Emotional Intelligence Developer

Somebody says, "Giraffe," from the back of the room. Somebody else asks, "Did you forget your booster seat?"And a boy who only answered a question in class hears, "Do you ever turn it down?"Three sentences. Three people. And by the end of the day, all three are wondering whether they should take up a little less space. Maybe you've been bullied for being too tall. Maybe people constantly comment o...

It starts with a container opening at a lunch table. A smell. A face scrunched up."OMG, what's that?"Then somebody laughs, somebody else joins in, and suddenly the food you've eaten at home your whole life has become the joke of the table. Nobody claps. Nobody has to. The next day, you look at the same food in the kitchen and remember what happened. Maybe you leave it behind. Maybe you choose a sa...

Why I Love My Braces On My Teeth and Why Your Words Don't Bully Me. Metal mouth. Brace face. Tin grin. Three shouts in a hallway, and by the time the last class of the day starts, someone has stopped smiling in photos. This episode follows that walk through school, the moment a joke turns into a thought, and the thought turns into a habit of covering your mouth when you laugh. It sits with what ha...

Girl, You're Not Nice! You're Acting."Sure."You didn't even think about it. Someone asks you for a favour, asks you to take something on, or asks whether you're okay with something, and the answer is already out of your mouth before you've worked out what you actually want."Sure, no problem."Then later, you're alone, replaying the conversation. Why did I say yes? You didn't want to. You were alrea...

Me, Clive, the founder of emotional intelligence developer, I believe in you. Regardless of others out there telling you something else, I, the founder of emotional intelligence developer, I believe in you. Take this and keep it, one day you’ll reach out to me and tell me how this message touched you and gave you something to keep going. I have a lot of people who’ve helped me and I have had the p...

Why did this title catch your eye? Why did it motivate you to listen in? No matter where you are in the world we’re all driven to make something of our lives. Unfortunately, we do not have the same upbringing leading a lot of us to give up because of our circumstances. I wasn’t born rich. I didn’t have a lot growing up. I barely learned how to use the computer at a young age, I literally learned t...

You send a message. No reply. So you check your phone again. Then again. You start replaying the last conversation, wondering whether you said something wrong, whether they're upset, or whether something has changed. Then the phone lights up."Hey."And suddenly, you're okay again. This episode sits inside that uncomfortable space where your partner's attention, mood, silence, or reassurance can sta...

"How are you?" "Good."That exchange happens all the time, but sometimes the answer tells you almost nothing. This episode sits inside the gap between being asked how you're doing and actually being given enough space to answer. It’s the conversation at the gym where nobody mentions what’s really going on. The friend you can joke with for two hours without saying you're struggling. The drive home w...

There’s that one person who didn’t believe. They listened and they brush you aside. They said OKAY, try it and let’s see where this goes, but deep down you knew they weren’t convinced. Then, one day, you heard someone speak about how the person you told spoke about you and what you told them in an absurd way. When speaking to other people they said you were a fool and had a fool’s idea. Who didn’t...

I have a dream, that is mine and I see where I want to be and how I want to achieve it. The only problem with a dream is that it is intimate. How I feel about it, and what I see when I envision it can look different in someone’s eyes. When you tell people that you’re attracted to a certain person and they look at you and say, who? So, you’re attracted to that? To them it’s a big mistake and they d...

Your phone buzzes at 11pm. It's your friend. Something has happened. They need to talk. Right now. So you answer. You listen for an hour. You hear the whole story. You give advice. You reassure them. You tell them they'll get through it. They feel better. You hang up. And then you lie there thinking about your own week. The thing that's been bothering you. The thing you haven't told anyone. The th...

One second you're mid conversation. The next, nothing. Not a slammed door. Not raised voices. Just quiet, and somehow the quiet is louder than any argument. You ask, "Are you okay?"Nothing."Did I say something?"Nothing. Later, you're standing in the kitchen while your partner pours coffee two feet away from you without saying a word. You say good morning. Nothing. You start wondering whether you s...

