Not Your Therapist

With V-Day right around the corner, it’s the perfect time for some adventures just for the sake of adventure! It doesn’t HAVE to be a full one night stand, but there’s nothing like a wild date or saucy make out with someone you “know isn’t right” to breathe some life back into your dating routine. Take the holiday for yourself and embrace being single and chasing after stories to tell, like our gu...

Alex named this episode! She's going to be my Single Out in the Field, testing out my methods, my assignments, my techniques, and her new vagina. Learn how to FINALLY get closure on a tough breakup, when to push through someone not being your "type" and how soup can sometimes be sexual. We're also gonna talk more about bodies, sex stuff, intimacy, what's it's really truly like out there and how to...

Why do couples who post a ton on social media usually end up not working out? Does Bumble ever really work for anyone? And HOW can we get more comfortable with all the weird body things that come along with actually being intimate with someone? Frances Tang and I discuss all of this and she is an EXPERT. The badass founder of Come and Gone, the after-sex cleanup sponge has a LOT to say about onlin...

What do you do if you suspect cheating? And want a private sesh with me for free? Of course you do!! Subscribe to and hop on my GetVokl channel tonight at 7 PM to ask me your questions in real-time and win a free coaching! I’ll see you there….  Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Hosts of the Best Exes Podcast Gabe and Colton join me to talk about their breakup, breakups and what we learn from them, HOW they managed to make something healthy and even valuable out of their breakup and how we move forward with dating after a particularly tough one. They are wise and witty and fun and their stories are GREAT, so get into it and listen up!   Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast o...

Stop self-sabotaging! What a great New Year's resolution. I tell you how and also when to let things go and when to get back out there. Kick the year off right with answers to your most pressing questions and we'll be back with a full coaching app next week! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Let's talk about the New Year! And what we want to do differently or what we want to do exactly the same. We answer your q's with some celebratory a's. And if you didn't get the make out last night that's ok! New Year New You more MAKEOUTS!!! Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Fill up on answers to your holiday-related listener questions in a quickie perfectly suited for right before your family dinner or better yet, as inspiration before you head out for NYE! (Get that makeout, give out that number!) Listen up! You got this!  Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Nekia is OVER being the FRIEND. She is ready for more!!! We talk about dealing with chronic illness while dating and coming clean with some scary subjects while not letting those things keep you from sharing your wonderful self with the world. Also, the ever present question of how to get responses on the apps, how to work on smooching, and how to unburden yourself and get out there and enjoy it....

The last listener question episode was so fun we decided to do another! Keep em coming! This time past guest Rachel Axelrod, full of wisdom and sass, is back to help with her no-nonsense advice. We answer everything from how much to reveal on a first date, to whether you should get back together, to how the EFF to meet the people you want to. It all begs the question, are you doing dating right?!...

This one is so fun!!!! Writer Alex and I cover everything from falling in love with the story but not the person to when to break up, how to recover from that breakup, and how to embrace the adventures and the bad ideas and get the heck back out there. Also covered: vagina health, who pays, and how to handle the weird holiday dating season. Listen up!  Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagra...

Your listener questions answered! By real raw life coach Allie Stark and me. Everything from how to combat loneliness to how to balance work and lovvvvve. Because we are thankful for YOU! Listen up!   Follow Not Your Therapist Podcast on Instagram! @notyourtherapistpodcast

Josiah is a tough nut to crack but we got there! He hasn’t really been in love, hasn’t REALLY been in an LTR he was into, and thinks there is something wrong with him. There isn’t! But he needs to be honest about who he is, where he is, and what he wants from the BEGINNING.  He also needs to stop locking himself into what he has already decided is his pattern and his problem. Nowhere does it say y...

Robbie is in his first few months of a new relationship and sh*t is getting REAL. He has to learn how to navigate alone time, the L word, meeting the parents, and ALLLLL those conversations about FEELINGS. While this is a blissful, exciting time it can also be a bit intense and stressful. And it’s important to take the time to set a solid foundation to have a sturdy house moving forward. So let’s...

