Between the Ears

How often are you saying you should do something, but aren't? What's that all about? I believe we can inspect our language to uncover what's really going on and examining 'should' is a great place to start. Shame + Could = Should.  K and I dissect this commonly used assertion to look beneath the surface at what's really going on so we can raise our awareness of what we are communicating to bo...

K and I discuss a powerful concept we have been working with and through, personally and with others: Projection. We all do it and that probably isn't going to change anytime soon. But if we can raise our awareness of how we project in our lives, we can take action to see what is really there, not projected.  Support the show

K and I discuss coaching, how we approach it, different kinds of coaching, trainers vs. coaches, lessons learned, etc. We could probably do the next 10 podcasts just on coaching, but for your sake we won't. This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the business of changing lives.  Support the show

K and I discuss our experience taking the StrongFit seminar and coaches week, some key takeaways we found valuable, and why I am fired up to evolve BTE and the BTE Seminar. Support the show (https://www.btwntheears.com/)

This week I posted a very honest and open Instagram post about my struggles with leaving the military and how they still exist today. In this episode, K and I talk about some of them, how they relate to my pursuit of growing BTE, my desire to serve myself, my family, and others, and more. I don't know how it will be received, but I promise it is honest even though an hour long chat about this is h...

K and I discuss growth, how we can adjust our perspective towards growing, some pitfalls and challenges we might face when we care about growth and some personal struggles we face in our own growth journey. Support the show

I recently posted a construct I developed a couple years ago and folks seemed to really like it, so figured it would be cool to do a podcast episode talking about it. In this episode, we discuss the 3 types of archetypes: The Hoarder, The Old Guard, and The Student that help raise people's awareness with how they approach learning with doing. We dive into some personal experiences with each and al...

K and I discuss some lessons learned after 11 years of CrossFit affiliate ownership, training thousands of athletes and coaches, as well as our own experiences to shape where we are going. Our passion and purpose in life is to provide opportunities to make people better in their lives through fitness and mindset coaching. Our gym is an outlet for this and I think this conversation does a good job...

K and I discuss her 2019 Lake Placid Half Ironman experience this past weekend. This is an incredibly open and honest conversation where we discuss some serious challenges leading up to and during the event, the coaching discussions, practical application of mindset, and alot more. I believe this is one of the most valuable episodes recorded. Support the show (https://www.btwntheears.com/)

K and I discuss a topic we touched on last week and have been digging into in our own lives over the past month or so. What is the difference between confidence and belief? We get into it and give some personal examples of our experiences with both, how her Ironman training has brought this to the surface, and some thoughts about how to build belief and confidence. Support the show

K and I are back at it and we open up about why we skipped last week. We share some of the things we failed to do over the past few months that we know are helpful and our take on the value of "falling off the wagon."  Support the show (https://www.btwntheears.com/)

There's no episode this week. I feel compelled to hop on and let you know that, versus hide behind some 20 min bit I'm not into. Frankly, I'd be doing it for me, not you, and that's not something I'm willing to do this week. Thanks for understanding. Chat with you next week. Support the show

K is back from the CrossFit Games. We sit down and discuss her job, what makes it unique and challenging, how she has improved as a result of the work she's been doing, and observations about the CrossFit Games.  Support the show (https://www.btwntheears.com/)

Support is something we can all benefit from taking a deeper look at. I think there are nuances and pitfalls that come about when we aren't 'clear' on supporting, which takes the form of enabling, being a fixer, or just being selfish - the worst of all and the opposite of support. Are you truly supporting by being your authentic self or are you supporting for yourself?  What are some things t...

It's only appropriate to have the first guest be none other than my wife. We have shared in so much over the past 10 years that we want to share with others too.  In this episode, we talk about what we mean when we say 'improving humans' through our pursuits of BTE and Motown. That might sound like 'we know', so it's important to clear up that we don't know what improvement looks like for the...

I think widespread cynicism and general distrust has broken our system of believing. I think we've become so good, like scarily good, at knowing what we don't believe or refuse to believe, that it's rotting our ability to believe in ourselves. This is a rabbit hole of a topic, so if you want to jump in, do so with curiosity and an open mind, you might not believe how valuable that can be.  Su...

A bit of the lead-up to my Do Lectures talk and coming home. Support the show

To understand "what" the BTE Practice is, I first want to explain "why" I created it. I think this medium provides certain advantages written communication just cannot accurately relay. I stand by the feedback and believe the BTE Practice is life-changing work, if you put the work in for yourself.  The new and improved BTE Practice will begin on September 1. If you have questions, please send...

It's amazing, and scary, what grows that requires zero effort. How easily the nasty stuff can get out of hand without doing anything. If you want 'that' stuff to grow, a great tactic is to do exactly nothing. On the other hand, beautiful flowers require much more effort, intention, attention, and patience. There are no guarantees either. Just because you 'did all the right things' doesn't protect...

I'm in the world of personal development, both by my own participation and providing guidance to others. I often hear people say they want to get better at something, improve something, make a change, etc., but honestly, the stats are not good for those who actually do on their own. In this episode, I examine the fascination with the 'hack', offer a litmus test to self-assess and dive into the tho...

I recently gave a lecture and learned a tremendous amount as a result of it not going all that great. I'm fired up to get to work and use this opportunity as a way to improve, not just in presenting but in general. Some things I'll edit, change, and jettison. Some things I'll double down on and make even clearer. The thing I know for a fact is that my performance was not a failure. This is because...

I found an old 550 cord bracelet I made years ago and put it on to replace the nakedness of my wrist in absence of my (broken) watch. I didn't expect it to speak to me the way it has, which I finally heard as a result of an inaccurate interpretation at a rest stop.  Support the show

My whole life, fitness and the pursuit of improving it have been 'for' something, specifically soccer and the military. Now that I'm out of the military and my cleats have long been hung up, I have found myself asking 'what's it all for?' What is it that keeps pushing my physical and mental tolerances? I understand all the benefits of health, longevity, etc., but frankly, that's not cutting it for...

"You have to trust your guy." "What does your gut say?" If you've ever had a conversation with anyone and shared a dilemma you're facing, there's a good chance one of these two phrases was thrown your way. There is something understood about the value of your instinct and intuition, your gut. But how do we learn to trust it?  I think we first have to look at how trust is established and how w...

I love purpose. I think it's up there with breathing in order to live a fully engaged life. There is a huge emphasis on knowing and finding your 'Why'. Yes. This is a great exercise and the likes of Nietzsche and Simon Sinek have great work on the Why. 'Why', in its popularization, has come to stand on top of the podium as the ultimate question to answer. I don't agree in this hierarchy and think...