Resiliently Rising Podcast

Do you keep "ruining" the good moments with your partner, pulling away, checking, or bracing just when things start to feel close? In this episode, Carrie explains why what betrayed partners call self-sabotage is almost always protection: a pattern the nervous system learned from real experience to keep you from being blindsided again. Carrie and David walk through how that protection forms, when...

  What actually happens in somatic coaching after betrayal trauma? In this bonus episode, Carrie breaks down the coaching process—from nervous system education and mapping your unique patterns, to building personalized resources, understanding felt sense, exploring protective parts, and strengthening self-trust. She also explains why healing can’t be forced into a set timeline and why the goa...

After betrayal, boundaries can feel confusing. You may make yourself smaller, say yes when your body is signaling no, absorb other people’s emotions, or shut down completely to protect yourself. In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to reconnect with your natural boundary signals. Through spatial awareness, push-and-pull movements, and grounding tou...

What happens when you want to forgive after betrayal, but you cannot even imagine how to get there? In this What You’re Wondering episode, Carrie and David explore forgiveness through the lens of betrayal trauma, faith, and nervous system healing. They unpack why forgiveness cannot be forced, how spiritual pressure can become another layer of harm, and why forgiveness is not the same as trust, rec...

In this episode, Carrie sits down with betrayal trauma therapist Lindsay Haverslew to unpack the harmful beliefs that often surround infidelity and betrayal. Together, they explore why betrayed partners are not responsible for another person’s choices, what may be happening beneath behaviors labeled as “reactive” or “controlling,” and why safety, validation, honesty, and transparency are essential...

Healing after betrayal rarely moves in a straight line, and a hard day doesn’t mean you’re back at square one. In this episode, Carrie and David talk about why progress can be so difficult to recognize, how to tell the difference between familiar pain and present-day information, and why healing is about more than simply getting triggered less. They explore different ways to measure growth—includi...

  Anger is not always the problem—it may be one of the ways your body tries to protect you. In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle practice to notice, contain, and safely move protective energy without suppressing it or letting it take over.  Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram 🌿 Resiliently Rising Circle ✨ Coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path...

In this episode of What You’re Wondering , Carrie and David answer a common question after betrayal: How do you bring back the spark when closeness, affection, or intimacy no longer feels natural? They explore why rebuilding connection has to begin with safety, not pressure, and how betrayal can change the way the body experiences affection, desire, and vulnerability. They also walk through the Go...

What happens when the person you want comfort from is also the person who caused the pain? In this episode, Carrie talks with Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind , about the painful push and pull that can happen after betrayal. They explore why you may crave closeness one moment and need distance the next, how shame and powerlessness show up, and why these reactions are not signs that somet...

 When you’re healing from betrayal trauma, finding support matters — but finding the right support matters even more. In this episode, Carrie and David unpack the difference between coaching and therapy, why betrayal trauma requires more than generic relationship advice, and what to look for in a practitioner who truly understands nervous system safety, accountability, and repair. They also s...

When your mind gets caught replaying the betrayal, searching for answers, or imagining every possible outcome, simply telling yourself to stop thinking rarely helps. In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to interrupt rumination, connect with the protective part beneath the mental spiral, and help your nervous system return to the present moment. You...

What do you do when your partner says they want to work on the marriage… but they still won’t cut contact with the person they betrayed you with? In this What You’re Wondering episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David respond to a listener whose husband is in an emotional affair and continues to ignore the no contact boundary. Together, they unpack why this feels like another bet...

In this episode, Carrie sits down with grief expert and author Claire Bidwell Smith to explore the grief that so often follows betrayal but is rarely named. Together, they discuss the loss of trust, identity, safety, and the relationship you thought you had, as well as the complicated experience of grieving someone who may still be present in your life. Claire shares how self-compassion, supportiv...

Separation after betrayal can feel terrifying, confusing, and loaded with meaning. For many couples, the word “separation” feels like the beginning of the end. But separation is not automatically a step toward divorce, and it is not automatically a step toward reconciliation.  In this episode, Carrie and David talk about what separation after betrayal trauma can look like, including in-home s...

This bonus episode is a powerful conversation between Jan Winhall and Carrie Holladay on the Embodied Dialogues Podcast. Together they explore betrayal trauma through a Felt Sense Polyvagal lens. Together, they discuss how betrayal impacts the nervous system, disrupts a person's sense of safety, and often leads to protective responses like hypervigilance, shutdown, and disconnection. Rather than f...

Ever felt a sudden rush of panic that takes over your body? You're not alone. Let's talk about what to do next. Triggers can hit us out of nowhere, sending our bodies into a frenzy. Your heart races, muscles tense, and suddenly, you’re not in the present anymore. But it's important to remember: this reaction doesn't mean you're broken. It’s just your body trying to protect you from past trauma. To...

Betrayal trauma reshapes your nervous system — and anxiety is often the loudest signal of that change. In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener struggling with constant anxiety after discovering her husband's porn addiction. Carrie explains why anxiety after betrayal isn't a flaw but a survival response, and introduces a powerful reframe: instead of asking how...

This week on the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie sits down with therapist and betrayal trauma specialist Jenae Lindsey for a powerful conversation about the hidden damage of deception, secrecy, and integrity abuse in relationships after betrayal. Together, they unpack the concept of the “secret sexual basement,” why the lies and manipulation often hurt more than the behavior itself, and how bet...

In this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself.   They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before th...

In this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead...

 In this episode, we’re talking about the painful experience of feeling like you’ve lost yourself after betrayal. We explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why survival mode can disconnect you from your own identity, and how healing often begins through small moments of reconnecting with your preferences, needs, and inner voice. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel like...

In this powerful conversation, Carrie sits down with trauma psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach   KayLee Dunn   to explore the deeper wounds betrayal creates beyond just the initial trauma. Together, they unpack how betrayal impacts identity, self-trust, reality, attachment, and agency… and why so many people feel “regulated but still lost” long after the crisis phase has passe...

In this episode, Carrie and David break down why so many relationship conflicts—especially after betrayal—feel like they go nowhere and leave both partners more hurt. Drawing from the Gottmans’ Fight Right , they explain how conflict itself isn’t the problem… it’s how we handle it that determines whether it builds connection or creates more damage. They unpack what happens in the body during an ar...

A gentle, guided somatic practice focused on healing your relationship with yourself after betrayal. This episode helps you move out of self-judgment and into compassion through simple, body-based awareness… creating small moments of connection, kindness, and internal safety that begin to rebuild self-trust from the inside out. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently R...

When the discovery is fresh, the most common question is the simplest one: where do I even begin? In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David answer that question with honesty and compassion — covering how to find the right support, why professional help needs to be betrayal-trauma-specific, how to start working with the body instead of against it, and why your job right now is safety,...