Not so Secret Trauma

How do you know when you have been pushed too far, or your kindness has been taken for granted. Carrie and Christina talk about when is enough, enough.

We don’t often think about how we impact the people around us, or the other way around. Maya Angelou said people won’t remember what you said to them but how you made them feel. Carrie and Christina talk about the importance of being mindful of the effect we have on other people, even when we don’t realize it. Carrie and Christina have challenged the listeners to let them know how they have impact...

We don’t often think about how we impact the people around us, or the other way around. Maya Angelou said people won’t remember what you said to them but how you made them feel. Carrie and Christina talk about the importance of being mindful of the effect we have on other people, even when we don’t realize it. Carrie and Christina have challenged the listeners to let them know how they have impact...

We can be really angry with someone we love, and at the same time still know that we love them. It can be hard to allow space for two opposite feelings at the same time. Carrie and Christina discuss holding space for two opposite feelings at the same time, and how this can help us move through feelings in a different way

Have you noticed someone whose arms are adorned with artwork, or a small piece on their ankle. Have you wondered how they managed to sit through the pain in order to obtain these pieces of art? Carrie and Christina discuss whether tattoos are considered a form of non-suicidal self injury. We would love to hear your thoughts on the matter as well

Sometimes things don’t go as we plan, and sometimes that is ok. Join Carrie and Christina as they talk about things going sideways. This is a little out of our normal format, but we hope you enjoy it!

Most of us know that place, where we are ready to give in, give up, turn back. What if we pushed through those feelings? Carrie and Christina talk about Growth Edge, are we just uncomfortable or is it unsafe. Come along for the ride!

It is not always encouraged for us to share or express our emotions. Carrie and Christina talk about the importance of being in touch with our feelings and ways to get into that mindset. Mother Moon - Big Feelings Song - https://open.spotify.com/track/3U0cHMOIJxHSMnuOsEUUnk Secondhand Therapy - https://open.spotify.com/show/2gMkjFOyVB8gk6JMMaDymf Good Anxiety - https://www.amazon.ca/Good-Anxiety-H...

As we enter the new year, Carrie and Christina discuss the overwhelm of the holidays, how they changed things this year to do the season differently. Going forward this year, we will begin posting every other week. If you are interested in joining a conversation, or have an experience you would like to share, please let us know. The Modern Rustic Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/3Y5O2gtp9sh...

When we feel sadness around the holidays, or like something is missing, maybe it is! Carrie and Christina talk about Mother Hunger, how it can impact us over this holiday season and what to do with it. This is our last episode for 2023. Thank you for being with us for the beginning of this journey, we hope you will carry on with us in the new year! https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/ What exactly is...

There are times in our lives when things pile up, small stresses can compound and the result is we can feel fragile, like there is not much more we can handle. Carrie and Christina talk about emotional fragility, what it means, what it looks like, and how we can move through it. https://nickwignall.com/emotionally-fragile-people/. James Clear - Atomic Habits

This can be one of the hardest times of year, the most difficult season. There are so many expectations to be happy and full of love, to uphold traditions that no longer make sense… Carrie and Christina talk about traditions, the stress of Christmas, and how to make it through in one piece

Have you ever been in a situation where you can feel yourself becoming agitated or escalated? Some people have built strategies to help them calm down in these types of situations. Carrie and Christina discuss how many of us were not taught emotional regulation strategies and do not know how to come out of that place. We will discuss some strategies that we have learned ourselves and some that we...

There are times when we find it difficult to move forward in a relationship after we have been hurt. Carrie and Christina talk about attachment injuries, what can cause them, how to prevent them and how to move forward. Dr Sue Johnson - https://drsuejohnson.com/about/ Overcome an Attachment Injury and Move Forward Stronger - https://www.hprc-online.org/social-fitness/relationship-building/overcome...

So many of us deal with low self-worth, trying to find ways to feel better about ourselves by looking outward. Carrie and Christina explore self worth and lived experiences and how they are connected. Flynn Skidmore - https://www.flynnskidmore.com/ Realizing and Improving Self-Worth -https://www.headspace.com/mindfulness/self-worth How to Improve your Self-Worth and Why it is Important - https://w...

That gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach, you feel clammy, this is your gut speaking to you. Are there other things that help you to know what the better choice is? Carrie and Christina talk about their experiences with instinct, intuition and trusting your gut. DISCLAIMER: We recorded this episode in a car, on a very rainy day. You cam definitely hear the rain. Intuition - https://www.heys...

Many of us walk around with negative thoughts in our brains, unkind voices… that Committee of Assholes! Carrie and Christina talk about intrusive thoughts and ways to not let them take hold, and overcome the control they can have on our lives. Armchair Expert with Gabor Mate - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gepSnq9SHCSBhV8Hd1cDN Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts - https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-...

As we come into cold and flu season, with talk of masks and covid again, there may be some feelings coming up. Carrie and Christina talk about how things changed through covid, and the impacts it has had on our lives now.

We don’t always know what we need to get through a tough time, or following a trauma. It can be even more difficult to know what someone else needs. Carrie and Christina join you this week to talk about how to support other people when they are going through a hard time. Steve on TikTok - https://www.dexerto.com/entertainment/steve-from-blues-clues-is-on-tiktok-and-fans-cant-get-enough-1701870/ We...

Carrie and Christina are back! This week they are sharing a discussion on blame, how it relates to trauma, how it impacts our relationships, along with some personal anecdotes. References https://www.mindful.org/two-lessons-on-blame-from-brene-brown/ https://www.gottman.com/blog/why-we-need-to-stop-playing-the-blame-game/ https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-stop-playing-the-blame-game/ https://www....

There can be people in our lives that we feel a deep connection to, sometimes it seems unexplainable. Join Carrie and Christina as they discuss healthy and unhealthy soul ties that we may have in our lives and explore strategies to overcome the unhealthy ones. Resources https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/soul-ties https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding https://www.canad...

Join Carrie and Christina for a week of discussing things we thought were normal but are possibly trauma responses. We will be with you every day this week with a short episode to kick off the fall. https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/regular-behaviors-that-are-trauma-responses

Join Carrie and Christina for a week of discussing things we thought were normal but are possibly trauma responses. We will be with you every day this week with a short episode to kick off the fall. https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/regular-behaviors-that-are-trauma-responses

Join Carrie and Christina for a week of discussing things we thought were normal but are possibly trauma responses. We will be with you every day this week with a short episode to kick off the fall. https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/regular-behaviors-that-are-trauma-responses https://drjudithorloff.com/quizzes/are-you-an-empath-20-question-self-assessment-test/

Join Carrie and Christina for a week of discussing things we thought were normal but are possibly trauma responses. We will be with you every day this week with a short episode to kick off the fall. https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/regular-behaviors-that-are-trauma-responses