Preggers Can Be Choosers

This is a follow up to #Mixed, Midwifery & Facial Tattoos.    Our girl Kati has some follow up questions that Rowan asks DeShaun to weigh in on re midwifery programs and apprenticeships.  We all agree that "clean and neat" in appearance is subjective, and most likely is code for, as DeShaun says, "Look like a white girl."  Ugh.   So it is a real and gritty convo,...

How to Become a Midwife ~ Three things are going on in this podcast.  1) facial tattoos, what's "appropriate" on a mixed-race woman, and what's not culturally appropriating on a "Rainbow White" person like myself.  We both see ourselves marked as other, and for myself, "healer" (y'all know how I feel about that term) so we chat about navigating that, and decide next time she's in town it...

 Get It OVER With AfterBirth is a fourth and more trimester support group, and honestly, it's just anyone show up who needs support, especially BIPOC identifying folks.  Tiff is moving. Bev wants all this over with. Dr. B goes Brain Spotting https://brainspotting.com/ Mama Dee is getting a 38 week V steam on to prevent GBS, promote flora, and in general cause it's rad. She is gonna prep...

Afterbirth: A Fourth and More Postpartum Support Group y'all. "My daughter came to me, and told me things that no mother wants to hear." Sometimes shit goes down. Sometimes all we can do is listen and breathe and be a shoulder while one of us navigates rough water. Rowan is getting the help of the #zinedoula https://www.instagram.com/zineswithsol Last weeks gender exploration podcast "Damage Contr...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group Today we talked a bunch about parenting, and specifically, boys getting haircuts and not liking pink anymore because of pressure from 6-year-old peers. How do we even combat that? Our kids conforming to gender roles to be cool or fit in or whatever while parts of ourselves die and we navigate explaining that its ok to be you. Gender Bread Perso...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group. No Bev today, so we all wondered how she is doing, Having some pre mothers day feels, especially around grief, pet loss, and Maggie had some great suggestions from her Death Doula training. https://www.inelda.org/resources-category/grief-and-bereavement-resources/ We are all in it together,  join us if you need us! Links that may help NOW...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group. Ground we covered today: Well shit, Bev's kid is sick with COVID, and she might be too. Rowan invited folks to group with PPD after an abortion, Katelin is making masks! You pay the shipping.   https://www.facebook.com/Snowflakedoulaservices/ Behavior regression,  Thoughts about socializing, Who is seeing whom? Anxiety. Links that ma...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group In this show were brainstorming money and income ideas, with a sprinkling of life and social distancing norms. Take the Quiz! Find your tendency! https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com/ Magic Face cream!  https://www.mirandacastro.com/shop/miranda-castros/miranda-castros-scars-cream/ Homeopathy!  https://www.homeopathyworld.com/ Links th...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group Show Notes: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Katelin hosts this week,  and after starting with some Good News https://youtu.be/F5pgG1M_h_U!  The group quickly gets real about the grit of postpartum depression, sex, and self-loathing. Whew.  Your peeps really get the feels out today.  Link...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group AfterBirth 4/7/20 Surviving & Keeping the Kids Fed  Show Notes: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ There is a wave of digital products being thrown at you. Join us live if you want, help  CREATE the show, we would happy to have you.   Maggie is pregnant and healing from Covid, Bev isn't...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group Show Notes: L&D policies in Houston Area Hospitals, What Birth centers are accepting late transfers? Google Doc 411 Link How Do I Know if I'm a fit for a Home Birth or Birth Center? Podcast link GET THE WAND!!! It might even work on Bev's lice having kids. Wanna receive the Choosers newsletter? Sign up here.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~...

Elephant in the Womb: Prenatal Education for the Preggers Person.   Critical prenatal education; shiz you should know, shiz we wish EVERY pregnant person knew!  Especially now, good lawd.   If COVID-19 concerns have you questioning where is the right place for you to birth, listen to Labor Doula Amanda Moore chat with midwife Rowan TwoSisters as we discuss the range of options...

AfterBirth: 3/24/20 COVID-19, What SCHEDULE HAHHAHAHAHHA. AfterBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group Show Notes: HEB is the best store ever. Dr. B is #HEBPositive https://www.heb.com/ Bev's anxiety is in the front seat with her. Katelin says that this homeschool curriculum is on sale from Abeka Schedule Suggestion from Amanda Moore from TLC doula group http://tlcdoulagroup.com/ Bre...

