Free From P*rn

Are “big BUTs ” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but …” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show w...

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily. You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient,...

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn , Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks: 👉 “What if I still feel tempted?” 👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?” 👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?” Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’...

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment . Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, t...

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity. Justin share...

“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…” That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true. In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love. But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability...

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.”  But what if that’s not the whole truth? In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle. Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache undern...

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you ? So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them . A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling. In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shi...

In this episode of Free from Porn , Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame. We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved? Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful...

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ? This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear. If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation...

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering. Through Chiefs football analogies, victor...

Cold plunges make you watch porn? That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue , willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think. Join Richard and Justin as they dive into: Why your willpower isn’t your problem How decision fatigue sneaks up on you The surprising link between cold plu...

“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all. We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher— if you let truth train yo...

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits? In this episode of Free From Porn , Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now —and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity . You’ll hear storie...

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program: "God, take away my sexual desires." But what if that’s not the problem? What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed? We talk about: Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotion...

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure? In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from. You’ll learn:  – Why...

A lot of guys believe the lie: “Once I get married and can have sex, I won’t struggle with porn anymore.” But here’s the hard truth—we’re not trying to be clickbaity… marriage might actually make your porn habit worse. In this episode, Justin and Richard unpack why marriage and sex were never meant to be the solution to your struggle with lust. We talk through the deep-rooted misunderstandings man...

What if your struggle with porn isn’t an addiction… but a habit? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young unpack why the language you use to describe your battle matters deeply—and how calling it an "addiction" might be keeping you stuck. Drawing from science (yes, Pavlov makes a cameo) and scripture (Colossians 3, anyone?), they explore the difference...

For years, we’ve been taught to flee temptation. Run from lust. Avoid triggers at all costs. But what if that’s not what God is actually calling you to do? In this powerful episode, Richard Young and Justin Khoe unpack a surprising truth about 1 Corinthians 10:13—and explain why the real way of escape isn’t running away, but learning to endure . You’ll learn: ✅ Why trying to avoid temptation keep...

Why running from temptation might be keeping you stuck—and how to flip the script. 🔥 What We Talk About: Most of us were taught: "Just flee temptation." But what if that advice is keeping you spiritually weak? In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle a commonly misused phrase— “flee temptation” —and explain why that mindset can actually deepen your slavery to sin. They walk through...

What if the way you describe yourself is the very thing keeping you stuck? In this episode of Free From Porn , hosts Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most common (and damaging) beliefs in the fight against porn: the identity of a porn addict. If you’ve ever thought, “I guess this is just something I’ll struggle with forever…”  —then this episode is your wake-up call. We unpack: T...

If effort alone could set you free… you’d be free by now. Let’s get honest.  You’ve tried the filters.  You’ve tried the alarms.  You’ve tried accountability, apps, and prayer marathons at 5am. And yet—you’re still stuck. In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle the lie that white-knuckled effort leads to lasting freedom. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. In fact, trying harder may be reinforcing th...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT No one has ever hated themselves into healing.  Yet for so many, shame has become the default strategy for breaking free from porn. Here’s the truth:  Shame doesn’t heal you.  Shame doesn’t change you.  Shame just makes you feel worse. In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack why shame feels powerful—but never produces lasting transformation. You’ll hear powerful (and vulnera...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT Sex isn’t dirty.  Desire isn’t sin.  And freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sexuality. In this episode, Justin and Richard confront one of the most harmful lies in Christian purity culture: that sexual desire is inherently sinful. But what if the urge to procreate is no more evil than the urge to urinate? We explore how God designed sexuality as a gift, why shame has hijac...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT Freedom doesn’t happen alone.  It’s not just about willpower, filters, or white-knuckling your way through temptation. If you want real, lasting freedom from porn—you need a grace-filled community. In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack how shame drives isolation, and why the enemy loves to keep you there. You'll hear personal stories, biblical wisdom, and an invitatio...