You Are Not Crazy

Signs of Emotional Abuse. We discuss Anger, Contempt, Control, Blame and Gaslighting. This podcast only scratches the surface of what is Emotional Abuse. Free Copy: Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" Email me if you need support. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen,...

Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people. Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change i...

My story used to sound like this: "In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke, ‘assholes are just my type.’  But I quickly learned that THAT kind of guy would never care for me more than his friends, or the gym, and he...