Aces Up Your Sleeve

In this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve, we are exploring the complexities of “coming out” as autistic, with a focus on the decision-making process regarding disclosure to family and medical professionals. We take the nuances of family dynamics into consideration and examine the potential risks and benefits of sharing your neurotype, as well as the importance of finding supportive medical pr...

This week is all about adult autistic meltdowns on the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast. We discuss our personal experiences with meltdowns, the differences between autistic and Borderline meltdowns, and the importance of understanding your own unique sensory triggers. We talk about the need for community support, coping strategies, and the significance of meeting basic needs to help manage overwhelmin...

This week on Aces Up Your Sleeve, we’re joined by guest Patrick Casale, LMHC, to discuss neurodivergent entrepreneurship! If you’re autistic and struggling at work, AuDHD with a million ideas and interests but aren’t sure how to start, or neurodivergent and needing a change in your career, this episode is for you. We touch on burnout, juggling friendships, the struggle of finishing a project, and...

If you're feeling helpless or hopeless right now, you're not alone- and there are things we can do (as ADHDers and autistic folks) to help make movement and change! We're answering questions this week about advocacy, activism, and volunteering in our communities. We discuss different roles we can play based on our strengths and weaknesses, ways to find places to volunteer, and the d...

How do autistic and ADHD people make romantic Valentine’s Day plans? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! Whether you’re throwing a party with friends or trying to take your partner out on a date, we’re giving our ideas on how to make it an unforgettable time. Is it the thought that counts or should you snag inspiration from movies? Join us to hear our thoughts- and l...

Are you worried you might hurt your partner’s feelings if you were to come out as ace, demi, or on the asexuality-spectrum in general? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast! We explore ways to express yourself to your partner(s) and give a strong reminder that your identity exploration is ultimately not about your partner's worth- it's about unders...

Need to brush up on your Neurodivergent Flirting Skills? Flirting can feel like a complex game with no clear rules, especially in the context of modern dating. In the latest episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we explore the nuances of flirting, how to recognize when someone is interested, the challenges of interpreting intentions, and how to approach flirting in a more effective way for a...

Whether you’re a millennial or not, you may be wondering why so many millennials are suddenly realizing they’re autistic! We attempt to answer that, as well as provide insight about autistic millennials in general and what similarities we have (if any.) Is it a Tiktok Diagnosis, a trend, or deep self-realizations? On Upping the Ante, we talk about what it was like to be parented by different gener...

We're joined this week by Kyle Rutherford, LMFT-Associate, a therapist, a partner in a neurodiverse relationship, and a proud ADHDer & HSP! He specializes in working with neurodiverse relationship constellations in Austin, TX and online for Texans. We discuss differing expectations and communication styles, when to "toss a relationship in the bin", and how to navigate tough thin...

We discussed being autistic at work in this episode! How do you move up the corporate ladder? Should you even try? What makes a good supervisor? We share our tips and tricks for supervising people, carving out roles that work with your strengths, and more! If you’ve ever wondered how autistic people supervise or manage, this episode will answer those questions. On Upping the Ante, our free bonus c...

We’re letting you in on a little known secret: Where to find autistic therapists and community! It shouldn’t be a secret but it’s tough to know where to look to find others like yourself- and us. We discuss the importance of community, tips to getting closer to other autistic therapists, and how to start a community space if you feel up to it. On our free bonus content (here on Patreon) called Upp...

For Episode 12, we're joined by B Lourenco, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, to discuss the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and its impact on parenting and relationships. We explored the nuances of PDA, the challenges faced by parents of PDA children, communication and collaboration strategies, and the importance of repair in relationships. B shares insights from her pe...

Just in time for a couple of holidays, we’re talking all about being autistic and giving & receiving gifts! If you’re someone who struggles with giving the “right” reaction to presents or with knowing what gifts to get people, you’ll find some helpful tips and tricks on this episode. We’re also giving you some ideas for how to create new traditions, accommodate yourself, and set boundaries aro...

We made it to episode 10! We've been asked to talk about how to prepare (emotionally) for an autism assessment and the results, so we're giving you our favorite tips. We also cover how to prepare yourself for potential second opinions and how to secure an affirming evaluator in the first place. If you've ever wondered if it's worth it to get diagnosed, this episode (and our Pat...

Are you ready to talk about demisexuality? We’re helping listeners explore whether or not they may be autistic, demisexual and/or kinky! We debunk the “pillar” of a romantic relationship, talk about the impacts of autistic masking on desire and connection, and explore other ways to connect intimately with people to get your needs met. If you’ve been wondering how to reconcile being on the asexuali...

Join Sabrina, Kade, and our guest Olivia Belknap, AMFT, as we discuss autistic medical challenges, medical self-advocacy, and more! Many of us are more sensitive to meds, need support conveying what we mean to providers, struggle with providers who think we’re malingering or exaggerating our experiences, and could use extra tips in navigating complex medical systems. We’re sharing our tips and tri...

In the 7th episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we discuss the complexities of Family Meal Time, especially for folks with dietary restrictions and sensory needs. We’re highlighting the importance of self-advocacy, communication, and setting boundaries to navigate family dynamics during the holidays. The conversation also touches on coping strategies for dealing with uncomfortable comments...

You may know her as the neurodivergent teen expert, but today we’re joined by Jamie Roberts, LMFT, talking about all things dating! We cover how to pick a dating app and how to deal with the exhaustion that comes with engaging on the apps, giving some tried and true tips & tricks. We also discuss how to date when you have limited time (with a focus on single parents.)  And we answer the increa...

Our fifth episode is all about navigating Competing Sensory Needs! Neurodivergent sensory needs are real and valid - so how do we support each other when ours all differ? We’ll be sharing about the importance of compromise, strategic communication, and understanding sensory needs. We go further than just different sensory needs and talk about varied “love languages” and communication needs too, pr...

We cover what autistic teens and kids can do to respond to bullying, how we handle insults, what you can do as a therapist or parent/guardian, and more! Autistic folks often get bullied and it’s hard to know how to fight back- but we need to know we’re not alone. We talk about the power of community and how to cope.  On Patreon’s Upping the Ante bonus content, we explore our own lived experience a...

It’s time for our third episode: Am I Asexual or Autistic? We’re answering some questions about how to know if you’re “asexual or just autistic” - and the answers might surprise you! We give tips on how to explore your sexuality and we normalize different ways to be sexual and engage with others. (Check out our next post here on Patreon to hear more about our journeys to figuring out we’re on the...

Oops! I did a mistake and uploaded the Upping the Ante bonus content instead of the regular episode this week, we're all fixed now but if you think you listened to this episode it's time to listen again!  Welcome to our second episode: Coping with Seasonal Transitions! We’re answering how we get through Fall, what we’re looking forward to, and how to navigate socializing as the weather c...

Check out our first episode: Autistic Baggage! That’s a literal title; today we’re exploring backpacks, purses, and plushies. We talk about the benefits of backpacks, stigma around carrying your comfort items with you in public, and the connection opportunities that come with bringing your items everywhere! Over on our Patreon we'll also be posting our Upping the Ante bonus conversation about...

Get ready, new episodes coming soon!  And remember, we want to hear from YOU! Go to neurokink.org/ayus to share your story or ask us a question which we might answer on the air!  To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on...

Get ready for a new podcast focused on autistic relationships of all kinds!  To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media ( FB , IG ) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media ( FB , IG )