Shadow Work After Dark

In this episode, I sit down with Electra Rayne, a seasoned sex worker, adult content creator, and founder of QueerCrush.com, a site dedicated to authentic queer representation. Electra shares her journey into the industry, from her early experiences in stripping and adult film to working at a legal brothel in Nevada. We discuss what it’s really like to work in a brothel, how legal sex work differs...

How is political stress affecting your relationships, mental health, and overall well-being? In this episode, Jungian coach Chuck Gafvert joins me to dive deep into political polarization, projection, tribalism, and the hidden psychological triggers behind political stress. 📍 How does political identity become an unconscious projection of deeper wounds? 📍 What does Trump—or any political figure—...

Have you ever felt an intense attraction to someone who isn’t your type—or even been repulsed by someone, only to have them show up in your sex dreams? These experiences are often messages from the unconscious mind. In this video, we explore sexual shadow work, projection, and why attraction isn’t just about physical preference. What you'll learn in this episode: Why certain desires seem to c...

In this episode, we dive into an eye-opening conversation with Priestess Cinda Starr, a dominatrix and somatic wellness practitioner. We explore the intersection of BDSM and neurodivergence, the transformative power of surrender and control, and how kink offers a space for authenticity and self-discovery. From early influences to reclaiming power through shadow work, this episode delves deep into...

In this episode, we talk about body shadow, how hidden emotions, repressed trauma, and stories shape how we express ourselves and experience life in our bodies. I share my personal journey of uncovering my body’s story, from childhood trauma to a somatic spiritual awakening, and how ignoring my body led to burnout and a nervous system breakdown. We’ll explore how our body is a reflection of our un...

In this episode, we explore the fascinating connections between the nervous system, sexual health, BDSM, and mindfulness with special guest Ebony Eros—a health coach, professional dominatrix, and nursing student. Join us as we discuss how to cultivate body awareness, integrate holistic wellness practices, and use mindfulness to enhance your connection with yourself and others. Whether you're...

Why does the universe seem to "break" you during times of major change? In this episode, we explore how external chaos—like job loss, relationship endings, or financial struggles—often mirrors internal shifts on your self-development journey. Learn why these challenging events can be blessings in disguise, forcing alignment with your true self and repatterning deep-seated trauma in your...

In this episode, we dive into the process of forgiving your parents. Whether the holidays have stirred up unresolved emotions or you’re exploring personal growth, understanding the impact of your parents' conditioning is essential for individuation and breaking free from old patterns. We discuss: The mother and father complex in self-development. Acknowledging childhood wounds and repressed e...

I share why traditional therapy might not always be the best path for everyone.. especially if you’ve been stuck in a loop of revisiting past traumas without making real progress. I open up about my personal journey through over 20 years of therapy and why stepping away from it was one of the most transformative decisions of my life. 💡 Here’s what we cover: Why traditional talk therapy and CBT mi...

In this episode, we dive into the powerful intersection of kink, BDSM, and neurodivergence. Join us as we explore how “neurospicy” individuals—those with ADHD, autism spectrum traits, CPTSD, and more—can find supportive communities, clear communication, and unique sensory experiences within kink spaces. We’ll discuss how embracing our authentic selves, challenging societal norms, and committing to...

Dive deep into your unconscious mind with this transformative Sexual Shadow Work Visualization Exercise. This guided meditation is designed to help you uncover hidden aspects of your sexuality, release sexual shame, and embrace your authentic sexual self. Whether you're seeking healing, self-discovery, or empowerment, this practice will guide you toward integration and self-love. 💡 What You’...

In this episode, we’re diving into the energetics of submission and exploring what it means to be a good submissive in BDSM. Together, we’ll challenge societal misconceptions about submission, revealing it as an act of trust, strength, and vulnerability—not weakness. We’ll unpack the difference between conscious and unconscious submission, showing how submission can be a powerful form of shadow wo...