Emily is baby-bird-new to LA and I am SHOVING her out of the nest and making her my personal soldier for dating positivity. It’s time for adventures, learning to eat sushi on a date, and figuring out where she stands on one night stands. The one thing she is FORBIDDEN to do is become jaded and start commiserating about dating in LA. Stay wide-eyed! Stay green! Make mistakes and explore!! And for a...

Elaine has never been broken up with and she’s not necessarily proud of that fact. It also doesn’t mean she hasn’t had her share of rejection, heartbreak, and disaster. She’s just really really good at ripping the bandaid off, which is one of the most valuable skills to have and has led her to report from the other side with a healthy relationship full of personal space, self-worth, strong pheromo...

  Sophie is DONE being a manic pixie dream girl! She’s a real woman with real needs and real ghosts from the past who keep popping up and need to make their intentions clear or go haunt someone else. The key to ALL of that is going to be flexibility, working to change habits disguised as instincts, and learning to be direct in all the right places, while sitting back in some others. It sounds like...

Forget what you THINK other people want you to be and instead, be silly, dorky, messy you. My guest Jeremy is too nice and is trying too hard to be perfect! And it's really getting in the way of good smooch sessions. We do a MAJOR profile overhaul and start digging to rediscover that so not perfect but so much more appealing swagger that we know is hidden deep within. We also talk about dating wit...

Anonymous guest “Ellie” has had some rough dating experiences, causing her to use her career to shield herself from romance. Her MO is to self-shame and self-blame: Enough is ENOUGH and we’re over it! We talk about doing things that build up your confidence, and how that will lead you to meet your person. Holding out on sex isn’t for them, it’s for YOU. Wait til you LIKE a person before you let th...

John is a writer who loves telling his own story. He’s almost TOO self-aware, to the point that he may be using all of his self-knowledge to actually block himself from getting into an LTR. Funny how we get so comfortable with our flaws and “I’m not good at this” that we actually never let ourselves be. We work on letting go of his daddy issues, fixing his picker (and profile) and finding a man wh...

Jen is READY for a relationship but that doesn’t mean she should be rushing into one. Let’s get away from benchmarks and promises and move toward finding someone who is actually right, even if it takes a little longer. Jen hosts “It’s Complicated” podcast, and it certainly has been, but it doesn’t HAVE to be. We talk about her habits, how to break them, and how to actually start to enjoy this agai...

Ronnie owns that he USED to be a passive-aggressive f*ckboy but he’s worked on it and is a f*ckboy  no longer!! But it hasn’t been all sunshine and roses right away, with his first post-f*ckboy relationship turning out to be pretty toxic. We discuss focusing on moving forward to find him a partner who challenges him and respects both him and his relationship with his daughter. It’s all about one s...

Sara is a freak like me: someone who LOVES dating and actually misses it now that she has a SO. A self-proclaimed “strong flavor” who got where she is in pretty much the opposite way that I did, we still manage to agree on dating technique and how to make dating not just fun but also extremely beneficial. Hint: Diversify your portfolio! Sara is one of those rare breeds who will set her friends up...

Fellow redhead Steph is a “sensual spicy sweet woman looking for a man who wants to devour her.” (my words, quoted directly) Shas been out of the game for some time, with good reason. But no one who creates horny boards, loves chicken tenders, does karaoke, and wants to share a cheese plate should be kept from the world for too long! She wants to leave her trauma behind (having worked on it in rea...

“Leslie Knope” is an ‘amazing friend and coworker but kind of a nutjob when it comes to herself’ (her words; anyone relate?) She’s juggling moving across the country, looking for a job, living with her parents, body image issues, and bisexuality. She also doesn’t LOVE not being totally in control of the situation. Whew! Let’s see where we can fit romance (and maybe even a good time?!?!) into all o...