Spiritual Firestarter

We all want our partner to heal, to see and treat us from a healed space, right? But if your partner (or someone very close to you) knew you BEFORE healing, this may be sitting in the background of your relationship too. We took our kid on a trip recently and my husband was getting so ANNOYED at everything and I wondered “what is wrong with HIM?”! I never thought it could be this… Real life ways t...

You want to really know where you’re at with healing and conscious parenting? Go to Disney with extended family and your kid... to add a little “spice”, I went with a parent that I went no-contact with for a while…it brought up trauma, boundaries and old baggage but not in the way you might think. Maybe this place really is magical…

I had no idea what Sensory Overload REALLY was until I became a parent. There is also an additional sensory issue that affects at least 20% of us (me included!) on a daily basis that I was SHOCKED to know was even a thing... The kicker: "healing" isn't enough when your nervous system reacts this way, having this PLAN has helped me AND my kid stay close and conscious while still getting needs met.

Right in time for the holidays...hooray!! We've all been there- NOT okay with something, NOT comfortable, but we don't know what to do... Why this happens to so many of us (I was there too!) WHO and when to use spoken/communicated boundaries with and when NOT to (there’s a difference! And you can still hold the boundary!). And a real method to help you shift the situation to get your needs met wit...

Our kid forgot something on the way to school the other morning…which led to a super awesome power struggle circus that so many of us have been in both as adults and growing up as a kid. How to tell the difference between care vs control and figuring out if your shadows are unconsciously calling the shots...

We just lost our beloved dog recently and I thought my heart was going to rip right out of my chest. And there is my 7 year old watching what to do in a crisis/loss... So many issues came up with my ego, my beliefs, my spirituality and my healing. The surprising way to view sadness that completely changed my own perspective and experience. Real life ways to help you process guilt, loss, and deep s...

Did you know there is real science that shows that stress/trauma and other factors affect how our body reads our DNA sequence...and get this- from at least TWO generations before you?? And we can CHANGE it??? My mother dropped (yet another) family bombshell with me recently and how it can lead to healing much more than we ever imagined...

Trauma with food does not have to be just from being starved and/or resulting in an eating disorder (although it definitely can). I have been called a "picky/weird eater" by many family members and friends. Maybe you are that person too... While there is nothing wrong with having preferences, something surprising happened between my kid and I that opened up more than I realized. Real-life examples...

Well, that escalated quickly…. A very simple question my husband asked me recently unraveled so much more than my ego wanted to deal with. Real life ways to know you hit someone's shadow (or someone hit yours!), how to find it, and how and what it means to integrate it, so reactions can be conscious responses.

From even simple everday things like, "What do you want to eat??" to deciding on plans (or saying NO to plans), the struggle is real and the more trauma you've had, the harder it can be. It crosses over into our adult relationships and our parenting... Examples of how and why trauma can show up this way, and a real-life strategy to help get you (and others!) out of this crap.

I was "off". Really off- I thought I must be in a depression...well, I was, but not the kind we typically think of… A Dark Night of the Soul can look and feel a lot like a depression, but there are significant differences, and many do not know until after the fact. Did you also know that it can happen more than once? (yep! for a SECOND time in my case- awesome!) How to tell the difference between...

We think of certain things triggering our shadows- our parents saying or doing something, our kids saying or doing something... There are certain shadows/wounds that will be activated by simple everyday events. Others and our very own ego will make us feel "crazy" or "silly" for even acknowledging it's happening. Why these are the hardest to catch, what to look for, and how...

You've been working on yourself and have been a more conscious person and parent...fantastic! A recent bedtime showdown with my kid revealed different ways of seeing and reacting to what was happening between my husband and I. I wanted them BOTH to go to damn bed at that point... By doing THIS instead, the other person can truly hear you and real change is possible.

A surprising shadow that many of us (many times unconsciously) carry finally made its way to my awareness What lack and scarcity mindset looks like in real-life situations that we sometimes don't even realize we're doing... The root issues underneath it all and how to get out of it, especially as parents.

How the betrayals of trust from our caregivers growing up show up in our present (and make a crappy event soooo much worse)…. I overheard a trusted family member talking about both my kid and my parenting recently… The surprising thing that was really going on with BOTH of us, and why it's super important to tell the difference between "acting" and truly being un-triggered.

I wanted to cringe... Real-life examples how a past version of us will show up and convince us we're not worthy to be who we are (or want to be) today. What to do to help that version of you so you can make decisions from NOW you instead.

Do you know there are times when we SHOULDN'T hold boundaries? (I know, hear me out!) Healing has helped me be okay looking "stupid" in front of others- and why you would WANT to also! And why someone REALLY has an issue with what your doing...

I expressed a fear to my mom recently that stems from a trauma I had as a kid. Let's just say the response was why many adult children don't talk to their parents anymore... An epic showdown between my mom and I opened up a huge awareness of generational trauma and even revealed a big reason why people have such an issue with gentle/conscious parenting now.

Our mind is addicted to MEMORIES... A super fun disagreement with my husband recently resulted in me saying something that I KNEW was not from present time. Why we partner with our parent wounds and how to work with them, so we stop toxic patterns and cycles.

What it means to be the "middle piece" between handling your kid and handling others around your kid, all while handling your OWN trauma and triggers. A misconception that comes up A TON with conscious/gentle parenting that doesn't get talked about enough- why it's SO important to know this and how to help navigate through it with others so you can better stick to it.

For many of us, our parents didn't meet our emotional and/or physical needs growing up, and as they age, they now need US- I was getting more and more MAD and I couldn't understand why... The wounds that so many of us are carrying around that didn't surface for me until a recent event for one of my parents. What the triggers look and feel like in real life and how to help you release them.

I had a complex trauma background growing up and I went no-contact with a bunch of family when I was first Awakening and healing. An unexpected death happened recently, and I had to decide if I was healed "enough" to attend the funeral... I could never have imagined how much this event would change my Awakening and healing process, and it may give new perspectives on your family too.

My 6-year-old brought home yet another fantastic story from school that had me saying "oh shit" to myself yet again... My thoughts on "profanity" have changed since Awakening and healing (along with a million other things lol). How I guide my son about "bad" words that feels a heck of a lot better than what I got...

Shadow work helps us feel better about ourselves and others, but did you know it's also connected to many of our "blocks"?? And here’s the kicker- some shadows didn’t even come from our own experiences (I know, what??!!)… How our PARENTS' (and other influences) shadows show up in our lives even as adults (most of us don't even realize it!). And what to do to work with these parts of us so they sto...

So my kid said something that made me actually gasp to another kid at school...Freakin great!! How healing changed how we worked through it (which I totally would have missed before healing). -Teaching him to do THIS is a relationship game changer even as adults! A HUGE lesson in validating what someone else feels, regardless of your intention or what YOU think they SHOULD feel...