Healing Anxious Attachment

The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through...

Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memo...

Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control. By the end you'll Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up i...

One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving. This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on...

In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships. We’ll explore: Why high-functioning women resist support The somatic signs you’re in survival mode How childhood patterns shaped your ability to receive What it really takes to let love land And if yo...

You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held. In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership. And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen. You’ll hear: Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions ar...

You look like the woman who has it all together — grounded, reliable, composed. But underneath? You’re feeling urgent, worried, and overthinking. Managing everything. And maybe quietly unraveling. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-functioning woman who knows something feels off but can't break through on it. We’re talking about the kind of anxiety that hides behind performing calm. Insi...

We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship? If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you. In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jea...

If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe. For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small. In this episode, I’m di...

After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends. We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your tru...

Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I’m diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices. We’ll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), a...

It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____ Becoming Secure Membership 🎆 Learn more here. Mentioned in this episode: 🧡 Workshop Sun, July 5th 11am ET inside Becoming Her ✨ 👉🏼 Join me for Secure & Self-Assured https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment...

Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself. Join the Becoming Secure membership, click for info Here’s what we cover in this episode: 💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of r...

What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don’t like where it’s going but don’t want to be rude? I feel isolated because don’t look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do?  During this episode I share answers to highly relatable questions from inside the Monthly Membership. Join for live...

In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year . Whether you're healing anxious attachment, building self-trust, or creating healthier relationships, this conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love...

If you’ve ever felt stuck on your self-love journey or wondered why it doesn’t feel as deep as you’d hoped, this episode is for you. Discover the essential practices, inner and outer work, and mindset shifts that create a true, lasting sense of self-worth. ✨ Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this women-only membership , you’ll discover how to: calm your anxiety heal...

You’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships. In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a m...

Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price. In this episode, we’ll explore: ✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment ✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away ✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing ✔️ Why prio...

Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering. In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are. Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life. Also mentioned, the 5 Part, Master Your Boundaries Series, instant access within in the Becoming Secure membership. Set...

Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness’ and the steps I took to move beyond it. Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you. This episode offers both insight and prac...

What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡 Get the tools and practices to heal anxious attachment on the subconscious level: If you listened to this episode, message me on Instagra...

Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer. I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type. Take the quiz here. << Learn more about the membership...

Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️ Access the full practice within the Becoming Secure membership. By joining the membership you also receive: 🪷 Coaching support from me, Johanna - a somatic thera...

Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached. In this episode I discuss: -Trauma bonds -Love versus attachment -Choosing better men ...and more! Dive Deeper: Hang on Instagram . ✨ ✨Go Deeper and Join the Becoming Secure Membership When you join this...

Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control. In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships. You'll learn: How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physically How control in an...