The New Sensitive

Hi Soothers! Today I do one of my favorite types of podcasts, a wide-ranging listener Q&A. I asked for your Qs about becoming a biz owner and life coach and you delivered! In this episode I answer about certifications and if they are or aren't necessary; how to overcome perfectionism and fear of judgment in starting a business; goal-setting in business; some tips on boring logistical stuf...

Today I talk about my journey of healing from codependency and people-pleasing through leaving the 9-5 system and starting to work for myself. I never, NEVER desired to be an entrepreneur or to work for myself, but in my late 30s, after 4 corporate jobs, I realized... this ain't ever gonna change. At the same time I was beginning my codependency and people-pleasing recovery journey, and reali...

What's up my fellow people-pleasers, this one goes out to you. Codependency and people-pleasing stem from, at their core, a lack of identity. One of the primary ways a codependent struggles is because we never had the chance to develop a sense of identity that is independent of what others think of us. As we recover from people-pleasing and codependency, one small but effective shift is to st...

What does it mean to surrender? And why do we struggle so mightily with the concept, and resistance to it? And even if we understand we must surrender, how do we actually start? I ponder and explore the concept of surrender in our lives in today's podcast. The waitlist for Secretly Ambitious, the 12-week business course for highly sensitive people who want to start their own business but don&...

People-pleasing. Money mindset. Permission mindset and employee thinking. Nervous system dysregulation. Fear of visibility. What do these all have in common? These are just a few of the things that block highly sensitive people from success in entrepreneurship.  When I started my own business, I thought I would have to learn like, Quick Books. Turned out what I actually needed to focus on was thes...

Today I go on a rant that's been on my heart for a while: all about why your 9-5 is NOT more "stable," "secure," or "safe" than working for yourself and starting your own business. Trust me on this one; after nearly two decades in a corporate 9-5 environment, I can tell you this: I hate to break it to you, but your corporate 9-5 is not more secure than you starti...

Hi Soothers! In today's podcast, I talked about a real-time trigger happened recently around a female friendship/feeling left out wound. I discuss what the trigger was, how I noticed it, moved through it, and healed it, and the powerful outcome it had for me. I also share 6 steps to how you can process and heal your own triggers. To be triggered is to be human, but there ARE tools we can use...

Ever tried affirmations but they just fell flat?  If you're anything like me, you know that affirmations are a big cornerstone and tenet of self-development but they never fully just... clicked for you. Maybe they felt fake, they felt lame, you couldn't really actually believe they would work, or the affirmations you heard about felt like such a load of toxic positive hooey ("I am a...

The shadow is a psychological term for everything we can’t see in ourselves, or that we refuse to see. It is everything about us that we have been shamed about, or that we have chosen to reject in ourselves. And shadow work is truly the work of discovering a hidden wound we may not even have been aware we had, and beginning to heal it so we can be our full, whole, authentic selves. As Debbie Ford...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you the third and final day of audio from my free three-day dating event I held last week in celebration of Introduction to Intentional Dating course . Today I teach a presentation on mindset in dating, what your mindset has to do with dating, and steps to begin to create your own personal mindset practice. Get out a pen and paper, there are live exe...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you the second day of audio from my free three-day dating event I held last week in celebration of Introduction to Intentional Dating course . Today I teach a presentation on how to rewire the nervous system in dating and my 5-step process to rewire your nervous system responses in the moment. Get out a pen and paper, there are live exercises! Enroll...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you the first day of audio from my free three-day dating event I held last week in celebration of Introduction to Intentional Dating course . Today I teach a presentation on anxiety in dating, what it has to do with relational wounding and the inner child, and steps to overcome it. Get out a pen and paper, there are live exercises! Enrollment closes...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you an amazing interview with Kelly, a past student of my Introduction to Intentional Dating course .  She says of IID: "It was a very interesting and evocative format and it synthesized a lot of areas of psychology and energetics I wouldn't have ever placed in the context of dating previously. It helped me heal from the resentment of my pr...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you an amazing interview with Sarah, a past student of my Introduction to Intentional Dating course . She took the course... "because I decided when I turned 40 that I wanted to prioritize love (in all its forms) for the next decade. I spent a long time using my career as an excuse for being single, and realized my self-proclaimed workaholism wa...

Hi Soothers! I'm so excited today to bring you an amazing interview with Afua Ofosu-Barko, a past student of my Introduction to Intentional Dating course . Afua took the course with me in 2020 and says of it, "Course was phenomenal. Literally life changing. Not an exaggeration to say it amazingly impacted all the relationships in my life. It's the adult school we all desperately nee...

I'm posting a mini-series from my Instagram, mini dating lessons! Today I talk about what inner child work is and why it matters in dating. Ready to transform your dating life from overwhelming and filled with anxiety to intentional and grounded and fully of clarity? Sign up now for my Introduction to Intentional Dating . We're open in April and the course begins in May 2022. The Sunday...

I'm posting a mini-series from my Instagram, mini dating lessons! Today I talk about 3 steps to creating a dating mindset practice that you can start right away. Ready to transform your dating life from overwhelming and filled with anxiety to intentional and grounded and fully of clarity? Sign up now for my Introduction to Intentional Dating . We're open in April and the course begins in...

The word "mindset" is thrown around a lot in the healing and growth world, but what the fuck does it even mean? That was what I was always wondering when I started my personal growth and healing journey. Today I concretely explain what exactly mindset work actually is, why it matters, and how your mindset impacts your dating life. I also offer a couple of short live exercises for you to...

What does the nervous system have to do with your dating journey? What DOESN'T it have to do with it, is more like it. As we navigate the ups and downs of dating, and the areas in which our attachment styles may be triggered via dating, our nervous system is the lens through which we either get activated and feel threatened in dating, or feel grounded and secure. When we begin to understand d...

In today's episode, I spill the details on my Introduction to Intentional Dating course . How does it actually, like...work? Why will it work for *you*? (And it will .) What are each of the modules about? And how did I use this work in my own personal growth in dating? If you're considering taking my dating course, this is the episode you'll want to listen to to get all of your ques...

Today I answer a reader's question about my ~journey~ to becoming a life coach. I talk about it all; the two or three years it took me to gain up the courage to get certified, then go full-time; the ups and downs of my first year; how I quintupled my revenue and impact my second year; and what I have planned for the next year and more. I share how if you're thinking about becoming a life...

Hi Soothers! On today's podcast, I talk about a cycle I spent many years stuck in and I see you all stuck in too: the seductive self help cycle of the perfectionist fantasy goal, how it dysregulates your nervous system, crashes you into a shame spiral, and then sneakily seduces you into it all over again, keeping you stuck in a cycle of planning huge impossible goals to make yourself feel bet...

Hi Soothers! Today I'm diving into a more spiritual episode as I explain lessons I've learned from my own spiritual journey and awakening that have led me to understand certain ways and patterns in which the universe tends to work with you as you grow along your path. Join as I explain in practical, grounded terms concepts like surrendering to the universe, why the universe may "tes...

Hi Soothers! Today I address what I know is one of the most painful and pressing issues for my community: our inner critics. I delve into the story of my inner critic, how I didn't even realize I had one until my late 30s, what I tried and didn't work to heal it, and then the combination of inner child work, self-compassion, parts work and ritual that truly helped me heal her. Because yo...

Why are so many of us sensitive women burned out? Addicted to productivity and doing? Feeling like we have to do ALL THE THINGS?! In my opinion, it's because we've been over conditioned to use "sperm wisdom," aka our masculine energy and tactics, and it's far past time we shift into "egg wisdom" and our feminine energy as a way of being and doing. I used to roll...