We Can Do Hard Things

1. Our desperate desire to figure out: Why are we the way we are? 2. Why Abby once believed she was 100% extroverted, and the fear she uncovered that makes her think she’s not.  3. How what you think about when you see a cactus tells you a lot about your personality. 4. Why some of the best-known personality binaries are just silly – and corporately manufactured.

1. Deep dive into how it feels to not be in any of your family photos, why it happens, and how to change it.  2. A call-in question from a husband that made Amanda cry. 3. Reimagining “acts of service” and how to know whether actions belong in the “Adulting Bucket” or the “Love Bucket.” 4. Getting the kids to read over the summer went terribly, thanks for asking.

1. Five signs that you might have a boundary problem. 2. Why each of us should stop pretending we’re not a needy person. 3. How to stop arguing like a lawyer – and start communicating like a kindergartener – to get what you need.  4. How to know when to end an argument, how to exit a friendship, and how to respond to passive aggressiveness.  About Nedra: Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New Yo...

1. Tig and Stephanie’s highly effective and hilarious ways to diffuse their marital feuds. 2. Stephanie’s experience figuring out her sexuality (years after she married Tig)–and how Tig knew Stephanie was the one. 3. Why Tig’s deep in “Towanda-ing” right now–and how that affects their marriage. 4. The power of knowing what you DON’T want in your life. 5. Tig, Stephanie, Abby, and Glennon each shar...

1. Abby’s new nightly ritual of 80’s parties and Amanda’s wild adventure at a crawfish boil. 2. Glennon’s transition out of depression, and how she’s moving off “The Landing.” 3. Why our parents are so triggering – and how we can see them differently. 4. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda answer pressing Pod Squad questions. 5. Amanda pays tribute to a particular Pod Squader, Lexi – and to all women of her...

1. What is Polyamory – and how Martha, Rowan, and Karen make their relationship work.  2. How Martha felt – after years of marriage to Karen – when Karen told her she was in love with Rowan, too.  3. The hilarious moment Martha, Karen, and Rowan told their friends they were now a throuple. 4. A huge lesson for couples based on the revolutionary ways they deal with conflict, jealousy, and daily rit...

1. Why Jen believes none of us is safe from betrayal – but how she knows with certainty it will never happen to her again. 2. The useful part of unforgiveness, the worst thing about forgiveness, and how to know when it’s time to forgive.  3. Brené Brown’s advice to Jen for how to begin rebuilding brick by brick after the life you built implodes.  4. The steps Jen took to learn to trust her body fo...

1. Pod Squad Qs about co-parenting after infidelity, setting boundaries with friends, and reconciling an estranged parent relationship. 2. How to know when it’s time to leave, and whether your partner deserves to be free of you.  3. Why every problem Cheryl’s ever had has been solved by a list–and how to use her strategy.  4. Ways to be a better advice-giver, and how to keep “floating in the direc...

1. Why Cheryl chose Strayed as her last name – the only one not given to her by a man.   2. How she ruined her life when her mom died, and how we can bear the unbearable. 3. Cheryl’s greatest lesson from her 3-month hike of the PCT, and her mom’s advice she uses everyday.  4. How to make peace with our ITS – “inner terrible someone” – who lives in each of us.  5. Why and how Cheryl is now explorin...

1. The question Carson’s sister asked that made him radically reimagine his life.   2. Why Carson is having the best sex of his life. 3. How Carson received sign-off from his Mormon Bishop for his first queer date.   4. The accident that left Carson paralyzed from the chest down at 23. 5. How ableism hurts us all.   About Carson:  Carson Tueller is a coach, speaker and activist whose work provides...

1. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda share the most mortifying moments of their lives. 2. Pod Squaders’ hilarious voicemail confessions, which had Glennon, Abby, and Amanda cry-laughing in solidarity.  3. Our new go-to strategy when humiliated (it involves prosthetic penises). 4. We test our hypothesis that sharing our most embarrassing experiences makes us feel less alone.

Chelsea Handler comes to We Can Do Hard Things to talk for the first time about her breakup with Jo Koy, her definition of real love, and her commitment to never abandon herself.  About Chelsea: Chelsea Handler is a comedian, television host, best-selling author and advocate whose humor and candor have established her as one of the most celebrated voices in entertainment and pop culture. She was t...