You ask for one small thing and get silence. An eye roll. A muttered "nothing."Or a bedroom door that closes just a little too carefully. It's not always loud. That's what makes it so difficult to name. You remember when your child used to tell you everything. What happened at school. Who said what. The little things that seemed completely unimportant at the time. Now you ask, "How was your day?""...

You wake up and check your account before you check your messages. Not because you’re expecting good news. Because you need to know if you can make it through the day. Can you afford bread and milk? Can you afford transport to work? If you spend that money getting there, will you have enough to get back home? Then the questions get bigger. Why am I still struggling? Am I bad with money? Should I b...

If your boss puts you down in front of others, corrects you like you're stupid, threatens you with warnings, or brings up your mistakes to embarrass you, this episode is for you. This isn't about having a demanding boss or receiving legitimate criticism. It's about what happens when someone uses their position and authority to make you feel small, intimidated, or constantly on edge. The difficult...

What if you're not actually ready for sex, but you're afraid your friends will think you're less of a man if you say no? Let's talk about it. Boys can face serious pressure around sex. Friends, group chats, social media, relationships and the fear of being the only one who hasn't "done it" can turn sex into a competition. But having sexual experience doesn't prove you're a man, and being a virgin...

Emotional intelligence isn't something you only need in theory. It shows up when someone embarrasses you in front of other people. When a friend cancels on you for the third time. When your partner suddenly shuts down during an argument. When someone else gets the promotion you thought was yours. Or when a family member says something personal at the worst possible moment. These are ordinary situa...

No filters. No pretending. No talking down to girls. Let's have the conversation that too many young girls are already having in their heads, but don't always have with someone they trust. Should I have sex before I'm 18?With social media, relationships, music, television and conversations with friends, young people are exposed to information about sex earlier than ever. Sometimes it can feel like...

Starting college brings a wave of change most people are not emotionally prepared for. New city. New people. New freedom. New pressure. And suddenly, you're expected to manage your studies, relationships, money, friendships, emotions, and future while you're still figuring yourself out. This episode explores five emotional intelligence activities that can help college students understand themselve...

You get the message. You feel disrespected. You get angry. And before you've even had time to think, you've already reacted. But what if the real problem isn't the emotion? What if it's what happens between the emotion and your response? In this episode of the Emotional Intelligence Developer Podcast, we look at what happens when anger, frustration, rejection and assumptions take over. Using every...

Superintelligence is becoming one of the biggest words in the conversation about where artificial intelligence is heading. AI is already changing how we work, communicate, create, consume information, and spend our attention. But while businesses race to build increasingly intelligent machines, there is another form of intelligence humans cannot afford to neglect: Emotional Intelligence .AI can pr...

Have you ever explained yourself over and over again, hoping someone would finally understand? You explain what happened. You explain how you feel. You explain why you made your decision. And somehow, you're still defending yourself. But what if they understood you the first time? In this episode of the Emotional Intelligence Developer Podcast, we explore the difference between communication and s...

Can being too nice actually hurt your relationships? We’re constantly told to be kind, patient, generous and understanding. But what happens when being nice means you can’t say no, you avoid conflict, tolerate disrespect, or constantly put other people’s needs before your own? In this episode of the Emotional Intelligence Developer Podcast, we look at the difference between genuine kindness and pe...

Almost every story about being wronged has a missing middle, the part where the storyteller played a role too. That doesn't mean you caused everything that happened to you. It doesn't mean the other person was innocent. And it certainly doesn't mean you deserved to be mistreated. But sometimes, somewhere between what happened to us and how the situation ended, we reacted, escalated, assumed, attac...

Somebody says something disrespectful, pushes the right button, and suddenly you can feel yourself getting angry. You know they're trying to provoke you. You know you shouldn't react. But in that moment, staying calm can be much harder than it sounds. In this episode, I talk honestly about that moment when anger takes over and you feel the urge to say something back. We explore the difference betw...