Inner Bonding

Sometimes, reaching for the help you need takes bravery and courage because of the fear of rejection and the heartbreak that follows this rejection. And it’s vitally important when asking for help from others or from your spiritual guidance to make sure you are asking from your loving adult rather than from your wounded self.

Are you addicted to perfectionism? Do you believe that if you are perfect, you can control how others feel about you? Are you aware that trying to control what you can't control makes you feel anxious and unhappy? Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs. 

Do you know what your passions are? Do you know what you're here to offer the planet? Are you unhappy with your work? Do you have a sense that you have a calling, but you don't know what it is or how to find it?  Discover what you need to notice that can lead you to your passions and life purpose and a life of joy and wellbeing. 

Are you loving, caring, and supportive of your loved ones, or are you giving to them to get their approval? Are there people in your life who support you in being all you can be, but others who want to limit you from being in your personal power?  Do you also limit yourself in being all you can be?

Do you trust your own feelings, perceptions, and knowing, or do you believe that others, especially others who may be arrogant about what they think they know about what is right or wrong for you? Trusting our inner knowing can be challenging when someone we are close to, or someone we admire, or someone who insists they are right, tells us what is best for us. 

Do you want freedom from anxiety and depression, a high sense of self-worth, loving relationships, an inner sense of safety, balance in your life, resilience in the face of challenges, freedom from past trauma, and inner peace? Discover how learning to love yourself creates all of these and more!

Are you an enmeshed, controlling, or helicopter parent? Do you have challenges setting appropriate limits and consequences for your children? Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover what to do and what not to do to raise responsible 

Do you receive joy from others’ joy? Or does being competitive get in the way of sharing the last cookie? There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life. 

Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people, often saying to yourself, “Why me?” or “It’s not fair.” Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Find the way out of feeling like a victim.

Discover how you can know the difference between the truth that comes from your spiritual guidance and the lies that come from the programmed mind of your ego wounded self. It's easier than you think to learn to discern the difference! 

When you believe you are your wounded self, you end up with low self-worth, which can lead to feeling invisible and actually being invisible to others. Discovering that you are your soul essence, instead of believing that you are your ego wounded self, is a major step in becoming truly humble rather than invisible or arrogant. 

Discover how to manage the major challenges of life when it seems like the lights go out, rather than get stuck in the dark night of the soul. Learn about the underlying causes of the dark night of the soul and how to move back into the light.

In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul and Erika Chopich, creators of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talk about the conscious choice of kindness, and how it’s shaped them. Many people believe that kindness makes you weak, but that’s not true when it comes from the loving adult. The ego wounded self however, is.

Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone, feeling like a victim of another's choices? Are you keeping yourself miserable by holding on to anger? Are you confused between the difference between condoning and forgiving? Have you tried to forgive yourself and others, only to discover that you are still angry or judgmental toward yourself or them? Discover the path toward forgiveness. 

Do you have the courage and grit to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you? Do you have the courage to love yourself and others, even when you might encounter others’ uncaring or angry behavior, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Do you have the courage to go deeper into personal growth and learning, face your wounded self and discover your true so...

Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" If you have the gift of high sensitivity, or if you are partnered with a highly sensitive person, it's vitally important to understand this soul gift. 

Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? Are you still trying to figure out how to deal with a critical mother? Is there still a place within that yearns for loving mothering? The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.  

Do the fears of rejection or engulfment control your life? Do you isolate yourself to protect yourself from the fears of rejection or engulfment? Are you constantly trying to control how people feel about you? Discover how you can heal these fears.

Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Do you believe that you don’t have the right to be happy when someone you love is unhappy? Discover how to be happy when someone you love is unhappy.

Self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! But the ego wounded self in all of us exhibits some degree of narcissism, and discovering where you fall on this continuum can lead to deeper learning and healing. Also, discover how you can likely know a narcissist in advance of getting involved.

Are you stuck in some aspect of your life, or stuck with depression and a lack of motivation to take the loving actions for yourself? Discover some of the false beliefs that may be keeping you stuck and what to do about it.

Were you taught to believe that loving yourself is selfish? Discover the difference between taking care of yourself from your wounded self or from your loving adult. Also, discover whether you are inadvertently contributing to the darkness of our planet, and what you can do about it. 

Failure! What do you feel when you think about failing? Inadequate? Unworthy? Unlovable? Have you learned to link failure to your value as a person? Does the fear of failure stop you from doing what you really want to do?

Do you know when you are being needy? Do you know the difference between needs and neediness? We all have needs that can only be met by another person, and this is vastly different than neediness. Learn what creates and heals neediness.

Are you paralyzed with fear in some aspect of your life? Is this keeping you stuck? Is the fear of the unknown keeping you stuck, not doing the things you really want to do? How are you viewing success or failure that might be keeping you stuck? Discover how to get yourself unstuck – how to feel the fear and do it anyway!