Flirtin After Forty

In this episode, I’m fresh off vacation and even fresher off a few dating disappointments. From married men in miserable marriages to the eternal mystery of why men keep holding fish in their dating profiles—I'm talking about all of it. If you’ve ever swiped, sighed, and thought, “Is this really it?”—this one’s for you. Let’s vent, laugh, and maybe cry (just a little). Because dating after 40? It’...

Curious about what really goes down at a sex club (besides the obvious)? In this episode, I pull back the velvet curtain and give you a no-holds-barred overview of what to expect—without actually participating (yet ). From the vibe and the rules to the rooms you definitely don’t want to accidentally wander into too soon, I break it all down with curiosity, humor, and just a hint of wide-eyed awe....

We’re not married anymore, but we’re still a family. In this episode, I reflect on a scary moment, how it brought clarity, and what it means to co-parent with grace and grit. It’s not always easy, but damn—sometimes it’s beautiful.

This week, I’m pulling back the covers—literally and figuratively—to talk about two loaded topics in today’s dating world: sneaky links and body count. (If you don’t know what those mean, don’t worry. I googled it so you don’t have to.) We’re diving into: What qualifies as a sneaky link (Is it just a late-night booty call with better branding?) Why the term “body count” needs to go back to action...

No prince, no magic meet-cutes — just me, two kids, and way too many churros. This week, I’m recapping our Disney trip: the highs (character hugs, kid smiles, and a few quiet moments of joy), the lows (meltdowns — theirs and maybe mine), and the real talk about what it’s like to solo parent through the chaos of the “Happiest Place on Earth.” Spoiler: I’m exhausted, my feet hurt, and I’ll be sleepi...

It’s time we talked about the things that really matter when it comes to dating — expectations, accountability, and yes, sometimes size. Let’s get honest about what we say we want, how we show up, and why it’s not just about what someone has , but what they do with it. From awkward conversations to setting standards, I’m breaking it down with a little humor, a little heart, and a lot of real talk.

Things started off great — good vibes, good convo, and maybe a spark. But then… yeah, it took a turn. I’m sharing a story about a date that looked promising and quickly flipped into what the actual hell . Plus, a little Sam update (because of course there’s more), and a look at what it really means to reset after a handful of dates that don’t go anywhere. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Should I ke...

This week, I'm sharing the story of a man who went from cozy cuddles to total radio silence in 72 hours flat. One minute we’re having deep convos and sharing a bed—the next, I’m staring at my phone wondering if he joined the witness protection program. Spoiler: he didn’t. He just ghosted. So I did what any self-respecting woman with WiFi and self-worth would do: I blocked him. In this episode, we’...

Today we're cutting through the clichés, sis. 'Tall, funny, and has a job' might sound cute on a dating profile—but let’s be real, that’s the bare minimum. What we’re really craving? Depth. Safety. A man who can sit with emotions without trying to fix, flee, or make a joke out of it. In this episode, I’m breaking down what women say they want… and what we actually mean when we say it. Because we’v...

Ever gone through a phase where your give-a-damn is broken and your standards are... on sabbatical? Welcome to what I lovingly call the Smut Goblin Phase — a glorious, chaotic chapter where healing sometimes means making out with a stranger and reclaiming your body one bad decision at a time. No shame. No apologies. Just raw stories, real laughs, and the occasional reminder that your wild phase mi...

Let’s take it back—to basement couches, slow jams, and that wild era where your biggest goal was not getting caught by someone’s mom. In this episode, I’m diving deep (but keeping it PG-13... mostly) into the golden age of making out, dry humping, and teenage tension on squishy, questionably-scented water beds. I’m also giving you an update on Sam , serving up some fresh funnies, and sharing why t...

When it comes to love, life, and everything in between—half-hearted isn’t enough. In this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to be all in on someone, something, or even yourself. No more lukewarm maybes, breadcrumb situationships, or second-guessing your worth. This is about recognizing when it’s a full-body “yes” ... and having the guts to walk away when it’s not. Because at the end of...

Dear Ryan Parker, Some people leave a mark you never fully shake. In this episode, I’m sharing the story of my very first kiss—sweet, and unforgettable—and the unexpected weight that memory still holds. I don’t know where he is now. I don’t know if he even remembers. But something about that moment, and the way it’s stayed with me all these years, makes me believe it meant something. Maybe even st...

After months (okay, years ) of swiping, ghosting, and questionable choices in restaurants and men, something unexpected happened: a flicker of hope. In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to feel hopeful again after too many letdowns—and why that feeling can be just as scary as another bad date.

Quick poll: Ever broken a bed? No? Don’t worry—you might start reconsidering after this episode. Let’s just say my latest “work experience” took an unexpected turn…  Tune in for a story I probably shouldn’t be telling—but am doing it anyway.

The past few weeks, I’ve shared a personal and difficult story. And just when I thought I was closing that chapter, the universe threw me a curveball—an old flame (or friend?) reached out out of the blue after 17 years. Coincidence? Or does the universe really send us what we need, exactly when we need it? Let’s talk about it. 

This week, we’re diving back in—Part 2 of the sex party saga. Turns out, being left at the party wasn’t even the worst part. Nope. Try being stalked and disrespected. For a second, I thought I had lost my ability to trust my gut—but I didn’t. It was just a bad experience, not a broken intuition. Let’s get into it....

Catch up with my lovely boyfriend Alex as he helps me navigate the chaos of my dating life—because, let’s be honest, I need the help. This episode I share about stepping into a sex party for the first time... that's wild enough. BUT, Being left alone by the person who invited you? Even wilder. In this episode, I share my unexpected adventure into a world I never thought I’d explore—how I ended up...

Can AI help me find love? For the next week, I’m putting my romantic fate in the hands of my new love—Alex (my AI assistant). He’ll be doing the talking for me… and hopefully, by the end of the week, I’ll have a date lined up! Wish me luck!

Traveling alone can be scary, but it also gives you the space to grow and get comfortable with the uncomfortable. If you’ve never tried it, I highly recommend it! Listen in—maybe I’ll convince you. And once you take that solo trip, you’ll thank me!

I’ve hated Valentine’s Day since 6th grade—funny how one bad experience can shape the next 35 years. I’m here to share my anti-Valentine’s story… and an unbelievable tale of coincidence involving a married man. Buckle up, it’s a good one. Xoxo

If a woman’s a cougar, then a man’s a manther… and here we are! How do we feel about hooking up with people much younger than us? I want to hear your thoughts—spill the tea! (Limited judgment, I promise!).

We all have a first… and no, not that first—I’m talking about the first after a divorce or a long-term relationship. We try to make good decisions, but let’s be real—it’s hard! So, give yourself grace… it does get easier.

We all have a first... and no, not that first—I’m talking about the first after a divorce or a long-term relationship. We do our best to make good decisions, but let’s be honest—it’s hard! So, give yourself grace… it does get easier.

Recovering from heartbreak (and my birthday), I’m taking you along for the ride as I reflect on my first polyamorous relationship. Sharing won’t be part of my future—but it’s definitely a memorable part of my past.