Wait... Am I Toxic?

Has anyone figured out what self care looks like without needing £1M yet? We sure haven't! Join Fola & Rukiya for yet another chat about how unintentionally neglectful we Black women can be of ourselves, and how we've rediscovered what self care means to us! Follow Us: Instagram: @ ⁠⁠⁠waitamitoxic⁠⁠⁠ Twitter: @ ⁠⁠⁠waitamitoxic⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@waitamitoxic⁠⁠⁠ Fola's IG: @ ⁠⁠⁠folashade⁠⁠⁠ Fola's...

Look at us — consistent QUEENS! We’re back with another episode. Join Fola and Rukiya as we dive into everyday racism in the UK and, honestly, just have a good ol’ catch-up. Expect real talk, laughs, and the kind of honest conversation you’ve come to love. Follow Us: Instagram: @ ⁠⁠waitamitoxic⁠⁠ Twitter: @ ⁠⁠waitamitoxic⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠@waitamitoxic⁠⁠ Fola's IG: @ ⁠⁠folashade⁠⁠ Fola's Twitter: @ ⁠⁠f...

We're baaaackkk! Please excuse our oopsie in ghosting ya'll like that, we've very much missed you! Join us this week to hear the very unexciting reason for our break LOL and for a lil chat chat about money, men, and everything in between as per <3 Follow Us: Instagram: @ ⁠waitamitoxic⁠ Twitter: @ ⁠waitamitoxic⁠ TikTok: ⁠@waitamitoxic⁠ Fola's IG: @ ⁠folashade⁠ Fola's Twitter: @ ⁠fola_shade⁠ Ruki...

This week's submitter finds herself in a tricky situation with her best friend. Her best friend says that she's forgiven her for a falling out they had a few years ago, but our toxic submitter is still feeling resentment from her friend lurking! Join Fola & Rukiya to talk about forgiveness, and how not dealing with disappointment in relationships properly can often turn the tables and make you...

In this week's episode, Fola and Rukiya help a listener decide whether to take a well-deserved holiday after a tough year or save instead. They dive into the emotional side of spending and why those from less privileged backgrounds shouldn't limit what they can achieve financially in the future. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folasha...

The line between recreational weed smoker and functioning drug addict is super fine, and this week's submitter fears her boyfriend has crossed it. Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about the complex narrative around weed for Black Brits, and the sometimes overlooked side effects of cannabis use in the UK and our community. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamit...

This week's submitter has been with her online boyfriend for a year now... but the gag is, they've never met! Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about whether or not they think her friends' concerns are valid, and their views on finding love online! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ ruki...

In this episode, we dive deep into our relationship with alcohol—why we reach for it, how it shapes our social lives, and what it really means to us. We're joined by special guest Amelia Poamz, who opens up about her four month journey without drinking. Together, we unpack the highs and lows of going booze-free, question the role of alcohol in our lives, and explore how choosing not to drink can i...

Fola's gained another year of wisdom, Rukiya has started a new business called Bloom Creations and we've hit episode 134. With lots to celebrate, in this week's episode the girls have decided to give themselves a break and have a free flowing convo without any "toxicity" this week- enjoy! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola...

It's pretty much the norm to hear women complain about how awful it seems men are in today's society, but this week's submitter is concerned their disdain for men may have become more dangerous than the flippant "men are trash" rhetoric on social media. Join Fola and Rukiya to unpack this week's submitter's concerns about potentially being a femcel... Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter:...

This week’s toxic submitter is a successful Black woman in the corporate world, who is beginning to question if she can truly have it all—a thriving career and a fulfilling family life with a partner who isn’t intimidated by her success. Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into the challenges Black women face when striving to "have it all." Protect Black Women UK Website - https://protectblackwomen....

Yes, we're all worthy of love, but how many of us actually believe it? This week we forgot to do our toxic thought, whoops! But we did have an interesting conversation about our experiences with love, the great, the bad and the fugly... as well as our feelings of inferiority sometimes when it comes to receiving love. Join us for a cheeky chinwag that as always, will hopefully make you feel seen! F...

Ever heard the phrase, 'I’m not racist, I have a Black friend'? Well the same logic may just apply to colourism too! Join Fola and Rukiya as they explore the complexities of colourism, discussing how some men who befriend dark-skinned women may still hold colourist views. And together, they unpack why proximity to dark-skinned women doesn’t necessarily mean a man is free from the biases and prefer...

Does having loads of casual sex mean you're unlikely to find a partner!? This week we help our submitter out with our thoughts on the connection (or lack thereof) between our sexual activity and morals, and our desires to find a partner. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts...

Interracial couples are becoming more common, but are we truly embracing them in all their complexity? Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into this week's dilemma from a listener—a proud Nigerian woman—who is navigating concerns about having mixed-race children with her white partner. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Tw...

This week's submitter is wondering if she's wrong for being upset about a friend who she spends a lot of money on, claiming she can't afford to return the favour for her birthday. Is questioning other people's finances a losing game? Let's get into it! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG:...

In this week's episode a listener bravely shares her deepest secret—she knows her fiancé is cheating on her. Join Fola and Rukiya as they unpack the difficult realities of infidelity and explore the importance of self-respect and healing. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newt...

With a week of racist riots, someone scratching Fola's car and Rukiya sleeping 3 hours last night, do we even need a toxic submission?? We decided some random chit chat might be what we all need to keep us going this week, enjoy! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artwork...

This week's submitter shares her apprehension about influencers suddenly turning to Christ and wonders whether it's just another fad. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the importance of understanding that no journey with faith is the same, and that God is not to be gatekept. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter:...

This week's submitter is having a hard time believing their partner loves them, no matter how many times they say it. Join Fola and Rukiya to chat about how much the amount of love we feel lies within ourselves vs with our partners! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Artw...

Most of us have an ex right, but how often do you think about them and is it even a concern if you do? Join Fola and Rukiya to discuss how normal it is to think of an ex and why this week's submitter isn't necessarily still in love with her ex even if he does weigh on her mind. Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter:...

As promised, join us for a cheeky chinwag about what we think settling in a relationship actually means, the age-old debate of settling vs compromising, and some uncomfortable truths around how we think we should choose our partners! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ rukiya_newts Art...

Join Fola and Rukiya this week as they delve into the candid truth about how loneliness impacts Black women in the UK, and the importance of creating spaces where vulnerabilities can be openly shared. Tune in for an honest and empowering conversation about the taboo we call loneliness! Follow Us: Home At Last Instagram: @newhomeatlast Home At Last Website: https://www.newhomeatlast.com/ Instagram:...

This week's submitter is feeling disheartened by their (lack of) prospects for ever buying a house in this crazy climate, and thinks most of us need to accept we'll probably be renting forever at best. To talk through their concerns, we're joined by none other than Dani, founder of Home at Last to debunk all of the myths around home-buying for regular people who are clueless about their options, f...

There's no denying relationships require maintenance, but how much effort should a partner put in to ensure they're still physically attractive for their partner? Join Fola and Rukiya discuss this week's dilemma whilst they give super wise advice (we hope). Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya'...