Not Your Average Counsellor

Should Couples Have Access to Each Other’s Phones and Social Media Accounts?   💭 Does full access build trust, or is it crossing a boundary? In this episode, we’re diving into the ongoing debate over privacy, transparency, and control in relationships.   Inside This Episode: 🔑 Trust vs. transparency. Is sharing passwords a sign of honesty or insecurity? 🚧 Healthy boundaries matter. Personal spa...

💭 Is love about compromise, or should you be accepted exactly as you are? This episode dives into the fine line between healthy growth and losing yourself in a relationship.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ The nature of change. Relationships naturally shape us, but when does growth turn into self-sacrifice? 🎭 The pressure to change. Societal, cultural, and personal expectations can make you feel like...

💭 Could you be unknowingly enabling, experiencing, or even exercising coercive control? This episode unpacks the complexities of manipulation, power, and control—helping you recognize, address, and break free from harmful dynamics.   Inside This Episode: ⚠️ What is coercive control? How it differs from other forms of abuse and where it shows up in relationships, work, and family. 🔍 Recognizing t...

💭 Can you truly move on while keeping your ex in your life? This episode dives into the emotional, practical, and relational challenges of post-breakup friendships—when they work, when they don’t, and how to navigate them.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ Why do some people stay friends with an ex? Shared history, mutual respect, or just avoiding awkwardness? 🛑 When it’s a bad idea. Mixed signals, ling...

💭 Is honesty always the best policy, or can some secrets do more harm than good? Today, we’re tackling one of the most controversial relationship dilemmas—should you confess to infidelity, or take it to the grave?   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What counts as cheating? Emotional affairs, physical infidelity, blurred lines—everyone defines it differently. 🤔 Why do people cheat? Unmet needs, emotional...

💭 Are open relationships the key to deeper connection, or a fast track to heartbreak? Love isn’t one-size-fits-all, and today, we’re exploring the world of non-monogamy—its challenges, its benefits, and what it really takes to make it work.   Inside This Episode: ❤️ What exactly is an open relationship? It’s not just one definition—every couple creates their own rules. 🔄 Why do people choose it?...

Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You’re No Longer in Love? 💭 What if love isn’t gone, just buried under routine? Or what if staying means sacrificing your happiness? This is one of the toughest questions in relationships, and there’s no simple answer.   What We’re Covering in This Episode: ❤️ How do you know if you’re truly out of love—or just stuck in a rut? 🔥 The difference between pass...

Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025! I’m back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. This season, we’re shaking things up with big questions like: 👉 Should you stay in a relationship if you’re no longer in love? 👉 Should you tell your partner if you cheat? 👉 Have we turned co-dependency into a love story? No sugar-coating. Just r...

Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just can’t quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe you’re questioning if it’s you or them. Toxic relationships aren’t limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues. You might not even realise how much they’re affecting your mental and emotional well-being until you kno...

Jane’s story is one I can’t keep to myself—it’s too important. Jane walked into my office with a smile that hid the pain she had carried for years. On the surface, she seemed to have it all—young, intelligent, beautiful, and financially independent. But beneath that, she was grappling with a toxic relationship that drained her energy, poisoned her self-worth, and left her questioning her reality....

Are you in the position where you're not just a son or daughter anymore, but also a caregiver to your parents? This is something I’m going through myself right now, and I know how overwhelming it can feel. In this episode I explore what this generational role reversal really means and why it happens. I also share my own experience navigating this journey, which, to be honest, I’m still figuring ou...

Let’s face it—every relationship has its share of arguments. Whether it's over something small like leaving the toothpaste cap off or bigger issues like money, disagreements are totally normal. But here’s the thing: conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing. When handled right, it can actually bring you closer! In this episode I talk about why these arguments happen and, more importantly, how to get...

This one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood – the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools, and insights to help you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenthood with resilience and unity. We d...

When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the true essence of intimacy. We’ll chat about: The real deal on intimacy: It’s not just about the physical...

You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why? Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities. In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these chan...

Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner. In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program. Together, we dive into our personal mo...

You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode. It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectation...

Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication. Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life! From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories t...

You know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kicker—it's often misunderstood. In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll sho...

Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket? Yep, been there, felt that frustration. In this episode, I’m diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama. As a therapist, I've ha...

When change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer? Hey, you're not alone! That's why this episode is all about change – that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck. Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to som...

My latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program.​ In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she: Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey...

Ever feel like life's a constant battle between trying to be in control and dealing with unexpected craziness? Yes! I feel you and that’s why in this episode I’m going to unpack the whole idea of mastering control and finding some calm in the chaos. I’ll also dive deep into something I like to call the 'Control Conundrum, why absolute control is just an illusion and how to handle the stuff that's...

In this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of my  #memyselfandi Mastery Program  participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs. Theresa’s story is one many women can relate to… Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and fam...

Negative thought patterns, we all have them, right? It's like a never-ending loop of "worst-case scenarios" running through your head. At the core of negative thoughts is fear and in this week’s episode I’ll give you the tools to take back control. Join me as we uncover why we tend to let negative thoughts run amok and how to challenge them. We'll also explore common thinking traps and learn how t...