HERself

You already know we’re open books around here, so when we sat down to record an episode of things you might not know about us, we quickly realized… this was harder than it sounded! We share so much on this podcast, but we did manage to find a few fun and unexpected things that even our most loyal listeners may not have heard before. Amy kicks things off by sharing one about Abby—let’s just say Abb...

In a world of all kinds of parenting information Abby and Amy have really honed in on what their true core values are when it comes to raising their kids. In today’s episode they dive into their core parenting pillars. In this episode, you’ll hear heartfelt stories and practical parenting tips centered around defining family values, embracing differences, and fostering inclusion. The conversation...

The subject of in-laws is one that hits home for many of us—and today’s conversation with Dr. Tracy D goes deep. One of our most downloaded episodes ever featured her, and we knew we had to bring her back to talk about what’s changed, what hasn’t, and how to navigate these tricky family patterns in new seasons of life. You didn’t just marry your partner—you married into their family’s patterns. Wh...

Aging has been on our minds a lot lately. At 39, we’re standing on the edge of a new decade, and with that, we continue to have more  conversations around perimenopause, energy levels, and taking care of our bodies. In this episode, we’re opening up about what aging looks and feels like for us right now—the struggles, the science, accepting it, and the ways we’re finding strength in this next chap...

Parenting school-age kids comes with a unique set of challenges—from overflowing backpacks and sports schedules to snacks, lunches, uniforms, and the endless drop-offs and pick-ups. It’s a lot to manage, and the truth is: no one can do it all alone. We open up about what it looks like in our households to share the parenting load and how we’ve learned to find balance with our partners over the las...

Have you ever caught yourself sounding just like your parents? Today we reflect on the lessons—both spoken and unspoken—that our parents, coaches, and role models left with us, and how they’ve shaped the women and moms we are today. From confidence and community to money and independence, these life lessons are now the ones we’re passing down to our own kids. Amy shares how her mom’s approach to a...

Marriage is a constant journey of learning, growth, and reminding ourselves of the basics—especially during stressful seasons. In this week’s episode, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our own marriages to share the top three lessons we’ve each learned with our spouses over the years. We kick things off with a little chit chat (thanks to Colin for the idea!) about what we’ve been reading and w...

Conflict is a natural part of every relationship—whether it’s in marriage, friendship, family, or work. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the 5 different conflict styles (the accommodator, the avoider, the compromiser, the competitor, and the collaborator) and exploring how they show up in our lives. We share personal stories and examples of how conflict plays out differently in our marria...

Since it’s a holiday here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our most downloaded and loved episodes of all time—with none other than the incredible Shrink Chicks, Emmalee and Jennifer, co-founders of The Therapy Group. These two women are experts in relationships, and in this conversation, we dig deep into what happens after kids enter the picture. From navigating conflict and working through...

As moms, we know every season brings new challenges, and summer can be one of the hardest to navigate. In this week’s episode, we share an honest summer recap—the wins, the struggles, and the lessons we’re carrying into fall and beyond. From childcare challenges to balancing marriage and motherhood, we open up about the good, the bad, and the messy parts of parenting during the summer months. Chil...

Happiness. For some, the word sparks joy. For others, it feels complicated. In this episode, we’re unpacking what happiness truly means — and why our own perspectives on the word itself are surprisingly different. Inspired by research from a UC Berkeley professor who studies happiness, we explore three key factors proven to boost your well-being: Human connection — why in-person connection is esse...

In this episode, we're answering your questions—everything from serious parenting dilemmas to fun, rapid-fire get-to-know-you questions. We kick things off by digging into thoughtful, vulnerable topics like: How to help kids develop a tolerance for discomfort. What to do when someone you care about is in a toxic relationship. How to respond when family members ignore birthday invitations. Par...

If you're raising a child who feels everything deeply and expresses it loudly , this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into a topic that sparked our biggest listener response ever—first explored in Episode 157 with Claire Lerner —and it’s all about parenting children with big reactions. Both of us are moms to what we lovingly call “big reactors.” These are the kids whose emotional outbu...

Is sibling fighting driving you up the wall lately? You’re not alone—and this episode is straight from the heart of our community’s requests. In this conversation, we're diving into real-life strategies to help parents navigate sibling conflicts with more confidence and less chaos. First things first: sibling fighting is normal! In fact, sibling relationships are the training ground for learn...

Are youth sports taking over your calendar? You’re not alone. In this episode, we—two moms raising three kids each in a sports-loving community—open up about the challenges and joys of navigating youth sports with kids aged 9, 7, 6, and 4.5. We get real about what it means to be a sports family , how our own upbringings shape our decisions, and why it’s okay to press pause and ask: “Is this still...

Heads up: This episode contains adult content—pop in your earbuds if the kids are around! We are excited to dive into a topic we haven’t discussed in a while: intimacy. Whether you're newly postpartum or deep in the trenches of parenting, we know that maintaining a healthy sex life with your partner can feel complicated—and sometimes like just another thing on your to-do list. We’re sharing w...

If you’re parenting little ones now, the idea of raising pre-teens or teenagers might feel far off—or a little intimidating. These years often come with a tough reputation, but what if they didn’t have to? In this insightful episode, we’re joined by pediatrician Dr. Hina Talib to talk about how we can start preparing now to enter the teen years with more confidence, connection, and compassion. Too...

In this heartfelt Amy and Abby episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to both of our hearts: our health and our relationship with our bodies. If you’ve been a long-time listener, you know how important this conversation is to us — and how complex it can be. We begin by sharing pivotal moments from our high school years—each involving a coach’s comment that stuck with us for decades. One o...

Last week, our partners Drew and Colin joined us to talk all things partnerships—and they’re back today, but this time we’re diving into the world of parenting. We know many of you love hearing a father’s perspective, and in this episode, Drew and Colin share candid insights, relatable struggles, and plenty of wisdom from their own parenting journeys. We talk about what’s going well for us as pare...

We are excited to have our husbands back on the podcast today. If you are new to the show, Drew is Amy’s husband and Colin is married to Abby. We have both been married for 11 years and the guys tend to be a crowd favorite around here.  Today we are focusing on our partnerships. The men truly have no problem getting deep with their answers and hold nothing back! They share what’s working well, wha...

Summer takes on a whole new feeling when your kids are school aged, and today we’re breaking down our tips and lessons learned. We honestly didn’t understand why summer felt so stressful for parents until we entered this phase of life, and so we are talking about what this transition has looked and felt like. As we emphasize the importance of being present in the moment, setting realistic expectat...

We are so excited to tell you about the direction we are taking the HERself podcast for the summer! If you like this new format, be sure and let us know. You, the listeners, are such an integral part of what we do here at the HERself podcast and we want to make sure we are creating content that resonates with you. In this episode we delve into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusi...

With this being a holiday weekend, we invite you to relisten to one of our most listened to episodes! We had so much positive feedback when this episode went live since it was one of the first times we had a male perspective on the podcast. If you haven’t listened yet, it’s a great alternate perspective and a great one to pass along to your male partners! Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a dad of two...

*trigger warning, abusive relationships* We feel it’s important to have open and honest discussions about heavy topics in this safe space that is the HERself podcast. In today’s episode, we will be asking the hard questions about narcissism with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, licensed clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse. Dr. Jaime will help us understand the difference between a person wi...

Modern day friendships - why do they feel so hard? Did you know each of your friendships have an “about” section for your origin story? Why do I still feel lonely even though I have close friends? Friendships enrich our lives so much, but we understand that it can be hard to maintain old friendships and find the time to make meaningful new ones as busy moms! We are so pleased to have author, speak...