Embracing All of Me

Born into Jim Crow and refusing every box it tried to seal, Pauli Murray lived at the fault lines of American law, race, gender, and faith. Episode 6 of Binary Bashers, traces a life spent translating personal struggle into constitutional vision: from early challenges to segregated education, to legal theories that helped shape Brown v. Board of Education , to arguments against sex discrimination...

In a world hungry for clean lines and easy answers, Prof. Dr. Ibrahim Abdurahman Farajajé charted his own path to become the total embodiment of a binary basher. Raised in a multiracial, multireligious Berkeley, California where difference was ordinary, Farajajé learned early that wholeness did not require erasure. Episode 5 traces a life shaped by multiplicity, Blackness, fluidity, spiritual and...

In Episode 4 of Binary Bashers: June Jordan wrote from the fault lines of race, gender, sexuality, and empire, push back against neat categories in favor of lived truth. A poet, essayist, teacher, and organizer, Jordan insisted that language was a tool for survival, intimacy, and resistance. Her work braided the personal and the political, honoring Black life, bisexuality, and global solidarity at...

In Episode 3 of Binary Bashers, we revisit Countee Cullen (1903-1946), a poet whose life and work cannot be easily classification. Writing at the height of the Harlem Renaissance era, Cullen believed deeply in poetic beauty, form, meter, and universal themes, even as the world insisted on reading him through rigid racial and moral frames. His poetry lives in tension: between faith and doubt, prote...

In Episode 2 of Binary Bashers , we turn to the quietly radical life and work of Alice Dunbar-Nelson (1875-1935), a poet, journalist, educator, and activist whose legacy does not sit neatly within the categories history has assigned her. Best known in her lifetime as a writer of refined verse and regional sketches, Dunbar-Nelson also lived at the intersections of race, gender, sexuality, and polit...

Before there were words like "bi," "fluid," or "nonbinary," there were perspectives, lives, and art no mold could contain. Episode 1 of Binary Bashers opens with Claude McKay (1889–1948), the Harlem Renaissance poet whose brilliance, rebellion, and contradictions still echo through Black, queer, and literary history in 2026. Known for his fierce critiques of racism an...

Binary Bashers is an original audio docu-series by Embracing All of Me that explores Black historical artists, poets, lawyers, and activists whose lives reveal belonging, identity, desire, and creative work beyond rigid binaries. The series employs a "bi-coded" and a "queer-coded" lens grounded in the figures own words, work, and relationships. This modern interpretive lens isn...

Binary Bashers is an original audio documentary series by Embracing All of Me, launching February 3, 2026, for Black History Month. The series centers Black historical figures whose lives moved beyond rigid, self-limiting social binaries, revealing how race, desire, identity, creativity, and survival have always existed in layered, expansive, and unfinished ways. Binary Bashers uncovers resilience...

In this special holiday episode and season finale of Embracing All of Me , a rare and intimate conversation brings together bisexual, fluid, and queer fathers to reflect on family, identity, and what it means to raise children while embracing their full selves. Frank, Keaton, Mark, Gattison, and Brian, fathers with children across different ages and stages, weigh in from a wide range of lived real...

On this episode of Embracing All of Me , Ross sits down with psychotherapist and death worker Stevie Luna Ibarra (they/she) to explore how grief takes shape inside queer people of color, especially during the holidays. Together, they unpack what happens when colonization, silence, identity, and family dynamics collide at the exact moment we need grounding the most. Stevie brings over 13 years of e...

In this episode of Embracing All of Me , Ross sits down with MARQUE, a Bronx-born, Puerto Rican singer-songwriter and dancer, to explore how dance, music, and creativity shape identity, healing, and self-expression. Together, they talk about growing up surrounded by rhythm, dance as a first language, and how performance and people-pleasing can become survival skills. One key takeaway from this con...

On this episode of Embracing All of Me , Ross sits down with former U.S. Marine, certified life coach, and ally Langston Montgomery to explore masculinity, addiction recovery, and the emotional battles men often face in silence. Langston shares his journey through addiction, divorce, and the moment he finally stopped running from himself. Together, Ross and Langston discuss: How cultural and gener...

