The Timer's Playbook

My conversation with Lebo dealt with raising kids in a creative environment, trying to reconnect with a father that's never been present and how to manage a pre-teen girl child, without alienating the rest of the family. 

After we concluded our conversation in Episode 24, Chilli flipped the script. He had some question for me and our chat continued from there. Check out Episode 24 to get context on this conversation. 

Getting married young, then divorced, a messy custody battle and being a single father, Chillimane has seen and experienced it all! 

Going to big school must a scary thing for our little ones, and I guess for parents too! But how do parents decide on how and where to educate their children? Is this decision driven by finances, values, location or legacy or is it a combination of all these things?  

Imagine growing in household where you feel unwanted. How does this impact the type of father you become. This is King's story and how has to overcome his father in order to be a father. 

Soweto based Artist and musician shares his views on fatherhood. 

What habits or traits have we picked up from our parents that are so entrenched in us and are hard to break because at times we aren't even aware of they come from? 

In this episode I catch up with an old friend. We first met as young men, and we meet again as grown men and fathers. 

Themba Hadebe is one of the young men I mentor. He is 18, doing his matric year, and I wanted to get a sense of where his head space is as a teenager in modern day South Africa. 

It is Father's Day 2022, and as always it is time for fathers to reflect. In this rebroadcast special, Tshepo Pule unpacks the everlasting effects of his tempestuous relationship with his father.

On June 16, 2022, as it is known as Youth Day in South Africa, I catch up with one of my mentees, Andile Tshabalala. A thoughtful soul that is wise beyond his age! 

Parents play such a significant role in the kind of parents we become. We pick up a lot from them and discard some other things but nothing beats a present and engaged father! 

Nothing brings life in sharp focus than perceived imminent death. Zuko has a new lease on life, after over 20 years he became a father again, wants to give back even more and live life to the fullest!

How do you regain your children's trust once it's lost? This episode deals with this and so much more. Njabulo admits openly that he is a work in progress, so is his family, marriage and relationships. 

I have always wondered what Home Schooling is and what it is not. What is clear is that there is no one size fits all to how we raise and educate our children. This is the Millar family's story in how they decided to ready their children for the world. 

Polygamy, perceptions of what man hood is, raising a girl child and dealing with your own demons are just some of the themes touched on in this episode. It is always a pleasure talking to my friend because he is open and honest with his life. 

Tshepo takes time to reflect on the podcast so far and the need to continue and grow. 

Learn to Swim Instructor and Coach, Sarah Groenewald joins us to talk about water safety in and around the pool for both kids and parents. 

This episode touched on ideology we learned at Boy Schools, township vs suburban life, Religion and how best to discipline kids. 

The formative years are critical in the rearing and development of children. This episode unpacks why this is so and how fathers can prepare for this stage in their children's lives.

Life happens. When it does, how do you pivot to make your life better and your children's lives even better? This is Tumza's journey in navigating fatherhood at an early age, and coming out triumphant on the other side. 

Wives are amazing, they make life and parenting so much better. However, just like us men they are far from perfect. My wife is back on the show to share some of her childhood stories, and how her experiences have impacted how we raise our boys. 

"My father was a tyrant who ended up being my best friend" 

How do you deal with a sickly toddler? In this episode, my friend, Gani, shares with me, for the first time, that his kid caught an infectious disease at a very young age. As a result, his kid lagged in his development. We also chopped it up his struggles in finding full time employment, the real cost of marriage, black tax and what he learned from his pops.

Doctors told the Sebidis they might never have chlidren. How did Jabu and his wife Jay overcome the seemingly impossible to eventually have a 'miracle baby'?