cents about financial domination, cash fetishism, and sugar daddies! Find out why we’re into these kinks, how you can play with them, and how to navigate awkward money situations on dates. Why Are People Into Cash? | Paying For Dates | Cheap Dates | Findom | Sugar Daddies | Bank Balance | Presents | Cash | Money Anxiety | Peepshow Toys | Cissplaining | Furniture...

We just got back from the Playground Conference in Toronto! Find out what we learned from the sessions we attended, what conference protocol is and why we like it, and what kinds of sex we had at the con! Cum-Covered Clothes | Opening Plenary | Overwhelm | Kevin Patterson | Turning Fantasies Into Realities | Psychology of BDSM | Polyamory & Masculinity | Intersectional Dating | Blowjobs | Ask...

Here’s the live show we recorded at the Playground Conference in Toronto! We talked about sex and travel: which toys are our suitcase must-haves, how we handle TSA snafus, why we love hotel sex so much, and more! Hellish Bus Ride | Bag of Dicks | Travel Locks | We-Vibe Tango | Tenga SVR | Crave Vesper | TSA Tips | Njoy Eleven | Packers & Collars | Tindering on the Road | Sexpectations | Protoc...

This week Kate interviews porn legend Joanna Angel , of the Burning Angel Empire , about her new venture: a choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel, Night Shift ! We talked masturbation, erotica ethics, tattoos, and more. Authorly Ambitions | Porn Scripts | Book Feedback | Night Shift | Varied Voices | Trucker Culture | Masturbation | Consent | Rachel Kramer Bussel | Sex Vocabulary | Pegging | Tatt...