Authentic

I sit with Ashley Hayball-Heald, a previous client of mine, who is a widowed, brave woman, who let love in again after her husband died. She tells the story of how she navigated grief, kids, other people’s opinions, signs from her husband who died, and what it looks like to say yes again to love.  Ashley is the founder of Team Hayball and Find Your HOPE . She coaches widows to find their hope agai...

Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling. We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'every...

I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud. It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more. That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like m...

After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted. People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife. Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement. This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything nee...

Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other. It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one. We all know that loving someone doesn’t mea...

I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter. The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing , I must be failing. This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelle...

Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules. Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it.  We talk about: How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mix Why it’s so b...

In this episode, I take you back to a question that unraveled a lot for me: What is enough? Especially when it comes to money. A few years ago, I was chasing the magic million. I thought hitting that number would mean I’d made it as a coach. As if that was the only metric that mattered. Then I stopped and I asked what’s actually enough for me? That question cracked something wide open. I started l...

In this episode, Steve and I talk about something we’ve both played into in our relationship - repelling energy. That vibe you give off when you're fixated on what’s wrong with the other person, when you're simmering in judgment, frustration, or unmet and unvoiced expectations. And how that energy pushes away the very thing you actually want to feel with them: connection, closeness, unde...

This episode is not wrapped in a bow. It’s not a how-to. It’s not love and light. It’s not advice. It’s a letter I wrote to myself from the middle of the hormonal hurricane that is perimenopause. From the rage that comes out of nowhere. The anxiety that doesn’t make sense. The noise in my head that feels relentless. The days where I don’t feel like myself and wonder if I ever will again. I’m shari...

Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was  activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion. It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me...

There’s a version of me I’m laying to rest - the one who chased significance, importance, and recognition because deep down, she didn’t feel like she was enough without it. She worked hard to prove she mattered. She strived for impact, for relevance, for acknowledgment. And sure, she did some incredible things… but it often came from a place of needing to feel like someone, instead of already know...

In this episode, we share a really personal part of our recent family trip — visiting Auschwitz, and what that experience meant for Steve and his healing journey. This wasn’t just a tourist stop for us. It was something Steve felt deeply called to do — to stand there, to feel it, to face a piece of his history, bloodline, and to keep doing the work of processing and healing. I talk about what it l...

It’s easy to look at someone’s life online and think, “Damn, they’ve got it all sorted.” The polished posts, the reels, the programs, the podcast—it can look like there’s a whole team behind it all. In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like behind the scenes of my business. I’ve got one team member—my assistant—and the rest? I do myself. I record this podcast from home. I edit it. I...

In this episode, Steve and I open up about what it really means to be on the same team as parents—especially in the moments where we don’t fully agree, tempers are flaring, or it would be easier to throw each other under the bus because it's easier.  We talk about: What “same team” actually means to us in real, practical terms How we handle disagreements behind the scenes so we can show up un...

If you’re waiting for a breakthrough moment, a sign from the universe, or the “perfect” conditions to create change… this episode is your wake-up call. Today I share with you the actual framework I use (and teach) to create meaningful, long-lasting change. No fluff. No hype. Just reality, honesty, and the painfully simple steps we often avoid because they seem too obvious or not enough . Here’s wh...

Steve and I sit down and get real about where we’re currently at in life—what’s working, what’s not, and how we’re using the Wheel of Life to check in and recalibrate. Our wheels of life are awesome, but they're always changing. It’s about being honest with ourselves, having open conversations about what needs attention, and making small, steady shifts toward a life that feels good and ground...

There’s a version of you that came before this one. The one who didn’t listen to her intuition. Who stayed in relationships she knew weren’t right. Who kept her mouth shut to keep the peace. Who dimmed her light to make others comfortable. Who thought she had to be strong, unbothered, and bulletproof just to survive. That woman? She deserves your love. Not your shame. Not your judgment. Not your s...

It’s not always the big ruptures that create distance in a relationship. Sometimes, it’s the tiny moments. The micro-misses. The everyday ways we unknowingly make our partner feel unseen, unimportant, or left out. In this episode, Steve and I talk about the slow burn of disconnection—what we call death by a thousand cuts —and how seemingly small behaviours can add up and quietly erode closeness ov...

In this episode, I’m sharing a season of my life I’ve never forgotten—because it brought me to my knees. There was a time when my Wheel of Life was absolutely wrecked. I wasn’t taking care of my health. I had no grip on my finances. I was spiritually, emotionally, and physically burnt out—on autopilot, pretending everything was okay… until it wasn’t. Eventually, life caught up with me. I couldn’t...

Is there something you want to bring up with your partner but are holding it back?  This question has the power to crack things open. Not to break, but to deepen. In this episode, Steve and I explore why it can feel so hard to bring up the things that actually matter —the stuff that’s sitting in your heart, the niggle that keeps coming back, the truth you’ve softened or silenced to avoid tension....

You know that feeling when your heart is pulling you in a direction… and your mind is like, “Umm, what the actual fuck are you doing?” That’s the space I’m in right now. The dance between fear and trust. Between the life I know and the unknown pull that keeps whispering, “this way.” In today’s episode, I’m opening up about the kind of pull that doesn’t make logical sense, doesn’t add up on paper,...

In this episode, Steve and I sit down to share a conversation we’ve been having privately for a while now — about the importance of true support in a relationship, especially when one person is going through a season of deep inner change. Right now, Steve is in the thick of that kind of season. He’s been in deep contemplation about his life, his family, and what’s shaped him without even realising...

In this episode, I’m talking about something that’s been landing deeply for me lately… the shift into midlife — and more importantly, the shift into living the life I’ve worked so bloody hard to create. Over the last 17 years, I’ve poured energy, time, tears, grit, therapy, growth, healing, coaching, and a whole lot of “let’s go again” into building a life that’s actually in good knick. My relatio...

Steve and I were out on a hike recently, one of those soul-clearing walks where the body moves and the heart starts to open. We asked each other a simple but big question:   “If you died tomorrow, would there be anything you’d regret? Anything you wish you’d done, experienced, or seen?” It hit us both, deeper than we expected. And you know what surprised us? It wasn’t about all the things we hadn’...