Feel This with Frank and Jess

#20 Processing Our Podcast Release Event We begin with a lovely meditation helping to reflect on a significant event. And then we dive into our own reflections on our podcast release event the night before this recording. We make mention of a number of topics, including AEDP , oobleck , and Terry Real’s book Us . Recorded 6/16/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share...

Jessica is looking at bringing more of herself forward in the podcast space. Great, right? But how will this affect the dynamic between Frank and Jess? Frank shares the concept of Wu Wei, or the way of effortless living, which may be the deepest fundamental principle he moves toward and aligns with. And with that, we dive in. Recorded 6/14/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We...

Just a quick note: we will be off so no new episodes for a couple weeks. The next episode is scheduled to be published Sunday July 3rd. See you then!

Today we explore being healers in a lineage of healers and the complexity of giving and receiving healing and connection with those closest to us. We also dip our toes into what we mean by “the system” and creating safety in the space between Me, You and We; and how we’re co-creating this podcast with a priority on aliveness, connection and joy. Recorded 5/31/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please le...

After hitting a bump in the relationship road, Jess & Frank share what happened and how they got back on track and reconnected. This rich conversation begins after an 8 minute meditation settling into the body and checking in with any relationship where you may be feeling confusion, complication or rupture. Recorded 5/26/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it...

Is there a difference between observation and presence? How does choice work and serve our nervous systems? We explore these questions and a practice Frank has developed to help find completion within when those relational hiccups come along that, for whatever reason, we can't share with the other person. It’s an empathetic, almost telepathic communication. Today begins with an 8 minute meditation...

When we share the impact someone has had on us, however fumbling, we touch them. But sometimes it doesn’t land how we intended! So Then what do we do? Can we reconnect after a miscommunication without “taking back” what we’ve said? Recorded 5/3/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain a...

Today we’re going to explore “Big T” trauma, “little t” trauma, and even some of “The Air We All Breathe” societal trauma, with Jessica sharing a bit of her story and the significance of losing (and finding) her voice. We begin by inviting you into presence through a 5 minute sense meditation, which begins after we talk about why tuning into our senses is so valuable. Recorded 4/26/22 Your Feedbac...

Today we explore the possibilities of this virtuous cycle:  At times when we’re feeling more ourselves and connected to our inner Yes and our inner knowing —-> We feel more fully responsible for ourselves and our lives -—> Which allows us to set clearer, healthier boundaries -—> Which leads to feeling even more fully ourselves —-> And so it goes! This episode begins with an 8 minute settling in, c...

Today’s revelation is in seeing more clearly the relationship between the internal Drama Triangle our parts get hooked by and how that can stir up Drama Triangle energy with others. Can we avoid getting hooked into our own persecutor/victim/rescuer mentality while still looking to connect? Does it help to move toward or away from the pain in ourselves and each other? We also spend time looking at...

Today we’re on the edge of that lush Jungle of Consciousness we love so much. We’re looking in, asking “What puts us outside of deep connection? How do we get back in?” But before we find our way back Jess goes way waaay out, giving us an opportunity to look into the generative nature of groundlessness and the myth of dissociation as it relates to capitalism and productivity.  Recorded 03/25/...

What does it mean to be a multidimensional, experiential storyteller? How do our stories become static or frozen? Frank shares what Leonardo DaVinci’s curiosity did for him during his brain tumor experience and Jess knows that what feels like play points toward healing and sometimes the particularity of what each of us is here to do. Along the way there are little explorations of Polyvagal Theory,...

Considering that today’s episode begins in the Land of Judgment and Expectation, the amount of joy and laughter might surprise you. We begin with a 7 minute meditation tuning into our different emotional streams and taking time to affirm and acknowledge our present moment experience. Links: Brain Games is Now Over Recorded 02/22/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might shar...

When Jess shows up in a more triggered and critical internal space, the subject of trauma becomes our focus… trauma as unprocessed, impacted experience, trauma as a sacred temple of unveiling our true Self. Also, we dip into Frank’s perspective that all conflict is internal conflict. All that after beginning with a 5 minute meditation connecting with your inner oracle!  Recorded 02/15/22 Your...

Have you ever thought about the difference between verbalizing an experience and having an experience?  Well, it turns out you can’t eat the menu. After 4 minutes of settling in, we get an update on Mr. Shoes’ health which leads us into an expansive exploration of the wisdom found when viewing our lives from the “room of our death.”  Links: Stealing Fire Recorded  02/08/2022  Y...

When Frank comes into the podcast space “weighed down” by his beloved dog, Mr. Shoes, having health issues, a conversation ensues about mortality. Frank sees his practice of compassionate presence bearing fruit during challenging times, while Jess shares the struggle of parts believing in some sense of personal control. Frank shares his belief that everything happens as it’s supposed to, and they...

Frank’s recent mantra “Be With What Is” is the catalyst for today’s show. But what’s that got to do with chaos and abundance, the awkwardness of our own vulnerability and the muchness of our appreciation of each other and this amazing podcast space? Recorded 01/11/2022  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name...

Can we hear our authentic desires? How do we trust that spark of excitement sourced in our body’s experience of the present moment? After a 4 minute meditation, today we question the “Shoulds” coming from our social conditioning and look more closely at our “Wants”.  Recorded 12/28/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know i...

Following a couple minutes of meditative check-in, Frank shares a powerful thought experiment he calls the Red Button, inspired by the intense experience of having a life-threatening brain tumor. We also get very clear about one of our foundational practices here on this podcast: Feelings first, content second!  Recorded 12/21/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We...

After a 2 minute meditation we jump in, sharing a calming practice for re-centering when you’re triggered by fear. We also introduce the ”Unicorn Wrangler” and question whether or not this part of us has our best interests in mind.  Recorded 11/18/2021  Links Dave Chappell movie, Half Baked Soul Collage NLP - neuro-linguistic programming TED The Three Key Steps to Creativity: Copy, Trans...

On Frank’s last day in Louisville he shares how his seemingly stressful situation, moving cross-country to Portland, OR, isn’t.  We also talk about the price of competency and perfectionism.  Recorded 10/28/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way...

What are “parts” and why are we always talking about them? In the first of our “Looking Into” series we’re exploring Internal Family Systems and modeling what working with it looks like. Each episode in the Looking Into series offers an overview on a theory or healing modality we’ve been influenced by in our lives that shows up here, in Feel This.   Links Internal Family Systems Tim Ferr...

The Modes of Communication are fundamental to our conversations. They are the doorway into what makes our podcast “experiential.”  In this episode we share the five modes, Chit-Chat, It Chat, Me Chat, We Chat, and Now Chat, and give you a foundation so you can listen to what’s happening beyond the level of content in our podcast, as well as begin to notice these modes during your own communic...