That Based Dating Podcast

On today's show, I confront facts and misinformation surrounding the word misogyny.  While this word was once used only to denigrate the worst of opinions held against women - it is now a catch all term that includes an attack on behaviors that just a few decades back were considered highly polite- such as opening a door for a woman.  I am no stranger to the horrific "manosphere" logic that degrad...

I'm going straight for the jugular on today's show - while I look at the term "gold digger" and where it gets a basis. Are beautiful women really looking for a luxurious lifestyle?  While many men look at the highest status guys and think they are attracting "gold diggers" (and that may be the case irregularly), they fail to recognize the deepest of truths about evolutionary biology. The hard trut...

I've finally made a political episode- vaguely! Ha!  On today's show, I explain the evolution of my beliefs. While I started as a very conservative Republican, I found my way to all out communism for a couple weeks, and then the rubber band went back to normal, and I found liberty amongst the rubble.   Have you undergone a political change in your life? Have your politic shifted since you were a y...

On this episode, I chat about my feelings around self medicating -- a vague but necessary subject. Each of us knows what our unhealthiest self turns to and it becomes bad for us when we confuse the self medicating to be self serving.  Regardless if it's porn, alcohol, cigarettes, cannabis, social media or something more nefarious like pharmaceuticals -- we have to be mindful of treating ourselves...

Happy Memorial Day - and we've got a doozy of an episode where I unravel my inherent skepticism of even my own world view!  While, I've been a proud Anarchist/Voluntaryist for a while, I've run into a lot of folks who seem to miss the importance of respecting individuals and not institutions. That means we have to also respect humans WITHIN institutions who genuinely want what's best for their com...

Dedicated to my own Best Friend   Today's episode is a reminder to all women how important it is to have female friendships.  Not only is it more satisfying to live each day full of feminine energy, love, and folks who truly relate to your lived experience -- it is an essential practice to being in balance for other relationships.  I am closer to myself than I have ever been, simply, because I hav...

On today's show I attempt to flesh through the problem with dating very young, barely legal women. My target age group is 18-20 but I suppose those are not firm numbers and there are definite exceptions to my rule. However, as a group- I feel It is best that men in their thirties avoid taking the responsibility of young women on due to their lack of maturity.  Are age gaps really the problem in re...

On this episode, I address a common misconception among folks in the "red pill" community. While evolutionary biology does dictate so much of male and female behavior the generalization that only women see attention as currency is a pretty big miss.    On the whole, all humans need attention and all humans fight for attention. As babies, we cry for attention to survive. As we age we become more so...

On today's show, I cover a topic that's one of the most important to date. The power of saying yes, to opportunity, and the cost of saying no to growth. Many of us wrestle with feelings of inadequacy and lack. Often that lack creates a cycle in which we box ourselves out of new opportunities. As I've grown, I realize that the only way to be my most authentic self, was to welcome change, and cling...

On today's show, I discussed the importance of not to miss categorizing, or miss characterizing someone based on their Internet persona. While it's fun to get to know someone on the Internet that you would never have the chance to meet in real life, we all have to be careful not to confuse that with a genuine connection. Even I am guilty of finding a super high-status hottie's Instagram, and think...

On today's show I make it weird for folks who don't know me, since my back story is a wild one. I've decided to share it with as much transparency as feasible for a twenty minute show. We start at my family history, describe the abuse and poverty that gripped my past, and work forward into my major life events. Where we come from often defines where we end up, but I am hoping to change the stars f...

On today's show I discuss the deep spiritual impact yoga has had since approaching it is a holistic wellness practice. While functional movement and exercise have always been on my radar, the deep meditative practice of yoga is new to my life post marriage.  Connecting to God in this new way and my inner consciousness (Christ consciousness) has improved my experience on earth greatly.  Have you do...

On today's show I explore what is meant by some of the language around attraction. This subject has felt elusive to me for many years, but I've been looking inward at what sides of me are "feminine and soft" and what parts have generated the most attraction.    While many women project their own ideas (in regards to masculinity) and try to be the opposite - making themselves small or needy- to cat...

On this episode, I bring my best friend on the pod to discuss a topic we both have experience in to varying degrees. Abuse is a huge problem in relationships, according to self reporting and vital statistics, but it is scary to think that people may not truly understand when they are abusing just as much as they are being abused.   Female techniques for abusing their male partners is very differen...

Welcome back to the show! On today's episode I discuss the problems I've faced recently around my "public presence" and how I've chosen to deal with folks who criticize me.  Whether it's in real life, or it's on the Internet, it's always best to take anything. Someone is saying with a grain of salt. I have learned to not take judgment from someone who's not doing better than me or who's not coming...

On this episode, I discuss the amount of courage it takes to be open about your desire for love and belonging. While many folks get stuck in same cycle as I was stuck in for much of my life - being afraid to let go of what's not serving you and attaching out of scarcity or lacking the vulnerability to attach at all- there is recovery for those of us who do want to get real and heal from our wounds...

On today's show, we go back through the annals of my political disposition. While my initial politics and social preferences were conservative to please my conservative Christian family, I quickly gained a tremendous amount of respect for the liberal views held by my public school teachers.   After deconstructing political ideology and many areas where I had tossed the baby out with the bath water...

In a world where women can do everything that men can do, I decided to explore whether they should...  While I have always considered myself to be an egalitarian feminist- I believe that women should have all of the same rights under the law that men do - I can't help but wonder how our western world has changed as women grew in economic staying power.    My personal goals have always been centere...

On today's episode I talk about why many of us did not get the best start for optimal gut health and how gut health can still be accomplished. While many folks turn to fad diets, juicing, smoothies, pills, and wraps-- it's important to see how health can be achieved through knowledge and nutrition. While I give you my 3 biggest tips for changing your gut for the better, each person should really l...

Despite my longing for a good man and my recent break up- I've often found myself wanting. Where men know what a good woman is intuitively- many women are not set up with proper expectations for themselves.  On today's episode I dive into what the Internet, the Bible, and my anecdotal experiences are on the topic with what makes a good woman. I am still fleshing it out and learning. Drop any feedb...

Break-ups are hard and on today's show I tell you the inner workings of my most recent break ups.  There is always wisdom to gain and rejection is certainly redirection. Being a human is messy and it is worse if we refuse to take accountability for the things we mess up or overlook.  I hope you enjoyed my breakdown of these recent life events and can give yourself a break if you are struggling to...

The age old question - Do women know what they want? Can you ask a woman for a rubric on how to woo her and then follow it like a law book? The rules of attraction are complicated and there is stiff competition to win in the sexual and mating marketplace. So - what do we want?   The answer is simply NOT what we think or say we want. As wild as this may seem, and as many women as there are to deny...

On today's episode we talk about what it means to be truly present. Although many of us think we are alive and living our lives in our bodies- it is harder than we think to not disassociate and live internally. While our minds are always trying to guide us inside for criticism and introspection, we often miss out on meaningful experiences.    I mentioned my favorite book The Untethered Soul by Mic...

On today's episode I discuss the devastating news out of Nashville and try to make sense of what's causing such tragedies to occur.  While both sides of the political spectrum claim "not it" in terms of personal responsibility- it seems the most reasonable answer to this is connection and fixing the issue around loneliness and isolation.  Will gun control solve a mental health crisis? I don't thin...

On today's episode, we get a nitty-gritty on a subject that really pertains to the experience of a woman who is in her fertile phase of life. Fertility awareness, method, and the overall return to more natural family planning solutions is a big passion of mine! I want to see more women become self responsible in terms of their menstruation.  Hope you enjoy the episode- Join the convo with me at @d...