Connection Codes

Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational...

Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting wit...

Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’re discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how...

The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal th...

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, explor...

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather t...

The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex,...

We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how society’s tendency to label people, rather than understand them, leads to deeper psychological challenges. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation and use simple tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help both adults and children process...

The Connection Codes crew is taking on a listener's question about how parents can express emotions without making their kids feel like they need to earn love or approval. They explore how parents can balance showing real emotions while avoiding guilt-tripping or creating unnecessary pressure. From discussing parental guilt to finding joy in everyday moments, this episode offers you tools for...

Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately l...

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of str...

In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share personal stories about how unprocessed emotions can show up physically as chronic pain and stress, affecting our ability to experience joy and connection. They also give advice on how to recognize and address these emotions so we can break free from th...

We confront the overwhelming pressures that come with balancing personal and professional lives, and how unprocessed emotions can drastically reduce productivity and cloud decision-making. The Connection Codes team shares powerful strategies for managing these emotions, helping you break free from the mental blocks that keep you from reaching your full potential. You'll walk away with insights...

Replay Episode. (We will be back next week with something brand new! But this is one of our most popular episodes that is worth revisiting 🙌🏻) Dr Glenn & Phyllis dive into a moment where they were both filled with emotion. They break down how they kept it from becoming a disconnect & share how they worked through it without causing any more damage. A painful moment connected them further...

In this episode, the Connection Codes team talks about the realities of love and marriage, pushing back against the lie that relationships are only about finding "The One." They discuss how feelings of love change over time, as well as the importance of safety and connection in maintaining a healthy relationship. They also go into the science behind emotions, experiences, and the impact...

In this episode the Connection Codes team is talking about the subtle yet powerful impact of words and emotions in relationships. They explore how seemingly simple questions can carry deeper meanings and trigger unexpected responses, often rooted in past experiences and fears. They discuss how leading with emotions like joy and fear can foster genuine connections and reduce misunderstandings. The...

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and rewards of maintaining a long-term relationship, discussing the importance of addressing and processing emotional pain rather than suppressing it. They provide insights into the tools and practices that help couples connect on a deeper level, reveal...

This discussion centers around the issue of how past emotional wounds resurface and affect our current relationships. Tune in to hear about the misconceptions surrounding forgiveness and explore why old pains often feel as fresh as when they first happened. The team also talks about the importance of recognizing and processing these emotions rather than dismissing them, offering tools and techniqu...

Dr. Glenn shares his deeply personal journey, discussing the impact of his childhood trauma and the pressures that led him to adopt a false persona. He talks about the emotional toll of losing both parents at a young age, the survival mechanisms he developed, and the eventual realization of how these experiences influenced his relationships and self-identity. They discuss how complex authenticity...

Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis take on the relationship between identity and core emotions. They use "Inside Out 2" as a springboard to discuss how early experiences and memories shape our sense of self. They provide tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help you process your emotions in real-time and build stronger connections in your relationships. By unpacking how identity influences the...

Dr. Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera are diving into the complicatedness of emotions brought to light by the movie Inside Out 2. They discuss how core emotions like joy, sadness, and anxiety influence our daily lives and relationships. They talk about the impact of suppressing these emotions and share information about how to bring them back to the forefront to nurture genuine human connections. Tune in t...

Tera welcomes author and speaker Justin Jones-Fosu to discuss the often challenging topic of conflict in our personal and societal relationships. With election season ramping up, conflict is more prevalent than ever. Justin shares tips and frameworks to foster curiosity and empathy, encouraging listeners to see beyond their own experiences. By discussing the importance of challenging perspectives...

Elijah Runyan is back to discuss the link between our emotional and physical health. Elijah shares his personal transformation story, explaining how important it is to address emotional walls to achieve true wellness. There’s also an update on Meg's courageous battle with cancer and exploring tools like the Core Emotion Wheel and breathing exercises that can help you manage stress and enhance...

Jordan and Erika Koop are back to discuss their journey from conflict-ridden interactions to powerful emotional connection. Jordan and Erika share how the Connection Codes framework helped them manage marital struggles, open up emotionally, and create a deeply fulfilling relationship. This episode is about the power of emotional fluency and the unexpected paths to intimacy. If you’re seeking to im...

Lydia and Sebastian, the first German certified Connection Codes coaches, are here to share their journey of struggles and breakthroughs when it comes to intimacy and marriage, facilitated by their use of Connection Codes. Their experiences show the influence these tools have in fostering deeper connections and overcoming cultural and linguistic barriers. This discussion reveals how emotional tool...