Things That Will Help

In this deeply personal and tender episode, Buffy opens her heart and shares the journey of her mom Vivian’s breast cancer—from her diagnosis a decade ago, to the present moment of making the decision to call hospice. Buffy reflects on a conversation with Vivian’s longtime oncologist, on telling her children about the upcoming transition, and on the moving dialogue that unfolded between Otis and V...

In this episode, Buffy introduces the Circle of Willis — a vital loop of arteries that keeps blood flowing to our brains, even when part of the path is blocked. She uses this miraculous piece of human design as a powerful metaphor: when life blocks one path, it often quietly reroutes us to another, sometimes better, direction. This divine circulation redirects us when we’re stuck, keeps us alive,...

This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consciously choose. What would it look like to pause, question, and redefine them? Buffy asks questions like: What expectations are we unconsciously trying to me...

What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep? Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challenging it can be to release something we've poured ourselves into. She posits that staying out of habit, history, or fear of change can block the natural evolut...

At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find our way forward. What could be possible when you purposefully witness meaningful transitions in your life? Ceremony creates a space to pause, digest meaning,...

In this episode, Buffy explores the quiet power of specificity, and considers how precise, thoughtful feedback can leave a lasting mark. From Mr. Rogers’ letter-writing habits to Oprah's fourth grade teacher, Buffy shares stories that illustrate how specificity deepens connection, affirms identity, and answers our deep human desire to be seen. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week&ap...

Buffy opens this week’s episode by talking about the part vs. the whole; how, in times of great change, we usually don’t get to understand why something is happening to us. Meaning, and wisdom, arrive slowly and often in small moments. This episode is an invitation to make your life smaller. To eliminate what’s not necessary, reject what doesn’t truly feed and nourish you, so that what is beautifu...

In this episode, Buffy explores the difference between a goal-oriented, legacy mindset vs. navigating your life like a laboratory. What if your life isn't something to perfect, but something to experiment with? What if it's not about leaving a mark, but about listening for what’s next? This episode is an invitation to stay tuned. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's epis...

In part two of this special conversation, Buffy and Tina continue their discussion on love, loss, and Brody’s lasting impact. Tina shares how writing became a lifeline throughout Brody’s illness and grief, offering a glimpse into the book that is emerging from her journey. They also explore the breath, mindfulness, and meditation practices that carried their family through the hardest moments—and...

Three years ago, Buffy’s dear friend Tina Porter faced the unimaginable—losing her son, Brody, to an aggressive brain tumor. In this special episode, Buffy and Tina come together for a heartfelt closet session to reflect on love, loss, and the lasting impact of Brody’s life. They discuss the beauty of his legacy and the practices that carried Tina and her family through both his passing and the gr...

In this episode, Buffy explores the juxtaposition between belonging and dissonance. She talks about the way communities can lighten the load and encourage bravery and belonging - as well as the pitfalls of what happens when we only surround ourselves with what feels familiar. Buffy challenges us to get curious about what is not like us through stories of post-car crashes, sheer tops, and unexpecte...

How does deep listening shape the way we experience life? How does it help us notice what we might otherwise overlook? Buffy reflects on the shift from doing into being, and how fulfillment can meet us when we let ourselves be present with our process. She talks about the connection between listening and play, and how joy and creativity can deepen our relationship to our inner life. Buffy leaves l...

In this episode, Buffy shares the things she’s choosing to cut from her life, and what she’s making room for instead.  This conversation is an invitation for you to reflect: What could you cut? What could you create? How can you shape your life to support your vitality and amplify your state of presence? Tune in for an honest exploration of subtraction, intention, and the space we make for what tr...

This episode is a hodgepodge of beauty and hope. In this historically monumental time, Buffy highlights importance of taking deep care and paying attention to what is good and beautiful. Your attention is a precious and finite resource. This episode is a reminder of the importance of using that resource well, and with skill, by focusing on magic and synchronicity alongside the pain and the sufferi...

Where are you putting your creative energy and life force? What projects do you have in the works that need support, or that want to be moved forward? Buffy tells stories of auspicious bird-of-prey sightings, friendship, and drop-down menus to help you orient to where you are - right now, today, and this year - in order to bring your art, and your heart, into being. 🌱 Find the accompanying playli...

This week's episode is about the signs, sparks, and detours that sometimes subtly, sometimes suddenly, change the course of your life. Buffy tells stories of worry stones, guidance, and synchronicities, and encourages us to follow the cosmic bread crumbs that are divinely placed for us to follow. It takes a combination of courage and quiet to actually experience and receive these sparks - are...

This episode explores the ever-unfolding process of becoming. What are our interests, passions, and focus, and how do they transform over the course of our lives? How do we transform? Buffy invites listeners to explore how their dreams and interests have changed over time, encouraging a compassionate approach to letting go of outdated aspirations. She shares practical and inspiring ways to recycle...

This week's episode is a practical plan to support in your anxiety. There are different practices to help you access your body, soothe your mind, and tend to your heart. Bookmark this episode as a friend to come back to when you need tangible and practical ways to support your inner world. You can find the full written list here . 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode...

This episode is dedicated to the process of growth and the ways that affects who walks alongside us in our own journeys. We are ever-evolving beings, and if you are listening to this podcast, it is likely you consider the nature of your personal transformation throughout your life. What happens when you become unrecognizable to others through life circumstances, purposeful change, or both? Buffy t...

In foundation-shaking times, where do we turn? Buffy speaks to the moment of reckoning and unrest with the important reminder to do the work of living, and to live with as much presence as possible. She turns listeners towards the lighthouses that are readily available to us at this time, and how to keep our eyes on the horizon and on each other. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week&apos...

The process of writing a letter, in an authentic way, changes you. It marks something, and it is exchange of energy, whether it is delivered to the person it was meant for, or not. Buffy offers the wisdom letters can hold when we write them to our past selves, our future selves, to people who help us, and others who hurt us. Writing letters and receiving letters alchemizes us, and in this episode...

It is easy for challenging moments in our lives to capture our attention and energy; it is perhaps much more difficult to pay attention to what's beautiful, true, and brings us joy. In this episode, Buffy encourages more presence and attention to what we enjoy - not to bypass the pain, but to build our reserves in order to face what's challenging in our lives with more fortitude, ease, a...

What is mine now? What is mine for later? What is not mine at all? Buffy offers definitions for these piles that offer clarity, save time, and protect emotional energy. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the podcast on Patreon! Patreon members support the p...

As a treat for listeners this week, Buffy brings on her husband Matt to deliver a speech he recently gave to a group of thousands about fear, bravery, perfection, and the ways they are all braided together. Matt tells stories of his first time performing music, a missed shot, and the phone call that started it all. What would your reality look like if you released yourself from the illusion of per...

You are probably managing an impossible soup of lightning-quick news cycles, a daily-changing world, a complex inner life, all while remembering the tasks that make your life run.  Are you feeling disconnected or overwhelmed in it? In this episode, Buffy talks to listeners about how slowing down can support the endeavor to regulate our nervous systems, bolster hope, and prioritize connection. 🌱 F...