AfterBirth: 3/17/20 Hitting is Bad, Biting is Also a NO* AftreBirth, a Fourth and More Trimester Support Group Whelp, toddler time and how to manage the hitting and biting. Keeping Toddlers Busy?   https://www.instagram.com/busytoddler/? Bev's baby is sick, and she's doing her best with fears around income and doctors and a sick boyfriend. We talk about addiction management in a time of no li...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 3/10/2020 The Mom Bod Episode Mentioned in today's show: Belly binding Mama Dee https://www.ibudoula.com/bengkungbellybinding Hooping, how Tiff and I met! www.punkrockhoops.com Power of Habit Book https://www.amazon.com/Power-Habit-What-Life-Business/dp/1400069289/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Sunglasses: Mama Dee will n...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 3/3/20 Emotions, Resilience, Role Models Today we focused on emotional resiliency. And Tank Girl.  Bev threw it out to the group that her oldest needs help. Rowan had just seen this 
https://confidentchildsummit.com which seems chock full of resources. Bullet journaling as a way to look at feelings 
 https://www.carrieelle.com/bullet-jour...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 2/25/20 The SAD AF Episode If you need a good cry, skip the Steel Magnolias viewing and listen in with us. Why?  Sad, we sad. Get yourself a healthy dose of crying and right on the edge of losing our shit right over here. Step right up, no waiting, there is enough for everyone. UGH. Rowan's beloved cat is missing and presumed dead, Kateli...

Avoiding being traumatized by the Cesarean you haven't had yet. Birth Story Listening which is how Nicole and I met! Spinning Babies® Aware Practioner worksho p https://spinningbabies.com/spinning-babies-aware-practitioner-workshop/ Spinning Babies® Breech Resources https://spinningbabies.com/product/helping-your-breech-baby-turn/ Nicole Morales, CPM Art of Opening  Sand Diego Breech Resource...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 2/11/20 When Self Care is a Locked Door Katelin hosts while Rowan is out of town at the Spinning Babies Aware Practioner training, wheeeee. Sometimes self-care is ten minutes to yourself or hiding upstairs so the kids don't know you are home when their other parent is in charge, or saying no to getting married before you are ready. And sleep,...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 2/18/20 MORE SEX TALK!!! With gritty deets and whats up.  Yikes, I sound like I'm repping a hotline. Which I'm not. But have no issue with. Oh, and body issues, sensitivities, the cycle of yes no yes while being pregnant and postpartum. Links mentioned in today's show are: Pussy Massage Video! w/Adina Rivers  BEST EPISODE EVER! The P...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group: 2/4/20 DTF Episode So. What does it take to get you DTF?* What if you just wanna touch and be snuggly, does that have to lead to more? Which one of us finally got to take a bath, perhaps thinking about using a special bathtub toy, only to have their 6 years old open all the locked doors to come tell them something.  OOF, relatable. ...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group:  1/28/20 Let's Talk About SEX "It's like I've been touched all day as a mom, and I need a transition in touch/emotion to get to sexy person." CAN YOU RELATE? Hop in here and give us a listen or even better join us next week cause we are gonna keep talking about this.  Quick, order this toy so you can report in if it is as fun as this...

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group:  1/21/20  Losing Our Sh!z w/Our Kids "I get so angry at myself for not controlling my own emotions while being upset at him for not controlling his emotions." Talking over guilt, kids flipping out, the neighbor calling the police, kids saying mean things, transcending the urge to snarkily say, "Whelp, ask your new mom for that then,"...

AfterBirth, a Fourth and more Trimester Support Group  My husband came into the bedroom, while the midwife was stitching me up, " They want to see the baby....."  Actual quote from today's group. ACTUAL QUOTE.  This shaped how MamaD planned every subsequent postpartum period, and how she managed people and visitors. Some wins, some not so much, but always fine-tuning the plan....

AfterBirth, A Fourth and More Trimester Support Group 1/7/9 Holidays and Rituals* AfterBirth is an online support group we record and document for the masses. Feeling lonely? No worries, we got ya. Today we talked about holiday shenanigans, reviewed the Friend Making Exercise that Katelin, Dr. B and Rowan attended, and brainstormed ideas on what other fun classes for date nite, anniversary, or doi...