STFUAL - From Boy to Man to Better Husband

Most men aren’t numb—they’re emotionally untrained. In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Matthew Lowe to unpack the condition most men have never heard of—but live with daily: alexithymia —the inability to name what you’re feeling. We talk about why men explode, go quiet, avoid intimacy, or numb themselves with food, porn, anger, or withdrawal—and how emotional language isn’t weak...

What actually happens when a group of men commit to meeting every week? In this episode, I sit down with Wouter van de Velde—my co-host of the Mallorca Men’s Club —to unpack the biggest surprises, lessons, and breakthroughs we’ve seen from running our weekly men’s group. Whether you’re thinking about starting your own men’s circle, or just want to understand the power of this kind of space, we wal...

What if your biggest business mistake isn’t the strategy, the offer, or the audience… but your state? Tristan Rushworth isn’t just another startup mentor. He’s a man who’s seen how most entrepreneurs burn out—not because they lack tools, but because they never learned how to regulate their nervous system, manage comparison, or stay connected to what they actually want. In this episode, we go deep...

What happens when a man loses everything? Not just the house, the car, the business—but the respect of his wife, the trust of his kids, and the belief that he can fix it. In this quiet, powerful episode, I sit down with Rory Paquette, the host of Power of Man, to talk about the collapse of a life he built with his own two hands—and the brutal climb back from rock bottom. From working three jobs an...

Could your lowest moment be the key to your calling? Edward “Doc” Amy’s life reads like a movie—father murdered, dropped out by 13, hustling, addiction, multiple stints in prison, cleaning up pig shit in Texas heat just to survive. But somewhere in that darkness, he found something most men never do: purpose. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Doc shares how he went from the streets to the stag...

Could you be stuck in boy psychology without realising it? Dr Arne Rubinstein is one of the world’s leading experts on Rites of Passage and how modern men have been failed by society, school systems, and their own fathers. In this conversation, we unpack why most men never truly leave boyhood behind—and how to retroactively reclaim your power. In this episode, we discuss why most men feel aimless...

Have you ever been called out—not by a stranger, but by someone who knows you better than anyone? That’s what happened to me. My wife looked me in the eye and said, “I want you to be more of a man—or I’m leaving.” Iwas crushed. Confused. Angry. But deep down? She was right. In this episode, I lay out where this journey started, why this podcast exists, and the mission I’m now fully committed to: e...