In this episode, we delve deep into what it truly means to be a good Dom, beyond just the physical acts of BDSM and kink play. Explore the spiritual, energetic, and archetypal dimensions of dominance that apply to anyone—regardless of gender. Whether you're a seasoned Dom, Dom-curious, or a submissive wanting to know what to look for in a good Dom, this episode offers valuable guidance for al...

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the Mother Archetype —its influence on your intimacy, intuition, romantic life, and even your sex life. 🌙✨ I explore how this archetype surfaces in layers during our shadow work and individuation journeys. We’ll talk about: The Mother Archetype as the feminine side of creation and our first relationship with intimacy. How your relationship with your biolog...

In this episode, we explore the complex relationship between trauma, shadow work, and sexuality through a trauma-informed and Jungian psychology approach. I answer the common question, 'Is shadow work safe for people who experienced trauma?” and explain why foundational work like emotional regulation and self-compassion is crucial. We’ll discuss how early life trauma and neurodivergence can c...

Curious about how shadow work impacts your desires or kinks? In today’s episode, I answer one of the most asked questions I get: "Can I heal away my kink or desire?" We dive into the roots of desire, how shame influences our urges, and whether shadow work might shift your connection to these expressions. Through analogies and real-life examples, we'll explore why your desires might...

Today, we discuss kink beyond sexuality to uncover why many individuals engage in kink activities that aren't centered around sexual experiences. Explore the emotional, psychological, and therapeutic reasons that make kink a meaningful experience beyond the realm of sexuality. Topics Covered: Emotional release and catharsis through kink activities The psychology of power dynamics : dominance...

Have you ever wondered how your sexual fantasies relate to your unconscious mind? Or how to determine if your kink is healthy or unhealthy? Join me as we explore: The psychology behind our desires and why we seek novelty and taboo experiences. Understanding conscious kink : Engaging in fantasies with intention and embodiment. Identifying unconscious kink : Recognizing signs like compulsions, shame...

In this episode, we’re diving into the topic of ego resistance and how it shows up during your self-development journey—especially when working through sexual shadow work and shame. 🧠✨ 💡 You’ll learn how to identify the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs of ego resistance, recognize the difference between ego and intuition, and navigate through it using the Hero’s Journey framework. We also explo...

In today's episode, discover why addressing this often-overlooked aspect of self-development can ignite your passion, authenticity, and overall well-being. 🔥 What You'll Learn: The impact of embracing your sexuality on your personal growth. How unaddressed sexual energy can hold you back in career, relationships, and creativity. Personal insights from my journey as a professional domina...

Are you ready to embrace your authentic sexual self and unlock deeper levels of joy and freedom? In this episode, we dive into sexual shadow work , exploring how uncovering and integrating the unconscious aspects of your sexuality can transform your life. 🔥 We talk about: Understanding the Shadow Self : Learn about Jungian psychology and how the shadow represents the parts of ourselves we repress...

In this episode, we delve into the concept of sexual masking and uncover how it hinders our ability to be authentic in bed . Explore the ways in which societal expectations and personal fears lead us to hide our true desires and needs. Learn practical steps to overcome barriers, communicate openly, and embrace your true sexual self . We discuss the importance of vulnerability, setting boundaries,...

In this episode, I dive deep into my personal journey of confronting sexual shame and how it shaped my life. From struggling with my queer identity to exploring kink, I share raw, vulnerable stories about living with shame and how it affected my relationships, desires, and self-worth. I’ll walk you through how to identify unconscious shame patterns & how shadow work helped me break free from t...

In this episode, I interview Ashe Ellis, a spiritual life coach for sex workers, who shares her journey from cam modeling and OnlyFans to helping others find their purpose through Dharma coaching. We dive into the realities of sex work, discussing the spiritual and energetic aspects, the challenges faced by sex workers, and the misconceptions surrounding the industry. Whether you're in the in...

It's time we address sexual trauma—a subject I understand deeply through personal experience, extensive research, and my work with clients. In the latest episode of "Practically Awake," I delve into this nuanced topic. I share my journey of overcoming sexual trauma, detailing the healing process and share some tips. Additionally, I bring attention to an often-overlooked issue: sexua...