1. How to make the first friendship move – and how to move on from a friendship with kindness and clarity.  2. The advice Reese passes down to her kids about the three types of people you meet in life.  3. Reese’s Hollywood experience as a young woman – and the solidarity she found in the Time’s Up movement. 4. How Elle Woods – in all her iconic glory – hilariously showed up while Reese was on rea...

1. How horrifying advice from a therapist led Glennon to end things with Abby–and how they reconnected. 2. The moments from past episodes that changed us–including Amanda’s new strategy to prevent her anxiety from creating relationship problems. 3. How we decide what to share publicly and what not to–and why we think the dichotomy of “sacred things” versus “private things” is dangerous.           ...

Over 15,000 Pod Squaders joined live to celebrate One Year of the Pod and discuss: 1. Why Amanda started taking meds, Glennon keeps taking meds–and why Abby might consider taking meds :) 2. The brilliant preemptive post mortem strategy to help you emotionally recover from any gathering.  3. Your frequently asked question of Abby: How she tracked down her first love connection at the Macaroni Grill...

1. The moment Natalie called Abby to invite her to be part of Angel City FC–the first majority, women-owned soccer franchise. 2. How to stop people-pleasing and learn to recognize a full body YES from inside of you. 3. Why and how Natalie shows up for big projects before she’s ready or qualified. (Dude Moves). 4. The best advice Natalie’s ever received–and why women should “Gossip Well.” 5. How Na...

1. Practical tips for guiding friends and family through your grief–and the permission slips to give yourself. 2. Why there is no such thing as grief etiquette–and how it’s less about what you say and more about what you do. 3. What it finally took for Marisa to surrender to the fact that she was not in control of her love or her grief.  4. How to integrate love and grief in order to find joy agai...

1. Sam’s life-changing strategies for (reluctantly) interacting with humans. 2. How we use humor to hide the lava of rage churning beneath our surface. 3. Sam’s friendship theory and why she doesn’t need a deep soul connection with every “lowercase f friend.” 4. Sam’s embrace of JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)–and why she genuinely believes no one else is having a better time (except maybe Abby). 5. The...

Pod Squad Family Meeting! To see each other’s rage and grief, talk about how we got here, renew our resolve to fight forward and to take tender care of each other as we do, and to share four concrete steps we can all take to join the fight for reproductive justice. Because what got us here is not going to get us out of here.

1. How Billie Jean could not live as her full authentic self until age 51. 2. The moment Billie Jean knew that Abby was not okay after her USWNT retirement.  3. How to visualize a reality that doesn’t yet exist – so you can be it, even when you don’t see it.  4. How Billie Jean numbed herself through an eating disorder and how she recovered by not being a “good girl.”  5. Why Billie Jean does not...

1. How Heidi ruined Glennon’s life with a jarring new identity–and why it’s a powerful moment for G to embrace her newfound sign. 2. How we each have a Sun, Moon, and Rising sign–and what each tells us about ourselves. 3. Heidi breaks down the 12 astrological signs–and astrology as a tool for self revelation. 4. Why we keep saying “Mercury’s in retrograde” and what the hell it means. About Heidi:...

1. Answers to fascinating sex questions from Pod Squaders–including how to get real in the bedroom after regularly faking orgasm. 2. Concrete mindfulness strategies to get out of your head and into your body, which have been proven to increase arousal and satisfaction. 3. Busting the myth about how long it should take to orgasm.  4. Why talking about sex (including fantasies!) before having sex le...

1. The shocking revelation that many women experience physical arousal but can’t reach orgasm because we are so “stuck” in our heads that we don’t even register it. 2. Glennon and Abby share about their periodic sexual droughts – and Dr. Brotto gives them (us) advice. 3. The biggest predictors of sexual problems for women – including stress/compulsive multitasking – and how to address them. 4. How...

In this beautiful conversation–in which Glennon names Cole’s book “This Here Flesh” the Next Right Book–we discuss:  1. What we learned from Cole’s insight that, “If you’re not in your body, someone else is.”  2. A mind-blowing revelation about all of our own faces that we will never stop thinking about.  3. Why the phrase “If you don’t believe you’re beautiful, no one else will” is horseshit.   4...

Abby’s former USWNT teammates–and dear friends–Ashlyn Harris and Ali Krieger are here for a double date discussing: 1. Ashlyn and Ali’s wedding, their vision for queer marriage visibility, and Glennon’s top moments of their magical day. 2. Ashlyn and Abby’s friendship–why Ashlyn pulled Abby’s final game captain’s band out of the trash and what she plans to do with it. 3. Who made the first move, w...