The Mind Manual

Hey, folks! I'm fresh off a trip to Vanuatu, and it's got me thinking. The contrast there was staggering – from a lush boutique resort to stark poverty, by our definition.  In this episode we explore the stark contrasts between their privileged life and the challenging circumstances faced by the locals. It prompts deep introspection on the arbitrary nature of birth, societal judgments, a...

In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of the ever-evolving relationship between people and food. While women gear up to hit the beaches and the pharmaceutical market buzzes with the frenzy around the latest weight loss drug, we explore the delicate balance between pharmaceutical giants' expansion plans and the quest for lasting health solutions. Taking a trip down memory lane,...

In the world of burnout, understanding the profound influence of our thoughts on our emotions and actions is the key to reclaiming control and vitality. Burnout is not an inescapable fate; it's a pattern rooted in our emotional realm, and by recognizing that our thoughts are optional and can be reframed, we can shift from a contracting mindset to an expanding one.  Practical strategies such a...

Today, we embark on a transformative journey, delving into a paradigm shift that offers the potential to redefine how we navigate our lives. Imagine a world where we possess the power to shape our destiny not by manipulating others but by taking full responsibility for our own worldview and returning the same responsibility to others for their experiences. In this revelation, we uncover the concep...

Confirmation bias is a natural cognitive tendency that influences how we perceive and process information. It leads us to seek out, interpret, and remember information that confirms our existing beliefs, while disregarding contradictory evidence. This bias arises from our evolutionary development, helping us make quick decisions for survival, but it can hinder critical thinking and lead to distort...

The notion that "love never hurts" challenges common misconceptions about love by focusing on its pure essence, untainted by expectations, attachments, or fears. This perspective emphasizes that love is an emotion fuelled by our own thoughts and perceptions, not the actions of others. It clarifies that when we withdraw love, we're robbing ourselves of its benefits, given the experie...

In the modern digital era, social media has become an integral part of our lives, connecting us to a vast online community and shaping how we interact with one another. However, with its widespread adoption, researchers have started to explore its impact on our wellbeing. We delve into the effects of social media on happiness and mental health, shedding light on the challenges it poses and suggest...

The session today was inspired by a client's coaching session and the teachings of Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor and Stoic philosopher. Marcus believed in living in harmony with nature, both in the macro sense (universal Nature) and the micro sense (human nature). He emphasized that virtuous actions stem from living in accordance with nature. However, many people fail to do so because th...

In this session we explore the intricate relationship between our gut health and mental well-being. We delve into the concept of the microbiome, a vast community of microbes residing in our gut which plays a crucial role in regulating brain activity and cognitive functions. The communication between the gut and brain occurs through the microbiota-gut-brain axis, enabling bidirectional information...

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of relationships and the detrimental effects of having an "operating manual" for our partners. We explore how, over time, we compile a list of rules and expectations for our significant other, often without their knowledge, and how this can lead to dissatisfaction and even the end of relationships.  We challenge the traditional model of rel...

Our suffering stems not from external circumstances, but from our resistance to 'what is.' When we let go of the illusion that others are responsible for our emotions and take full responsibility for our own internal experiences, we free ourselves from unnecessary suffering.

In this episode I teach a step by step process for how to process emotions, so you can stop avoiding life.   We live in a society that stigmatises emotions and relegates discussions about feelings to therapy and so we have been conditioned to avoid, deny, and distract ourselves from negative emotions. We engage in activities that temporarily numb the pain or provide temporary relief, but in the lo...

Let's talk about what self confidence is, & how to get more of it. When we look at the model used in cognitive behavioural therapy and try to insert where self-confidence might fit into it, we could interpret it in a few ways.  It could be a fact or circumstance that you are self confident. It could also sit in the result line, where you bring about the outcome or result of being self con...

Today I want to talk about the cave we have built for ourselves, that we refer to as our comfort zone.  It sounds like a lovely thing to have – to seek the protection of this safe, comfortable zone but I want to suggest that perhaps it’s a prison we’ve unwittingly created for ourselves. 

In this session we look at how creating an energy shift will completely alter your experience of a situation so that it aligns with the way you want to feel or show up.  It’s a simple and easy hack that can produce results for you in seconds.

In this session I want to explore the construct we have of our sense of self, which is really just a false identity that we create in an attempt to understand our world and our place within it It’s the thing that makes us feel unworthy, unsafe and disconnected and at other times it will sabotage us with it’s superiority approach in adorning us with a lavish dose of self importance and impressivene...

Do we create our own suffering and misery? In this session I want to explore how the beliefs and expectations we hold on to …so dearly can be the source of so much of the suffering and misery we create for ourselves.   We all have them, but what I want to show you…. is that it may be worth your while to have a much closer at them so you can see how they’re causing you so much pain and suffering in...

When you find people abandoning their protocol for what they planned to eat for the day in order to stay on track towards their weight loss goals, you will almost always find this one sneaky sentence lurking in the background. ....

In this session we take a look behind the thought patterns that consume so much of our time and energy ….only to leave us feeling exhausted and stressed out….  It’s a loop we get stuck in, that’s not only unproductive but depletes us in such a way that we end up wanting to quit on some level…. because it’s simply not sustainable for us to continue on that way. If you can relate to this then you’re...

In this session I want to talk about the 50/50 nature of life and the suffering we cause ourselves in denying the truth or reality of what it means to live in a world of relativity.   We forget that we were born into a world where the rules of the game are that for every action there is always an equal yet opposite reaction.   This was Newton’s third law and in an extract from a book titled ‘The m...

Today I want to encourage everyone to run a belief audit on an area of your life that isn’t producing the results you would like or is generating a feeling within you that you don’t like.   We generally filter life through a lens of our beliefs. If we believe something to be true, our brain will tend to look for evidence to validate our view and so it becomes a focus for us. This function is carri...

Today’s session has been designed to stretch you’re comfort zone.  A lot of what’s been covered in previous episodes…. has been about the relationship with ourselves, processing our emotions and of course learning how to master our mind, which has all been very passive and conceptual.   So I thought it might be time to take it a step further, and get into some action …for what good is any of it if...

Welcome everyone to today’s topic on discovering your purpose. Tuning in to why we’re here and what it is that we’re here to do with our time on earth are some of life’s really big questions that we seem to devote very little time to.  This may be because we think it’s found outside of ourselves and we just haven’t stumbled across it yet…or we don’t allow ourselves to ever really explore the quest...

Today, I want to talk about the difference between emotional pain itself and then the fear of experiencing the emotional pain.  They are two very different concepts that can produce very different realities…. And the thing that appears to determine whether we go on to develop all the fear around experiencing emotional pain is how hard we resist and wrestle with it…. as opposed to allowing it and p...

Today I want to talk about this tendency we have in wanting to seek approval and winning the favour of others….which is driving so many of our behaviours and in particular the social revolution.