Transparently Speaking

Send us Fan Mail From new driver’s licenses to marathon training, we share family updates alongside deeper reflections on advocacy, trans rights, and why a simple message like “You Are Loved” matters more than ever. In this episode, we catch up on big life updates—from teenagers getting their driver’s licenses to the final stretch of marathon training. But woven through these everyday milestones a...

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy reflect on the impact of the Minneapolis shooting (Aug 27, 2025) as they prepare for sending their trans kids off to a new school year. If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel free to reach out to u...

Send us Fan Mail A physician dad shares how politics are disrupting research, parenting transgender kids, and the sports debate. In this episode, Diana sits down with her husband, Arthur, a physician researcher and parent, to talk about how today’s shifting policies and headlines affect real families. Together, they cover three big themes: The ripple effects of political decisions on medical resea...

Send us Fan Mail Recorded in the first half of July, Episode 103 is a reflection of how Joy and Samantha are feeling since the Supreme Court agreed to take up the constitutionality of laws that bar transgender women and girls from participating on girls’ and women’s sports teams.  Since 2020, 27 states have banned grade school transgender girls from participating on girls sports teams.  Since this...

Send us Fan Mail What does it mean to truly be yourself in a world that often demands conformity? In this episode, Diana sits down with author, coach, and nonbinary trailblazer Jeffrey Marsh to talk about authenticity, allyship, parenting, and the emotional stamina it takes to keep showing up. From Buddhist wisdom to real-talk about crying in public, this conversation moves between laughter, refle...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Joy and Diana provide listeners an update and overview of the latest political and news stories impacting them and all transgender youth.  From US vs. Skrmetti (6.18.25 - which upheld Tennessee's law banning gender-affirming care for minors) to the announcement that the LA Children's Hospital Gender Clinic will be shutting down, to passport sex marker up...

Send us Fan Mail Speaking up for transgender youth doesn’t always mean being loud or public. In this episode, Diana and Joy explore different forms of LGBTQ advocacy, including private conversations, writing to lawmakers, and simply staying informed. They also examine subtle media bias around gender-affirming care and explain why naming misinformation is a powerful way to protect and support trans...

Send us Fan Mail In this special Pride Month episode, Diana and Joy share their third annual letter to LGBTQIA+ youth, families, and allies. In a year marked by escalating attacks on transgender and queer youth, they offer solidarity and support and speak to the fear, the grief, and the fierce love that define this moment.  Pride is more than celebration — it’s resistance, resilience, and communit...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Joy shares updates from her daughter’s recent endocrine visit—including conversations about hormone levels, breast development, and timing for potential surgeries. She also reflects on a powerful session with a legal coach that shifted how she understands disclosure, identity, and what it means to legally and medically define sex. Together, Joy and Diana explore h...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Diana receives an SOS call from Clark and cancels her commitments to travel and support him.  This episode explores Diana's approach to supporting him, and the layered frustration and fear resulting from our current sociopolitical environment.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a rev...

Send us Fan Mail From a hard-won court victory to the uncertainty of college athletics, this episode moves through triumph, fear, frustration, and hope. Joy shares the emotional journey of changing her daughter’s birth certificate—and the questions that remain about safety, outing, and the future of sports for transgender youth. Listen in as we explore what progress looks like when the path ahead...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 95 of Transparently Speaking , Diana and Joy share their response to the new federal proclamation, "National Child Abuse Prevention Month," which indicates that gender affirming care is child abuse.  They also reflect on how they are choosing to show up and resist, each in their own way.   https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/04/national-child-...

Send us Fan Mail Spring break used to mean picking a destination based on fun and weather. Now, it involves scanning state laws and planning how to stay safe in public spaces. In this episode, we talk about how political shifts are changing everyday decisions for families with transgender kids—and how we try to hold onto joy anyway. We also share two court rulings that offer real hope. If you’re t...

Send us Fan Mail Join Diana and Joy as they reflect on continued national and state level legislative efforts, specifically transgender girls in sports.  The key arguments offered by those proposing these bills are based largely on considerations of safety and fairness.  In this episode, those considerations are explored and challenged.   If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appr...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a name becomes a risk factor? In this episode, we explore the emotional toll of parenting transgender children in a time of heightened scrutiny, the delicate balance between advocacy and safety, and the exhaustion of constantly weighing the risks of visibility. How do families decide when to speak up and when to stay quiet during a child's transition? And wh...

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy share how they are navigating their anxiety associated with the current political environment.  Since the 47th President's inauguration there have been 4 Executive Orders focused on transgender people (youth especially).  In this episode, join us to hear how Diana is setting boundaries in offering support to other families and how she is finding space for joy, a...

Send us Fan Mail The latest executive order banning gender-affirming care for anyone under 19 has sent shockwaves through families with transgender children. In this episode of Transparently Speaking , Diana and Joy share their raw and honest reactions—from shock and anger to the looming fear of what comes next. How will this order impact hospitals, physicians, and the future of care for trans you...

Send us Fan Mail As the inauguration looms less than a week away, Diana and Joy reflect on their biggest fears and how they are currently thinking and preparing to face challenges.  After this recording was complete, the House Bill, "Protection of Women and Girls in Sports Act" passed 218-206; if passed into law, this legislation would amend Title IX to ban transgender girls and women fr...

Send us Fan Mail As January 20th approaches, many families with transgender children face uncertainty, fear, and the need to prepare for possible changes. In this episode, Diana and Joy discuss the steps they’ve taken to safeguard their children, including creating safe folders, updating documents, and navigating the current political climate. They also reflect on the emotional toll of recent even...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 87, Joy and Diana share key updates, including: Clark's first vote, Samanta's doctor's response to insurance denial and final decisions, navigating an inadvertent sharing of Samantha's medical procedure, and ongoing challenges with preferred names and pronouns at the Children's hospital.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d ap...

Send us Fan Mail In this heartfelt episode, Diana & Joy reflect on Diana's recent conversation with Clark from episode 83, offering an intimate look into her journey as a parent of a transgender young adult. From the wisdom Clark shared about navigating disclosure and safety to the bittersweet experience of letting go as a parent, this episode explores the complexities of growth, identity...

Send us Fan Mail Following the 2024 Presidential election, Diana and Joy reflect on the results and share insights about their families' personal reactions and responses upon learning that Trump will be president in 2025.  The discussion includes a reflection upon biggest concerns and how they are navigating next steps.  Resources mentioned include a reference to Erin Reed's "Erin i...

Send us Fan Mail In the lead-up to Election Day, Diana and Joy discuss the escalating impact of political misinformation—particularly surrounding transgender rights. With personal stories and clear-eyed insights, they explore the emotional toll of anti-trans rhetoric in media, the role of misinformation in shaping public perception, and the essential need to vote. This episode is a call to action,...

Send us Fan Mail In this special episode of Transparently Speaking , we have a first-time guest: Clark. After sharing stories about him for so long, we are excited to present Clark's own voice as he opens up about his transition journey, his identity, and his thoughts on the challenges and triumphs he’s faced. Clark reflects on his childhood, discusses navigating life as a transgender man, an...

Send us Fan Mail We're excited to invite Sophie back in Episode 82.  Join Joy and Sophie in exploring parental roles and responsibilities in communicating preferred pronouns and navigating extended family understanding (in Alex’s case, in advance of a 1:1 ten day trip with their Aunt, who doesn’t yet know Alex is nonbinary). Also, in this episode, Sophie names her (and our generation’s) chall...