The Dildorks

Many people get nervous about sexually rejecting partners, or get sad when someone sexually rejects them. This week we’re giving advice on common sexual rejection scenarios!   Sex & Self-Identity | Period Sex | Responsive Desire | AudioDesires.com | Feeling Pouty | Kind Rejection Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private...

Being rejected is hard, and rejecting someone might be even harder. This week we’re delving into the intricacies of romantic rejection!   Soft No’s vs. Hard No’s | Rejecting a Date Nicely | Getting Over Rejection | Media Depictions | Letting Someone Down | Childhood Rejection | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Comforting a Friend Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron...

Navigating polyamory can be difficult even in the best of times, so this week we’re answering listener questions about non-monogamy!   Polycule Crush | Converting a Newbie | Can I Kiss My Metamour? | What Type? | “Too Much Work” | Reopening Post-Pandemic Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus epi...

This week we’re answering questions from the /r/Sex forum on Reddit, on topics such as threesome etiquette, strap-on psychology, and the definition of infidelity!   WTF is Reddit? | Pegging | Sleeping with a Virgin | How Important is Sex? | Happy Ending Massage | Disparate Dick Sizes | About to Come | Squirting from Anal Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to suppo...

Talking to your family about sex can be awkward, but we’re here to help! This week we answer your questions on navigating various sexuality-related situations in family dynamics.   Parents Don’t Like BF | Coming Out as a Sex Worker | Coming Out as Polyamorous | Queer Little Sister | Condoms for Little Sis | Sex Ed Additions | Kinky Uncle | Porn Star Sister | Bex’s Blowjob Class Credits: Music by P...

Lots of folks are struggling with libido issues due to pandemic stress, so this week we thought we’d discuss ways to rekindle your libido when it’s waned. Summoning Sex-Brain | When Does It Wane? | Responsive vs. Spontaneous | Motivation to Rekindle | How to Rekindle | Novelty & Flirting | Not Having Enough Sex | Partner’s Other Dates | Dysphoria | Newly on T | Bad Pain Days | Depression Meds Cred...

Whether your ex is now your best friend or your sworn enemy, it’s evident that relations with exes can be tricky… This week we advised listeners on their various ex dilemmas!   Party Full of Exes | Defining “Ex” | Staying Friends | How to Reconnect | Decoding Intentions | Sex with Exes | Worse Sex | Sex Toys | Go Away Please | Running Into Your Ex | Stop Bringing it Up | Writing About Exes Credits...

Hands and fingers and fists, oh my…! This week we’re talking about hand sex: how to do it, why some people are hesitant to do it, and what makes it feel so damn good.   Fisting on Camera | What’s Fun About It? | Uniqueness & Personality | Proper Technique | External Fingering | Anatomy | Ergonomics | Lube | Penis Tips | Balls | Hand Pleasure | Other Hand Stimulation | Hands Only | Fisting Anxiety...

We talk about kink a lot, but what about fetishes? This week, we’re discussing what it means to have a fetish, what to do if you’re sexually incompatible with a partner, and why hooking up with fetishists is super fun.   Kink vs. Fetish | Where Do They Come From? | Safety Pin Fetish | Media Influences | Playing with Fetishists | Incompatibility | Putting in the Effort | Watersports | Shame & Anger...

This week, we discuss our ever-evolving feelings about casual sex, hookups, and one-night stands!   Anxiety & Awkwardness | The Good & The Bad | Scarcity vs. Abundance | Demisexuality & Hookups | Romance vs. Intimacy | Negotiating a Hookup | Mismatched Expectations | Hookup Activities | Making Porn | Trans Pickup Tips | Getting Kinky Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a pa...

This week we’re answering more listener questions about public sex, including sex in locations like fitting rooms, graveyards, and a moving car!   Beautiful Days | Not Into It | Visible Bruises | Fitting Room Sex | Cemetery Sex | Road Head | Backyard Porn | Single-Stall Bathroom | Packing Under Clothes | “A Femme’s Guide to Hard Packing” | Dream Locations | Sex on the Beach | Makeout Point Credits...

With the weather warming up and vaccines being administered, we figured now would be a good time to talk about public sex, something we’ll be able to do again pretty soon!   Getting Caught | Car Sex | Consent Ethics | Shock Factor | Tips & Tricks | Making Public Porn | Sex Kit | Weirdest Places | Bathroom Sex | Objectum Sexuals | Getting Over Anxiety | Public-Friendly Kinks | Nosy Neighbor | Remot...

We’re revisiting the topic of masochism this week to discuss our current, ever-evolving relationships to pain, and our fave mental techniques for getting through intense masochistic scenes!   Hurts So Good | Relationship to Pain | Self-Care vs. Self-Harm | Hopelessness | Chronic Pain | Rhythmic vs. Random | Stingy vs. Thuddy | Distractions | Practice & Processing | Easy Mode vs. Hard Mode | What i...

