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Today as I was spending time with an article I wrote called 4 Relationship Lessons From 4 Years of Marriage and I had a scary and exciting thought. I would totally do that again. That’s not to say I would fall in love with Paula (my ex-wife) again, but if the circumstances were right, I’d happily […] The post I Would Fall In Love With My Ex-Wife Again In A Heartbeat appeared first on Boodaism .

Gerald is a retired CPS worker in his late 50s — and yesterday he was also my Lyft driver. Gerald spent 28 years investigating thousands of child abuse claims and now drives for Lyft to make some extra cash. I asked him what he learned working that job for so many years — hoping to […] The post What I Believe Makes America Great appeared first on Boodaism .

I never knew how luxurious my childhood home was until I met Paula. Paula was raised in a one-room apartment in Poland during communism, I was raised in a four-bedroom house in the suburbs of Massachusetts. Here’s a picture of it. I still remember the look on Paula’s face when we she saw it for […] The post The Self-Righteousness of Minimalism and Vagabonding appeared first on Boodaism .

I’m sitting in the Amtrak lobby of Union Station in Los Angeles, about to board a 12-hour train to Oakland, California. There’s a man playing Billy Joel songs on the piano across the room, and I happily remove my headphones to enjoy his contribution. As I look to my left I see a young couple […] The post The Magic of Slowing Down appeared first on Boodaism .

Let’s imagine for a moment that you’ve fallen in love. You’re out at your favorite health food store and out of the corner of your eye you spot Pat. You and Pat lock eyes — and it’s on. That night you’re sharing your favorite Kombucha and telling Pat how you feel like your whole life […] The post The Subtle Shift That Causes Stress in Long-Term Relationships appeared first on Boodaism .

I’ve been wanderin’From coast to coast. I’ve been sleeping under the starsAnd tryin’ to make the most. Just a few possessionsI carry on my back. I’m in love with the simple lifeThere’s nothing that I lack. Still I do too much thinkin,From my point of view,I got too many tee-shirts that I know I’ll never use. I got […] The post A Minimalist Love Song [Song] appeared first on Boodaism .

I used to think being in the military caused couples to break up. Between 2005 and 2010 I was a Navy Officer stationed on two different ships in San Diego and one of the things that initially shocked me about the Navy was how common divorce was. It seemed as though meeting a sailor who hadn’t been divorced […] The post You’re Busy Because You’re Afraid to Change Your Life appeared first on Boodais...

I am a religious man. My body is my temple,My soul is my altar. My thoughts are my prayers,My mind is my humble priest. My intuition is my bible,My conviction is my faith. My devotion is my salvation,My life is my offering. I am a religion of one. The post A Religion of One [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism .

Hey bro — check this out. I’m gonna tell you how totally awesome feminism is. Okay so maybe you’re like me and your initial reaction to feminism was an eye roll and a “who gives a fuck” — I get it. Some of the ways feminism is presented can be annoying. Some feminists hate men and some […] The post Why Men Shouldn’t Be Threatened by Feminism appeared first on Boodaism .

A few months ago there was a consent scandal in my community. When I say scandal—I mean there was a long discussion on Facebook—started by one man who was angry that he had heard about some women having rapey experiences with men, and to him that wasn’t okay. And it’s not okay. My community and our […] The post Why Nuanced Conversation About Consent Is So Hard appeared first on Boodaism .

My Dad is in his mid-60s, and the rate at which his friends are getting prostate cancer is staggering. It seems as though every time I talk to him he tells me about someone else who got diagnosed. It’s become so commonplace that I started to do research, and discovered that 1 in 7 men living […] The post 5 Awesome Fucking Reasons Straight Men Should Take It Up The Ass appeared first on Boodaism .

Most of the entrepreneurs I know are workaholics. Workaholism is an addiction to being busy. It’s a constant need for more — more growth, more revenue, more scaling, and like any addiction, there is never enough. Over time it becomes an obsession, and we are driven mindlessly by the idea that somewhere in the not-so-distant future […] The post Why I Love and Hate Being Friends with Entrepreneurs a...

