Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

The agreement is signed, the exchanges are happening, and the whole thing still starts up again every time a pickup text lands. This episode is about why grief after divorce works differently from every other loss, and the one thing to do this week for the version of your life that has not been lived yet. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the...

It is a few months after the divorce, the apartment is smaller and quieter than you pictured, and the life that was supposed to show up hasn't. Corey tells the story of the move he made in eighth grade chasing a better life, what he couldn't see from Florida, and why the answer to "better when" is to stop waiting on it and start the work now. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used agai...

It's a few weeks after you signed, the house is quiet on a night without the kids, and you feel worse than you did when the fight was still on. This episode is about why that happens, why the people who were blindsided feel it hardest, and why none of it means you're broken or behind. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger de...

The papers are signed, everyone keeps asking if you feel relieved, and mostly you just feel tired. This episode is about why that's normal, the three ways people land after a settlement, and the big decisions to hold off on while you get your footing. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you no...

Your first court date is coming and you keep imagining the worst version of it. This episode walks you through that morning, including what the aggressive lawyer on the other side said after the judge ruled. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it p...

You took the pause, stayed flexible, made every deposit, and the other side still refuses to move. This episode breaks down the three kinds of divorce trials, which one you are walking into, and how to know if your attorney is truly committed to fighting it with you. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every conces...

The other side just sent something obnoxious, and your reply is sitting there ready to go. Before you hit send, hear what the judge is actually watching for, and why every choice you make is either a deposit or a withdrawal. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided...

Mediation fell apart, a court date is on the calendar, and your mind keeps jumping to courtroom scenes from the movies. This episode gives you the real lay of the land, the three unspoken rules no attorney explains, and why a judge pushing you toward settlement is a window, not a warning. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigge...

You have already decided your spouse is too difficult for mediation, and court feels like the only road left. This episode walks you through the front door and the back door to mediation, the three types you will actually encounter, and why choosing resolution now is not the same as giving up. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a...

You have consultations booked and no idea how to tell the attorney who will actually protect you from the one who just tells you what you want to hear. This episode gives you the three questions that reveal the difference before you hand over a retainer. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you...

You looked up the firm your spouse hired, saw the fancy address and the wall of attorney bios, and felt your stomach drop. Before you assume the worst, this episode gives you the one question that tells you whether their expensive lawyer actually changes anything: can they afford to keep paying for it? You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the flo...

You're done being the reasonable one, because being reasonable is what got you here. Before you lock in the position that finally feels like fighting back, here's what it does to your case. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different...

You've told yourself it probably won't come up, so you haven't mentioned it to anyone, including your lawyer. This is what it costs if you're wrong, and why handing it over now is what keeps it from being used against you later. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-si...

The emails and requests keep coming, and each one feels like it needs an answer right now. Most of it is built to drain you, not to win, and this is how you spot the few that actually matter. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by differen...

You keep sending reasonable proposals and they keep getting brushed aside, and you cannot figure out why. What looks like chaos is usually a strategy, and this episode names the four you are most likely up against. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're startin...

You are about to hand your case to a lawyer, and no one ever laid out how the system works. This is the scouting report, so you walk in knowing your job and who to trust with the rest. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch th...

Somewhere in the middle, the work stops feeling like progress and starts feeling like nothing is changing. This is a pause to show you what already has. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a sy...

A last-minute request blows up your plans with the kids, and you have about ten seconds before you respond badly. Watch how to handle it in real time so the calm answer is also the smart one. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to t...

Being nice hasn't worked. Getting angry isn't who you are. There's a third way to respond, and one question gets you there. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it w...

When they tune you out, saying it louder won't get through. Step four of the CLEAR Method, and the one move that shifts a conversation from reactive to real. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is...

When your spouse demands 50/50 and you know it isn't really about the kids, your instinct is to push back. That instinct will cost you. Here's the move that actually works. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thin...

When you're dug in on the big issue and nothing's moving, the answer isn't to push harder. Find the smallest place you actually agree and start there. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a syst...

When your spouse demands 50/50 after years of barely parenting, the urge to set them straight is overwhelming. That instinct is the trap. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for gettin...

The offer is outrageous. Your reaction is valid. Saying it out loud is the mistake. Here's the method that keeps you persuasive instead. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting...

This episode breaks down why acting neutral in your divorce isn't about hiding your feelings, it's about protecting your case from a system that's already forming opinions about you. Corey walks through what happens when emotions take over, why credibility matters more than truth in court, and how to stop giving the other side ammunition. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've be...