Self-Helpless

We are joined by Kris Hillberg. Kris opens up about getting married at the age of 21, what led to that decision, and how it impacted her life. Kris is very candid as she shares her personal experience with the organized religion that she grew up in, her feelings about those experiences, and the steps she took to leave that religion. This episode is not intended to offend anyone who has religious b...

The girls discuss homeschooling this week. Kelsey interviews Delanie about her personal experience in an independent study high school program, the health issues that resulted in her leaving a conventional school setting, what the adjustment was really like, and how it impacted her social life, education, career trajectory, and self-esteem. Whether you're considering homeschooling for your kid, or...

We are joined by Coach for Perfectionists, Nicole Baker. Nicole shares how being exposed to personal development tools from a young age shaped her, opens up about being bullied as a kid, struggles with body image, experiencing abuse in a romantic relationship, and the steps she took towards building confidence, cultivating self-worth, and finding her voice. *Some content in this episode may be dif...

The girls discuss the concept of defining "enough." What is enough money? Enough accomplishment? Down time? And how do you know when you have it? They share findings from studies about the impact of money on happiness, well-being, and overall life satisfaction, what enough means to each of them personally, and tips for gaining clarity on what enough might mean to you. Plus, some interesting quotes...

The girls are joined by Founder and CEO of Hello Seven and intellectual property attorney, Rachel Rodgers. Rachel shares about her background and the steps she took to become a millionaire, the importance of women building wealth, managing guilt around money, what holds us back from earning more (or trying to earn more), and what we can do today to take control of our financial future. We are thri...

The girls are learning about allergies this week. They discuss the different types of allergies, facts vs. myths, and some practical tips for preventing and treating them. Kelsey also shares her personal experience with navigating severe allergic reactions throughout her life, and the anxiety that comes along with it. Plus, the one thing we can all do to support people who struggle with allergies....

The girls are joined by self-aware narcissist and internet personality, Lee Hammock. He's been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and has been in therapy for three years managing it. Lee's sharing about his childhood and the root of his narcissistic tendencies, his experience navigating relationships with his wife and children, and why narcissists gaslight, devalue, discard, a...

This week the girls are discussing the highly requested topic from their listeners, "Untamed," by Glennon Doyle. Delanie shares some insights from the book with Kelsey as they reflect on their own social conditioning. Untamed encourages people to question their “training” and go inward to make decisions. It explores misogyny, racism, religious indoctrination, homophobia - all the ways that patriar...

The girls are talking performance anxiety - at work, with stage fright, and around sex. They learn about the physical responses we can experience with performance anxiety, offer tips for managing it, and share some personal stories. There are mentions of sweaty hands, nervous poops, and even playing patty cake with a wiener (take your best guess at who did that one). For exclusive rewards, and to...

This week, the girls discuss the importance of sleep. They share information about the negative impacts of sleep deprivation on our health, the link between sleep avoidance and workaholism, different ways to regulate sleep, and offer some tips from their own bedtime routines. Plus, the thing that puts Delanie to sleep no matter the time of day, and why Kelsey is currently training herself to sleep...

We are joined by emerging Indian-American television writer and former writer of Huffington Post, Nishima Gupta - whose article about her parents’ divorce went viral. Nishima is sharing the moment she found out about her parents’ divorce (3 years after the fact while living under the same roof), why they kept this information from her, and how this has impacted her view on marriage and relationshi...

We are joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani offers information about the different types of narcissism, signs you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, the cycle of narcissistic abuse, how to safely leave an abusive relationship, the aftermath of leaving, and A LOT more. If you think you might be in a toxic relationship, or you're...

*Some contents of this interview might be difficult for survivors of abuse. The girls are joined by ex-porn star and internet personality, Jessie Rogers. Jessie shares what she wishes she knew before she got into the adult entertainment industry, misconceptions people have about sex work, what life has been like after leaving the industry, and what she encourages others to consider before becoming...

We're joined by host of The Ask Me About My Type 1 Podcast and rider from the documentary, Bike Beyond, Walt Drennan. Walt shares his experience living with Type 1, the events that led to his diagnosis, what biking across the country taught him, issues around the accessibility of insulin, and the life-threatening experience he had recently. We also discuss ableism and what people without disabilit...

The hosts discuss, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle. The book offers guidance on how to be more present in our day-to-day, why observing our thoughts, surroundings, and interactions with a fresh lens is important, and how getting out of our head and tuning in to our body can help us connect with our true nature. Plus, personal experiences about presence, anxiety, and spirituality in their dail...

We're joined by sex educator and intimacy coach, Jessica Parra-Fitch. We discuss shame, desire, pleasure, consent, turn-ons, purity culture, asexuality, orgasms, and self-intimacy as a form of activism. Tune into this episode, and your pleasure (wink)! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www...

The girls discuss their experience with navigating visibility. They discuss the pros and cons of a public career, touch on the Britney Spears documentary and Oprah’s statements about living in the public eye, and share what they’ve learned as their lives have gone from private to more on display. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www....

The girls are discussing the differences between introversion and extroversion. They share some surprising facts, bust some myths, and determine where they think they fall on the spectrum. Find out whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.d...

The girls discuss, "Getting The Love You Want," by Harville Hendrix. The book offers insight into what we look for in a partner and why, how to effectively navigate conflict, and why self-love and self-awareness are vital to a successful partnership. They also share personal experiences about what they’ve been attracted to, and turned off by, in past relationships.  For exclusive rewards, and to i...

Join the girls for the 2nd part of their 200th episode celebration where they're answering your questions about favorite first date ideas, the worst place they've crapped their pants, things they dislike most about themselves, and current goals. Plus, the one who would definitely be the last to survive a zombie apocalypse!  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Pat...

The girls are celebrating 200 episodes of Self-Helpless with a Q & A! They're answering your questions about their first impressions of each other, the best purchases they've ever made, weirdest habits, biggest "oh shit" moments as a group, jokes they're most proud of, and much more! Plus, they have the honor of naming a subscriber's BABY. Thank you for tuning in, celebrating with us, and reflecti...

The girls are talking impostor syndrome - the different types, their most recent encounters with it, and tips for coping. Plus, some of their personal strategies for combatting career-related impostor syndrome.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless  Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www....

The girls are discussing all things self-love, and offering tips for building a daily practice around it. Plus, some of their favorite, unconventional techniques for taking better care of themselves.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless  Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook....

The girls are joined by comedian, Dustin Nickerson. Dustin shares what parenting's been like during quarantine, the negative impact of social media on kids, and the secret to his 20-year marriage. The girls also describe their current love-hate relationship with social media.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelp...

Join the girls for an end of year reflection as they share what they learned this year, their hopes for the future, and what changes they're making as we move into 2021. Plus, resolutions they didn't keep, which binge-able shows provided a much-needed escape for them this year, and some overall gratitude amidst the chaos.  For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patr...