Language is more than communication — it’s a technology. In this episode of Embracing All of Me , writer, speaker, and neurolinguistics practitioner Britnei Nicole breaks down how our words shape our nervous systems, our choices, and our sense of what’s possible. We explore inherited scripts, shadow work, identity, safety, racialized experiences, micro-skills for nervous system rewiring, and what...

Steven Underwood, award-winning writer, cultural critic, and digital worldbuilder, joins Embracing All of Me for a conversation that unfolds like a map of survival, imagination, and becoming. From a misunderstood tweet that led to a traumatizing arrest, to the grandmother who infused his life with art, to Frank Ocean’s influence on his queer awakenings, Steven breaks open what it means to create i...

In this bonus solo episode, Ross Victory examines why people choose interpretations of God that harm instead of heal. Using the viral Yolanda Adams clip as a springboard, Ross breaks down the forces behind fear-based theology—scarcity, control, inherited doctrine, community pressure, and the need for moral cover. Through history, psychology, and spiritual honesty, he exposes how interpretation bec...

Latino hip-hop artist Ryan Xavier isn’t here to make himself palatable, he’s here to make you feel something! In this episode, we talk Texas pride, Ryan's influences from Hairspray to Florence & the Machine, his creative process, bisexual Latino representation in hip hop, balancing art and algorithm, building Xavier Nation and what happens when you show up online as yourself without waitin...

What does it mean to be both Black and bisexual in 2026, a world that still insists on binaries, and why do bisexual people, especially bi+ Black women and femmes, experience the highest rates of interpersonal violence? In this episode of Embracing All of Me , Ross sits down with Zoomy Taylor (sex educator) and Chizu (animator/artist) to unpack the lived realities of Black bi men and women: from b...

What does home really mean when you’ve crossed borders, rebuilt your life after loss, and found family in strangers? In this conversation, global nomad and entrepreneur Ken Krell takes us on a journey through airports, Pride flags, and unexpected moments of belonging spanning a life of 68 years. “Home is wherever you let people in,” Ken shares, reflecting on decades of travel, queer love across co...

This episode examines presence as a political, emotional, and spiritual discipline in an age of distraction. Ross shares how confronting what is, rather than what should be, has shaped his journey toward forty and reshaped his definition of abundance. Listeners are invited to consider presence as a form of protest and a pathway to becoming.

In this episode of Embracing All of Me , Ross sits down with Rick Goodwin, MSW, RSW, social worker, author, and the founder and Clinical Services Director of  Men & Healing , to unpack the silent epidemic of shame carried by male survivors of sexual abuse. Together, they explore how masculinity, societal pressure, and outdated narratives which keep men, including bisexual, queer, and fluid men...

What do grief, bisexual representation in film and TV, and a foot fetish have in common? In this episode, writer, actor, filmmaker, and corporate trainer Chris McNeany shows us the power of embracing every side of ourselves — the pain, the joy, the awkward laughter, and the desires often kept in the shadows. From caregiving through cancer to creating bi+ films like More Than He Knows (with nearly...

What does it mean to carve out joy, liberation, and healing in a world that tries to write your story for you? In this week's conversation, Dr. Danielle Samuel, proud Black Caribbean bisexual woman, licensed therapist, entrepreneur and President of the Los Angeles Bi+ Task Force — takes us from her teenage years in Grenada, and St. Lucia to her work as a professor, therapist, and advocate creating...

We're Back for Season 2! In this episode of Embracing All of Me , we go beyond the content to meet the real Michael Lemus — a proud Bi+ Latino creator, first-gen college graduate, first-gen professional, and founder of Reclaiming Your Happiness with Lemus, LLC . Michael opens up about navigating parentification, setting boundaries that others may not understand, choosing joy when it comes at a...

As a thank you for supporting Embracing All of Me, I’m giving away a FREE digital copy of my upcoming eBook, Embracing All of Me: Identity-Focused Writing for Bisexual, Pansexual, and Fluid Men! To claim yours: ✅ Rate, review, or leave a comment on the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! ✅ Screenshot your rating or review ✅ Send the screenshot over to me via Instagram or email at embracingall...

In this bonus episode of Embracing All of Me , we go behind the scenes of a groundbreaking effort to bring digital visibility to millions of bisexual and bi+ individuals worldwide. Ross shares the journey of crafting a 29-page proposal to Unicode Technical Committee for a bisexual umbrella emoji, a culturally recognized and academically supported icon designed to close the digital representation g...