No People Pleasing Zone

Get out and play - I promise you'll feel good - and it will help you connect with what brings you joy

Pleasing and appeasing is all about how we set up our relationship containers. When we nurture this one relationship - it changes everything.

Another day in my messy af 30 podcast sprint. Learn why I think the term Recovering People Pleaser is so problematic.

Learn why I'm diving into a 30 day podcast sprint, and what I think is key to creating change.

Messy June continues with an episode every day. This one was a just get it done at 9pm. 

Time for episode 2 in Just Do It Messy June. Find out why I'm talking about "apple" in today's episode. 

Welcome to Just Do It Messy June. Somethings gotta get things moving. Get me into action. So here we go with Just Doing It Messy June. 

Hey! I'm coming back - coming in hot and messy. I'm working on a total reboot - tearing it down and starting fresh. Watch me play in the discomfort of visibility through December. Releasing No People Pleasing Zone episodes Posting on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ez.martin.chan/ Posting on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ez.martinchan/ Ok. That’s all 

Welcome to season 2! In this episode I explore what caused me to burn out in 2021 – resulting in an abrupt ending to season 1 of No People Pleasing Zone. And discuss how I had to double down, and lean into, the one essential thing that helps build and maintain self-trust.  Self-trust is essential for overcoming fears and achieving goals. Relying on external push-culture sources for motivation is n...

What is the single most important thing my audience needs to know about self-love? That’s the question I asked fellow presenters at last year’s Women Inspiring Women Conference. With the theme of Self Love: I am Enough You are Enough, it seemed a great opportunity to collect some thoughts on a topic that can be a bit difficult to clearly define.  Today’s episode is from my interview vault.  I’m re...

Asked recently if it is always wrong to be a People Pleaser – I realized that the question provides an opportunity to dive deep. In this episode, I explore motivation, how People Pleasing isn’t who we are, and the self-judgment of the inner critic.  The motivation behind People Pleasing action is important. We can either be seeking acceptance or come from a place that resonates with the core of wh...

Do you ever find yourself returning to the same painful feelings over and over? It’s your very own version of Ground Hog Day. Maybe you find yourself using the common coping mechanism of numbing out just to avoid those feelings. In today’s episode, we learn about the differences between emotions and feelings, and we identify the sweet spot where we can play with influencing our feelings.  Emotions...

How does one approach those things that are desires, but drain energy levels? In today’s episode, I get vulnerable and explore how I’ve entered a pattern of allowing the No People Pleasing Zone to drain my energy and inhibit my ability to show up in my fullness. I identify what I desire, and struggle through the drawbacks to my current approach. Over the years, the most important lesson I’ve learn...

The holidays are quickly approaching – or if you are in the US – they’re here. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often stressed, depressed, angry, frustrated, filled with resentment, and neglect self-care. Experts suggest setting boundaries. But, setting boundaries can be really difficult when what we desire most is connection and belonging. Boundaries can feel co...

Microaggressions aren’t just found in racism, sexism, or towards LGBTQ2 communities. Found anywhere power structures place one group of people above others, microaggressions are based in community biases. They are accumulative and help to enforce status quos. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole understand microaggressions as cues to how they should BE in the world. Micr...

Energy Vampires seek out your energy to uplift their self-esteem, and they can show up anywhere. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often empaths and can find themselves prime targets for Energy Vampires. We don’t always realize that Energy Vampires exist – but they do – they are very real. Long-term relationships with Energy Vampires can cause chronic stress, whic...

What is “resilience”? When we take a look at the meaning of resilience in the context of physics, we begin to really tease out the nuance of what resilience is. So often when we talk about resilience, we are really talking about something else – survival. There is a significant difference between resilience and survival – and the two often get wrapped up into one. Survival techniques are what we d...

What if embracing the word ‘witch’ releases a kind of internal magic that changes lives? What if self-identifying as a witch could feel empowering? In this episode, we meet with Kirsty Dee and Isabel Lamar, a couple of modern-day witches, to explore how reclaiming the word ‘witch’ has changed everything. The word witch has been used as a slur, attaching stigma to, generally, women. In the past, an...

Imagine shifting from a generic life to a life full of magic. Recently I spoke with Meghan Gilroy about moving from people pleasing to a life that flows by being tuned into intuition. Meghan, founder of the Fully Shining Women Wisdom School, views intuition as an antidote to people pleasing, where we start asking ourselves ‘what is true for me?’ and living the journey from outside to inside.  Intu...

The Inner Critic is a judgmental inner voice that has us talking to ourselves in ways we would never talk to others. For women stuck down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole, the Inner Critic points out our inadequacies, impacting self-esteem and self-worth. It creates a feeling of shame. It shows up in the form of  ·       Comparison ·       Personalization ·       Should statements ·       Labeling...

The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole is a place – a place where we behave a certain way. It is acceptable and expected that we behave in certain ways down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole. And so, we do.  In today’s episode, we explore why I’ve come to use this term rather than talking about People Pleasing behaviours. We get clear on what is meant by the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole to provide common co...

People Pleasing is so entrenched in our culture that it has become part of the status quo. On many levels, the culture benefits from people-pleasing behaviours. When those of us stuck down what I call The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole, begin to heal ourselves and climb out of this way of being in the world, it is a rebellious act.  It is a challenge to a way of being in the world that is based on DO...

There are all kinds of transitions points in life, some of which are akin to an abundant harvest. The Autumn Equinox acts as a mirror to these types of transitions, providing a map of what to expect so we can unstick blockages and make mindful decisions on actions and inactions. In this episode of the No People Pleasing Zone, explore the three characteristics of the Autumn equinoxes.  ·       Abun...

It is time to stop muting your voice and your truth because you have something worthwhile to say. Returning to a social setting means returning to situations where it sometimes feels easier to stay silent and not rock the boat. But, a year and a half of not needing to control your voice may leave you desiring the ability to use your voice in the community to speak up for things you believe. In thi...

How we relate with ourselves is entirely dependent on our body image and how we feel in our bodies. Learning how to view our bodies without judgment, or at least with less judgment, can shift how we feel in our bodies. Ultimately impacting our sense of personal worthiness. Our guest today is Mitzie Gibson, a body-image advocate and empowerment photographer. In our interview, Mitzie discusses the i...