Black Girl Seen

Healing our relationships with our bodies may be one of the most challenging forms of love we know. In this episode, we’re joined by Trauma + Disordered Eating/Eating Disorder Therapist Herani Argoe, LPC to explore what it means to feel “seen” in your body. We’re tackling the topic of repairing and cultivating a safe and restorative relationship with our bodies. We’ll discuss: What radical body ca...

It might be time to revisit the ways your family relationships shaped your world. While we may be familiar with family dynamics leaving us feeling unseen, we’re not always comfortable acknowledging what that means for our healing work and our needs.  In this episode, we discuss: How we heal from the experience of feeling unseen in our families of origin Four main “relational injuries” we might exp...

Many of us struggle with boundaries and even consider them as barriers to others, but what if boundaries are the foundations of the love we want? Let’s dive even deeper into boundary-setting with Dr. Ayanna Abrams, a sought-after licensed psychologist and Relationship and Boundaries expert. In this episode, we discuss boundary-setting as a vulnerability practice and how they protect our well-being...

Sometimes we hide in the one relationship type we’d never suspect: in romance. Hiding in romantic relationships can look like a variety of ways we try to stay safe, resist real intimacy, or protect from getting hurt. The problem? It doesn’t always save us from pain and disappointment, but it often blocks us from experiencing the love we want. In this episode, we discuss: How we hide in romantic re...

What happens when we hide from feelings? In this episode, we learn about the ways we hold our breath by over-valuing being “strong”, how the art of unraveling is sacred healing, and finally letting it out can help us feel seen. We discuss: What the Art of Unraveling is and why it’s so crucial to our healing The Strong Black Woman (SBW) schema is, where it comes from (hint: not from us!), and how i...

What happens when we hide from ourselves? In this episode, we learn about the ways we self-abandon, and how the art of staying can help us feel seen. We discuss: Why we self-abandon and self-neglect Offering ourselves grace for how we’ve let ourselves down How to connect the dots behind why we hide from ourselves How self-hiding perpetuates the very patterns we want to be free from And how to begi...

Sometimes, the key to having the year you hope for… is allowing yourself to be seen. By practicing vulnerability, you allow space for your needs to get met, more intimacy, and more peace by showing up as your true self. Make this year you stop hiding by opening up to new practices that once felt out of reach. In this episode: We explore how allowing yourself to be seen helps you build a life you l...

I hope you end this year feeling seen.  The end of the year can be emotional and heavy, especially if the year felt challenging. In this episode, I’m sharing a few warm words to help you remember the core of it all: you deserve your flowers for making it through this year. Whether you’re celebrating the year you just had, or grieving it, you deserve your flowers. We’ll remind ourselves of what we...

‘Tis the season for…boundaries. With many of us facing people, places, and situations we often have the luxury of avoiding—like family gatherings and run-ins with old friends—it’s becoming especially important that we beef-up our boundary-setting skills. Setting boundaries is one of the most powerful ways we practice vulnerability. We often think of boundaries as a way we put on armor, strictly fo...

Sometimes the person you need to forgive the most is you. We all make mistakes, but sometimes, we are our own worst critic and the least willing to offer ourselves the grace we truly deserve. We rarely see the best in ourselves, so feeling a sense of love, compassion, or acceptance can feel out of reach. Instead of holding ourselves hostage with guilt and repeating the trauma of hypercriticism and...

'Tis the season…for letting go. As we approach the end of another year, we sometimes start to reflect on where we are... and for some of us, this is yet another year that hasn't gone the way we'd hoped. But, instead of pushing and “trying harder”, it might be time to let go of something that’s holding you back. In this episode, we talk about: Why we sometimes feel stuck, and how “trying harder” is...

Sometimes feeling grateful is hard, and that’s okay. The holidays often ask us to position ourselves in feeling grateful, but what if we need room for grief, first? This week, we have a minisode to explore toxic gratitude and the ways we sometimes leave ourselves feeling worse when we try to feel better. Though gratitude is touted as a great tool for well-being, it sometimes ends up being a mask f...

‘Tis the season to be…lonely? In an increasingly separated world, many of us are no stranger to feeling lonely. Even when we put in the effort to spend time with others, we can still struggle with feeling lonely inside. Why? We often hide in our relationships, and we also hide from ourselves, too. Loneliness happens when we feel disconnected from self and others. When we struggle to feel seen all...

We can’t discuss relational safety without talking about safety in our own bodies. TW: This episode contains content related to eating disorders, disordered eating, body dysmorphia, and negative body image. Please take care of yourself or seek the support of a professional should you find any of these topics triggering or challenging to engage with while on a recovery journey. Learn more here . So...

For those of us who never really felt safe and who struggle to understand what safety looks like, I see you 🤎 What does emotional safety actually look like? This episode dives into the importance of emotional safety in our relationships of all kinds–friends, family, and romantic partners–and how we can actually recognize, create, and sustain safe spaces. In this episode, we’ll talk about: What sa...

We do not have to allow the fear of intimacy to get in the way of the love we deserve 🤎     Next up in the series on facing your fears, we’re talking about the Fear of Intimacy. Many of us learned that love and connection isn’t safe. We may have endured the pain of being hurt in our families, friendships, romance, and even our communities, but we can still build the tools to help us recover and r...

You don’t have to be perfect to be loved 🤎      Next up in the series on facing your fears, we’re talking about the fear of failure and the relational root beneath perfectionism. Too many of us learned that we are simply “overachievers” and that we are “hard on ourselves,” but what about when no amount of effort or accomplishments ever make you feel good enough? In this episode, we learn more abo...

Sometimes we fear the things we want the most. It’s Spooky Season, and we’re getting up close and personal with our fears. In this episode, we explore the reasons behind our fear of being seen. Even when we desire to allow ourselves to be seen, we often run back into hiding because it feels safer. We’ll learn more about the Visibility Wound , and how we can work through our fears to move towards w...

This is for the black girls who are tired of being “strong”, and want to practice vulnerability in her relationships, but don’t know where to begin. I see you. Welcome to your new start 🤎    Are you hiding? When we’ve been hurt, we find so many ways to protect ourselves. We shrink ourselves, we run away from what scares us, and we avoid what’s hard. But, what if the things that make us feel comfo...