The Idea of Manhood

Welcome back! Thanks so much for tuning into the season 3 premier of The Idea of Manhood Podcast. This episode serves as a (re)introduction to what it is that we're doing here. We're being honest. We're being vulnerable. We're using our power and privilege as men to make those around us better. But what do you do, when you're not seen; not heard; and feel like what you're doing doesn't matter? Tun...

Invictus, by Sir William Earnest Henley Out of the night that covers me,       Black as the pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be       For my unconquerable soul.   In the fell clutch of circumstance       I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance       My head is bloody, but unbowed.   Beyond this place of wrath and tears       Looms but the Horror of the s...

In this episode, I discuss the article "You Should've Asked," that discusses the "mental load" that women bare when it comes to being managers of the household. Check out the article here - There are some jewels in this one for new or seasoned marriages and relationship ...if I do say so myself!

How to be and avoid the elephant in the (bed)room...at the same damn time! In this episode, I discuss a series of revelations I've had recently. It may sound simple; but it's really not... Fellas...we have work to do.  

I've been chewing on this one for a few weeks. Pastor Battle (shout out to Zion Church) led a sermon where he talked about the keys to successful relationships. One of his keys; and I'm paraphrasing; was that feelings are more important than facts. It's taken me 3 weeks to process and digest that. What do you think?

I've talked about fear in the podcast before.  It's an important topic to discuss, especially when it comes to the fears that we consciously or subconsciously pass to our children. In this episode I talk about my recent trip as a chaperone to my son's overnight 5th grade trip to Harbargain Farms in Accokeek, Maryland.  I also discuss the time I was invited to chaperone a trip to Tanzania. Spoiler...

This episode is a continuation from last week's "Well Dressed Mediocrity, at Work." I discuss the importance of recognizing your value; both at work, and at home. Many of us don't take the time to acknowledge our value... I'll just leave it there.  Enjoy!

What's good familia! I ran across activist's DeRay's twitter page, and was confronted with this message: "I came across someone today who is well-packaged mediocrity. It's stunning how far that combo can get folks..." It stuck with me. I then became slowly bewildered at how many examples of well packed mediocrity is thriving right now...at my place of employment. Contrast that with not feeling val...

What's good fam! This episode is strictly for the fellas...kind-of. This episode is to acknowledge the regular dudes; the guys that do what they have to do for the betterment of those around them...and to provide a little validation for the decisions that many of us make. Let's face it...in the current narrative in our country and within our culture, it's a challenge for men to carve out a space t...

It's pretty self explanatory... Collectively, we all went nuts when we saw the preview of the Netflix movie  Burning Sands;  a one of a kind movie that highlights the negativity of underground hazing. (what does that even mean). Members of fraternities and sororities were talking and whispering about it. Some refused to see it; others rushed to their shared Netflix accounts.  No one loved the movi...

Men, get you a podcast - because, let's face it. No one's listening to you anyway. LOL! Mercury Retrograde Creativity Monologue/Dialogue Get something that's YOURS Amplify your voice You need to talk to someone...why not yourself.   ...all the reasons to start your own podcast!  

Y'all know I abhor "Happy Wife, Happy Life..." I've always hated that phrase. I feel as if it belittles the relationship and creates a lop-sided narrative. I've (as we all have) seen countless women in our life sacrifice and put everyone before themselves. A reoccurring fear of mine is that my wife will feel as if she's lived an unfulfilled life as a result of something I did or didn't do, or simp...

The 3 most random words to ever describe a podcast... In this episode, I discuss, once again, why I'm doing this podcast. Could it simply because of my ego?  Also, how does age, and the perception of age impact "stuff...." Thanks for tuning in...    

What a day... Long story short...listen to the podcast. Someone got out of pocket with me on FB...I didn't like it...and blocked them. That should be the end of the story...but for reason, it wasn't. FB tip #1 - Make sure your posts aren't public FB tip #2 - Unfriend and Block are different (especially if your post is public) FB tip #3 - Guard your page. It's yours.  FB tip #4 - If someone over 36...

After a brief hiatus, I had to share some of the energy that's been trapped in...the only way I know how...THE 40 YEAR OLD FREESTYLE! LOL. I'm back on my BS this evening! This episode highlights my amazing birthday party, and the energy that I envisioned, and how it came to light.  I can't even begin to express what that party did for me! OK, I can begin to express it...and that's what this episod...

What's up Folks! Thanks for tuning in once again. Welcome to 2017. This episode is sponsored by the death of Bing Bong (RIP Bing Bong) from the animated movie, Inside Out. It made me feel too much, and I didn't like it.  I've noticed that I've been repressing some feelings...and I'm trying to get to the root cause. Even through recording this episode, I noticed that there were times when I had rep...

There's something about an MRI that makes you question your entire existence. Tune in to hear about my latest MRI experience, and the possible cause of my days-long headache. Apparently, tension headaches are a real thing. Shrugs.   

As a man on the edge of turning 40, I discuss the challenge of getting dressed in the morning. Based on cultural norms, I should probably throw on some baggy khakis, a white wrinkly dress shirt and a thick, patterned tie. But, Nah. Tune in and join in on the discussion...            

Between October 31 and January 1, it seems like it's all just a collection of seasonal photo opportunities... In this episode, I chat about my general disposition around the holidays and why I feel the way I feel.  Thanks for listening and Happy Thanksgiving!

Are you a BIG L...   or a little L...   I think many of you want to be BIG Ls... but you're not.  Get your Ls up!    

Help it make sense. Nah, nevermind! I'm good. Right here. In my anger! Sorry. Not Sorry. There's a lot of yelling involved... I just can't seem to get over it. It's not making sense to me. Help it make sense. Nah, nevermind! I'm good. Right here. In my anger!

I'm already laughing at the title. This is the sex episode that I didn't have when my wife was on the show with me.  In this episode I discuss the reality that many men face as their relationships mature. If you have kids, have a demanding job, and have been married for more than 3 years...let's face it...you're not getting any. Sorry, not sorry.  Fellas, this ones for you. Well, really...share th...

Fellas, you ever have that moment when the mother of your child seems to come out of left field with the most random idea, activity, or meal...and you're like...Babe...Ummmm... Where the heck did that come from. 92%-97% of the time, these ideas are coming from the Mommy Mafia; the group of women that scare other moms into group-think.  Just kidding. I recognize the importance of the on-line commun...

Can someone please ask my wife to stop feeding our son like a grown man. LOL. I grew up on roti, doubles, fried chicken, rice and peas, and bread. I'd like to help raise our son into an elite scholar athlete...but she wants him to eat ice cream and chocolate pretzels at 9:30 pm on a Wednesday night.  Anywho... The school; the degree; the relationship; the wedding; the house; the kids; the schools;...

RIP to Tommy Ford. Unbelievable that we've lost another mainstay in the entertainment industry. Tommy was a vital part of my young adult years into college. Rest in Peace. This episode discusses the challenge of establishing your role as a father in a world that doesn't always acknowledge or validate your importance. Rule #1, be present and consistent (shout to Ryan G.) from the very beginning (pr...