Here’s to all the companies I never led,Here’s to all the women I never wed. Here’s to all the kids I didn’t sire,Here’s to all the coaches I didn’t hire. Here’s to all the books I didn’t write,Here’s to all the battles I didn’t fight. Here’s to all the degrees I never got,Here’s to all the awards I […] The post An Ode to Space [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism .

When I talk to people about open relationships the first question they usually ask is “how do you deal with jealousy”? It’s a great question, because jealousy is often hard to deal with. As open relationships become more popular and couples open themselves up to new experiences, everyone wants to be that partner who’s “not […] The post How To Transform Jealousy Into Excitement appeared first on Bo...

How quickly we forget history. Lately there has been a rash of articles and videos accusing millennials of being selfish, entitled, narcissistic, lazy and having little to no attention span. They are right, and also completely wrong. That’s because millennials are all those things — selfish, lazy and entitled, but those character traits have nothing to […] The post Millennials Aren’t The Problem,...

Let’s get this out of the way first. I’m a happily divorced, ethically non-monogamous guy who thinks marriage ruins relationships — so take what I’m saying with a grain of salt. What I’m going to suggest will be wildly unpopular among “normal” people, since it goes against everything we’ve been taught to believe about marriage. Ready […] The post The Most Un-Romantic Marriage Advice Ever appeared...

The world is inside you,And I hope that’s good news. Not just joy and beauty,Or the things that you choose. There’s nothing in othersThat you don’t possess,Although there are timesYou may not confess. Every emotion,Every kind of thought,Every part of nature,There’s nothing you’re not. So if you meet someoneYou don’t want to be,Remember it’s you,You don’t […] The post The World Is Inside You [Poem]...

As a musician, sometimes live music feels like Chinese water torture, because I notice all the ways the performers fall short of my hopes and expectations. I notice the gimmicks, the lack of originality and I notice the way people phone it in instead of really being present with the audience — and it drives […] The post You’re Not a Bad Person, You Just Have Great Taste appeared first on Boodaism...

Let me see if I get this right… You don’t like that someone else is triggered because you judge their upset as trivial and meaningless. Makes sense. Then you call them out and become visibly agitated by the fact that they’re triggered. Now you’re triggered that they’re triggered. Hang on a sec… You don’t like that […] The post I’m Triggered That You’re Triggered appeared first on Boodaism .

I’m writing this on Valentine’s Day, which is also Paula’s birthday. We just finished video chatting and catching up on each other’s lives and I felt a warm sense of relief. Many of the conversations over the last six months since we broke up have been painful – they would start out okay but quickly spiral […] The post 4 Relationship Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage appeared first on Boodaism .

The more I learn about true consent, the more I understand the essential role that privilege plays in getting it right. First it’s worth defining what I mean when I say privilege, because it’s a word that gets used a lot. Privilege is an advantage granted to or had by a particular person or group […] The post Why Understanding Privilege is Essential to True Consent appeared first on Boodaism .

I consider myself a “poly” guy, which means I’m someone for whom a polyamorous lifestyle resonates with. I don’t consider myself a Tantra guy, yet I choose to spend a lot of time around people who really dig it. I just spent a month in Hawaii clearing chakras and talking sex magic with some of the […] The post Why Tantra and Polyamory Don’t Mix appeared first on Boodaism .

“One is fruitful only at the cost of being rich in contradictions.”― Friedrich Nietzsche Too often we hang on to our beliefs and decisions far beyond when they have stopped serving us, and we do it out of a misguided notion that it’s honorable to hold the same belief for a long period of time. Gandhi […] The post The Fetish of Consistency appeared first on Boodaism .

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.~ Leonardo da Vinci One of the greatest joys in my life has been letting go. Whether it was my last days as a Navy Officer, moving to a new city or even the end of a romantic relationship, letting go has always been a life experience I cherish. For the […] The post Minimalist Packing Guide: How To Travel Indefinitely With A Normal Backpack appeared first o...

There’s something so royal about going through airport security and not having to take your shoes off or take your laptop out of your bag. It’s funny how quickly we forget that this used to be the norm. Yes, I’m talking about TSA Pre-Check, and it’s glorious. As I sit here in the Hawaii sun […] The post The Purpose of My Travels appeared first on Boodaism .