Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

All too often we get stuck in disconnect patterns when painful emotions arise in relationship. Most of the time, we don't even know we are hurting because we are only aware of our reactions...anger, frustration, criticism etc. When we lead with our reactions, our partner doesn't see our pain, and does not know how to help. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explan...

About Noah St John: Noah St. John, author of 15 books including the NEW book Power Habits®: The New Science for Making Success Automatic® Noah St. John is known as "The Power Habits® Mentor" and is famous for helping people get rid of their head trash and make more money.    (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)   In this episode,...

Today, we are continuing the conversation about how to cultivate a more loving presence through the Five A's offered by David Richo. The Five A's are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing. If you missed episode ERP 195: 5 Essential Elements Of Love - Part- One, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this episode, as it gives context for this conversation as well...

In the book, "How To Be An Adult In Relationships - Five Keys to Mindful Living," David Richo offers us 5 essential practices of love.  David calls these practices the "Five A's," which are attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. "What we need for the building of a self is precisely what we need for happiness in our adult love relationships." by David Richo (Please listen to...

About Robert MacNaughton: Robert MacNaughton is an executive leadership coach and facilitator who teaches about how to skillfully reconcile seemingly contradictory world-views in relationships, organization, and culture. Robert is an authority in the fields of Integral business, behavioral development, and experiential education. Robert focuses on supporting leaders with execution strategies, desi...

About Tobin Zivon: Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades.      The author of The Art of Mindful Living , Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality.  Tobin has been lovingly...

About Amy E. Smith: Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com , Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.   With acute focus on helping people "find their voice", she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irre...

About Lindsay Bryan-Podvin:   Lindsay is a financial therapist dedicated to bringing couples the knowledge they need about personal finances to deepen their relationships. I'm passionate about helping couples feel at peace with their money. It's my mission to open up a dialogue with my clients to talk about their money beyond the dollars and cents so they can feel darn good about how their money i...

About Larry Bilotta: Married over 45 years in an age of divorce , Larry Bilotta is an authority on understanding people, marriage and relationships.   Larry lived 27 years in a marriage made in Hell, but in the 28th year, fell in love…with his wife! As one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage, today, Larry holds the key to bringing a marriage back from the brink of...

About Dr. Laura Louis: As a licensed psychologist, Dr. Laura Louis is a widely sought-after speaker specializing in helping couples press the reset button after infidelity. Her five-step training program, Marriage Matters, has helped couples reawaken their connection. Affectionately deemed the "Marriage Architect", Dr. Louis gives couples the tools to build their marriages.     (Please listen to t...

About Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of...

About David Wood: After life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the one of the world's largest coaching businesses, becoming #1 on Google for "life coaching."  David Wood believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. David coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams - even prison...

About Dr. Marcus Warner: A conference speaker and author who has spent over thirty years helping people and organizations navigate some of life's toughest challenges. As the president of Deeper Walk International he has helped develop dozens of resources that deal with recovery, leadership, and family life.      About Chris M. Coursey: The president of THRIVEtoday, a non-profit focusing on trainin...

About Rabbi Manis Friedman: World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called "It's Good to Know" which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events.        (Please listen to the podcast episode...

About Robert Kandell:  Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communication expert, speaker, podcaster and the author of the bestselling book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Since 2002, Robert's mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitt...

About Dr. Lonnie Barbach:  Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at UCSF medical centers sexuality program and is currently in private practice.  She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause.  Her best-known books include: For Yourself, The Erotic Edge, The Pause...

In this episode, Dr. Dain Heer and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:   What a gentleman is and what it means to be a holistic you.   Masculinity and how it appears in relationships.   The masculine and feminine traits that we all possess and embracing them in our lives.   How to look at the judgments, rules, and expectations we live by and work with them, so that you can connect with what is truly you....

Several listeners have posed the question " How do I get my partner to go to therapy? " Or " How do I get my partner to go to therapy with me? " Today, I am going to give you some guidelines to consider when approaching this conversation with your significant other. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read  the transcript  to hear explanations, stories and examples.) DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE...

SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? Unfortunately, there may come a point in relationship, where we are in enough distress, discontent and disconnect, that we question our relationship or marriage. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Four relationship dealbreakers (in general) that extremely difficult to ove...

GUEST GABRIELLE USATYNSKI: Gabrielle Usatynski, MA, is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Power Couples Counseling in Boulder, CO. She has been in private practice since 2008 and specializes in couples therapy. She is trained in PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy). Gabrielle has been named 2018 and 2019 Best Marriage Counselor of Louisville by the Louisville Awards Program. She...

In this episode, Bento Leal and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:   How Bento got involved in the field of relationship skills.  Some of the biggest problems in interpersonal communication.  The 4 Keys to Effective Communication.  The number one skill for everyone.  It's not just about receiving information, it's about getting where the other person is coming from, especially on an emotional topic.  Li...

Last week's episode (177) , I discussed how difficult it can be when feeling distressed, threatened, and reactive to engage in comfort with a significant other. As one of my clients puts so well "Why would I want comfort from you, when you are they one that is causing me pain!" Many of us did not get the experience of having comfort when we were young. Thus, we developed ways to deal with it, but...

Discussed In This Episode: During stress, ways we get it wrong when we try to comfort our partner. How offering physical and emotional closeness is one of the most powerful ways to offer comfort. Ways to provide physical closeness (i.e. hugging, holding, sitting close). General ways to offer emotional closeness: 1. Accept and listen to your partner. 2. Understand the hurt. 3. Be with the pain. 4....

In This Episode, Dr. Keith Witt And Dr. Jessica Higgins Discuss:   Understanding intersubjectivity – the unique space that exists between two people. Recognizing the powerful impact and influence of our emotional states on each other in relationship. Learning how to manage and shift out of reactive, defensive, and negative states and how to amplify positive states.   Attending to the three foundat...

In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins and Dr. Scott Woolley discuss:    Understanding the motivating factors of an affair and trusting it won't happen again.  The internal working models of attachment about who we are, who other people are, and how we relate to them.  The destructive impacts of taking revenge, public shaming, and waiting to make significant decisions.     Key Takeaways:    The thre...