Happy 4/20, y’all! One again this year, as is tradition, we’re getting high and asking each other silly sex questions. Enjoy!   Two Strains | Last Prisoner Project | Outsourcing to Our Partners | Fleshlight | Common Misconceptions | Body-Swap | Animal Noises | Combo Sex Toy | Sex Room | Vanilla Partner | VR Sex | Trade Sex Lives Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron...

This week we’re continuing our discussion of limits in kink! Can limits be a fetish? Can limits be toxic? Can limits be gently and safely pushed?   That’s Not My Name | Safely Pushing Limits | Can Limits Be Unreasonable? | Mixing Up Partners | Can Limits Be a Kink? | Can Boundary-Pushers Be Reformed? Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get a...

Your limits are valid! This week we’re talking about hard and soft limits in the realms of sex and kink: what they are, why they’re important, and how to set them clearly and kindly.   “No Limits” | Boundary-Setting | Hard vs. Soft Limits | Gagging & Breath Play | Journal-Reading | How to Know | Feeling Guilty | Imbalance | Hard Limit vs. Need | Setting New Limits | Not a Limit Anymore | Complicat...

What will dating be like after COVID? This week, we’re discussing how (and whether) to re-enter the dating scene after the pandemic.   Tinder Plus | Single-Serving Friends | Twitter as Hallway | In Person vs. Texting | Pre-Pandemic Dating Life | Flirty Energy | Atrophied Social Skills | Gender Differences | Looking Forward | Casual vs. Serious | Higher Standards | Finding the Energy | Date Ideas C...

This week we’re doing a deep dive on medical play! We talk about why we’re into it, what it can look like, and the various tropes and pitfalls associated with it.   Vaccinations | Definition | Mad Scientists | When In Rome | A Higher Purpose | “Female Hysteria” | Bored/Tired Doctors | Structure | Calming Follow-Through | Real-Life Experiences | No Props | Condescension | Doctor’s Arousal | Speculu...

This week Kate is chatting with the Bearded Scotsman , a creator of erotic audio and ASMR files. We discussed consent, chivalry, “Tumblr doms,” and much more!   Getting Into Erotic Audio | Reactions | Immersiveness & Helpfulness | Consent in Media | Tumblr Doms | Safety & Nurturing | Gender Dynamics | Inclusivity | Sexy Voice | Vikings & Victorians | Is Chivalry Dead? | Cringing | Self-Image | Scr...

Relationships between metamours can be tricky, so this week we’re discussing the do’s and don’ts of connecting with your partner’s partner!   Definition | Expectations vs. Reality | Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | Triad Dynamics | Motorcycle Story | The First Meeting | Jealousy & Inadequacy | Sharing Personal Info | Dating a Partner’s Ex | Maintaining a Friendship | Re-Establishing Trust Credits: Music by...

This week we’re answering more questions about the duration of sex: how to deal when it goes on too long, how to ask for a round two, and more!   Sad Cunnilingus | Meditative Headspace | Round Two | Help Them Finish | Kinkifying It | Overstimulation | Novelty Wearing Off | Reassurance | The Purpose of Sex Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and...

A lot of people worry that the sex they have is “too short” or “too long,” so this week we’re answering some listener questions about the duration of sex!   Misconceptions | PIV vs. Sex | Making Accommodations | When Sex Begins | Quickies | Increasing Stamina | “Normal” Stamina | Time of Day | Wandering Mind Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show a...

This week, we’re discussing some of the intricacies of group sex – a type of encounter we’ll hopefully be able to have again someday, post-pandemic!   Friendship Threesomes | Orgies vs. Play Parties | Chickening Out | Transcendence | Fantasy vs. Reality | Anxiety vs. Relaxation | Zoom Orgies | Structure & Spotlight | Self-Judgment | Negotiating | Hosting a Party | Sensory Issues | Too Big? | Check...

Happy Valentine’s week! In this episode we answer some listener questions about celebrating Valentine’s Day.   Love is Art Kit | Clone-a-Willy | Long-Distance Celebrations | Polyamorous Planning | Does V-Day Matter? | Queerifying V-Day | V-Day Ideas For Kinksters | Bad Dates | Early Gifting | Fifth Wheel | Newly Out as Trans Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to s...

This week we’re talking to Eva Bloom – a sex educator, YouTuber, and author – about sexting, casual sex, desire during a pandemic, and more!   Benefits of Sexting | Sexting w/ Cis Men | Walking Out | Masters Thesis | Spicy Flirting | Communication Improvements | Initiating Sexting | Compassionate Casual Sex | Queering the Straight Hookup | Setting Expectations | Filtering Potential Partners | Slut...